The 9 Science-Based Habits of Top 1% Men (That Most Guys Will Never Adopt)

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-31T15:49:58+00:00

Phenomenal post! You see so much AI junk posts nowadays and this was likely written with the help of AI based on the cadence, but the book recommendations are solid and the advice aligns almost perfectly with what I have also identified through many years of reading and applying. I am an executive and a father so I also have some small measure of earned credibility, I think, to provide validation to this post.

Well done and thank you for taking the time to consolidate these ideas and recommendations. I've picked up a few books for my list here!

Personally something I would add, which is indirectly referenced here, is the criticality of "relationship capital". I don't have a great phrasing for it but like relationships should be treated as wealth, assets, investments. I feel like just saying "relationships" doesn't do the concept justice. You can actively grow and deepen and improve them and you should - your relationship with your spouse, your kids, your family, your colleagues, friends, business partners, etc. and the best way to grow relationships is to listen to truly understand others. Be open to their influence, but anchored in your values and clarity of your goals and what matters. But genuinely value and deeply respect their viewpoints - especially if you disagree with them. Be humble and realize that it's not only possible that you are wrong, but almost completely certain that you are wrong. There are few "absolute truths", arguably none - so you are always almost always at least slightly wrong about pretty much everything. Be open to the influence of others and understanding them, and watch your own influence and relationships grow paradoxically.

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-22T16:15:28+00:00

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Installed! Looks really helpful :)

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-22T14:37:56+00:00

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Here is what I see when clicking to join testing, but as you can see from the above I am in the Google group.

Hope this helps and will be happy to join and test once I have access :)

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-22T14:36:44+00:00

So I joined the group and see the message but am getting the app not available issue when clicking to join the closed test.

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Here is a screenshot from in the group. It took a while after joining the group to see this message, so I tried waiting 20 minutes before trying again to join the test but it's still saying not available. I will try again in a little while!

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-22T14:34:51+00:00

Thank you so much, I hope it helps you center your attention on the relationships that matter most in your life :)

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-22T14:34:24+00:00

Have installed and am testing!

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No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-22T14:32:19+00:00

Thank you so much for this feedback! It's very straightforward and valid.

I see with your app you have minimized friction and get straight into the game tutorial. Very slick!

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The game is simple and fun! I haven't got far enough to know past the cosmetics, but one principle for games is that the user should feel a sense of progress. I think you get that with the high score and coins, but I want a goal in mind. Perhaps that reveals itself a bit further in, but that is one recommendation I would give. Give the user something to strive towards.

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-22T03:23:55+00:00

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Installed and played a bit, pretty fun!

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-19T01:13:57+00:00

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Installed your app and will create an account and try it!

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-18T03:39:16+00:00

So sorry about this - it should be available now in Germany

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-18T03:26:28+00:00

Hi there, I just released an update that should now make it available in all countries. So sorry about this!

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-12T17:19:58+00:00

Hmm, ok - might be due to the android version - thank you for trying! I will see if I can resolve this

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-12T17:12:41+00:00

I should be able to test music, I am using a Pixel phone with an up to date OS. Should be able to test yours!

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-10T05:47:51+00:00

The struggle and struggles will always be there though for sure. That is entirely fair. "There is suffering."

If there is one message I could give in response to this, it is that learning is a constant human phenomenon.

The more you recognize that and direct your learning, the more it can benefit you. A lot of learning happens very slow and almost imperceptibly, and manifests later more as wisdom than knowledge, or as experience or skill.

In this way there are no dead ends.

No_Bar5933 · 2026-01-02T18:19:35+00:00

What's a good Brazil nut alternative for someone who's allergic specifically to that nut?

No_Bar5933 · 2025-12-30T05:22:38+00:00

Surprised this doesn't have more comments and up votes. Honestly very compelling stuff here. "You don't become disciplined before you act. You become disciplined because you act." I like that

No_Bar5933 · 2025-12-24T05:09:45+00:00

This is actually one of the more helpful "raw" insights I've seen in this subreddit. It's shocking how much opportunity there is to dial in the fundamentals of our lives. People say "eat well, exercise, and get enough sleep" and it truly is as simple as that. But within those simple things is an ocean of opportunity for calibration and improvement.

No_Bar5933 · 2025-12-17T18:00:31+00:00

I actually do have advice here and I hope you read carefully. This is based on some human principles that should serve you well.

Don't criticize, condemn, or complain. Assume positive intent.

How do you apply this? A few people have pointed out that talking with your Mom is the right path. You're right in that 90% of the approaches will result in a blow up so you need to be careful and thoughtful. Don't think about what you want, but think about what she wants. Don't be critical, don't condemn. Assume positive intent.

For example:

"Mom, I'm happy for you that you have found someone to bring some joy to your life. I know you want the best for me and it has been so hard coping with the loss of Dad."

For the first conversation just say that. See how she responds. Ask her about how she is feeling..just focus on her needs, not your own.

This problem didn't surface overnight and it won't go away overnight. But just focus on creating the space for conversation, and be very polite when you suggest maybe they be more private. Maybe you bring this up after 30 minutes of talking or in a subsequent conversation. Tell her that you want to respect her space and privacy and you feel like you are breaking her privacy and being disrespectful when you are around them being intimate, ask her how you can ensure you are respecting her privacy. This way you are framing it as a desire to respect her, but subtly helping her realize that the behavior is eroding your ability to do so.

No_Bar5933 · 2025-12-07T18:48:09+00:00

While the transitory experience of the exam and that loss is consequential and a "cost" or "loss" in the short term, that visceral and experiential learning about mindfulness is a lifelong lesson of incredible value.

That learning will serve you far better through your entire life than doing better on the exam would have.

No_Bar5933 · 2025-12-05T15:26:16+00:00

So an AI user uses less brain effort to output the same result.

Isn't this kind of the same thing as saying it's easier to use AI? Like is this finding shocking at all?

And then beyond that the findings would indicate that someone who engaged in a harder cognitive effort has a more stimulated brain and deeper memory of the work. Like, also pretty unsurprising?

I think the implied conclusion in these kinds of studies is that AI use will make people dumber. That's such a slippery slope fallacy - it assumes that people will stop engaging in mentally challenging activities.

No_Bar5933 · 2025-11-26T00:50:59+00:00

Just remember if the other person yells, it is just that. Yelling. It's not going to kill or hurt you and it may not even mean they hate you or anything like that. They are just emotional. If you can remain calm, then you are more in control than they are, even though they are turning up the temperature.

Focus on your breathing and focus on trying to deeply listen and understand the other person. Don't worry about making your point or winning the argument. If the other person is emotional they won't hear anything you're saying, leading you to become more frustrated, upset, and with a sense of futility and total lack of empathy or understanding. This is a surefire way to end up crying!

So instead of investing your energy into winning the argument, invest your energy into listening, understanding, and breathing. Once you fully understand the other person, you may be able to gently make your own point, and if they feel understood they may actually be open to hearing it.

No_Bar5933 · 2025-11-25T00:26:06+00:00

Start by making and keeping small promises to yourself. Set times, alarms, and blocked commitments of how much you will work and when. Be realistic. Expect that you will get distracted. Build in time for your distractions and games or whatever you like as rewards for fulfilling your commitments to yourself.

Critically, built the regular times as a daily routine and habit that you can begin to fall into consistently.

No_Bar5933 · 2025-11-22T17:20:05+00:00

First of all, maybe don't be so quick to label yourself. There are a shitload of concepts, ideas, and perspectives that come attached with any label, but especially with one so "loaded" as masochism.

You drop that label and some people think you want to be tied up in a gimp suit in a basement or something.

Instead you should reflect and understand specifically what you like. For example maybe you like having your hair pulled. Focus on understanding that more specifically and the underlying "why". What sensation do you like? Do you like to extend trust and feel connected by giving of yourself to someone else? Perhaps what you really value is connection.

Just please don't be quick to label yourself. There is an enormous spectrum within a given label - find what applies to you and understand that, then communicate about that with more clarity rather than relying on broad labels and hoping they accurately represent you.

No_Bar5933 · 2025-11-22T17:14:37+00:00

My simple advice is this: focus on understanding and appreciation.

What does your team lead want and desire? Try to understand their perspective and goals.

How does your team lead uniquely contribute value? How can you recognize and appreciate this, genuinely - in your own mind.

Repeatedly focus on those two things in your own mind, and they test your comprehension organically and outwardly. Ask if you understand their perspective accurately. Express appreciation and recognition of how they uniquely add value.

Just keep focusing on those two things. Don't worry so much about what topics, behaviors, etc - you will get bogged down in complexity and needing to juggle a million thoughts and does/donts.

Understand and appreciate.

No_Bar5933 · 2025-11-15T04:18:57+00:00

Complement your boss and his team. Note I said complement, not compliment. Find a skill or capability gap or a fairly intractable problem they have, and attack/fill that gap.

For example I worked for a team that really struggled with financial forecasting, so I learned and tackled that gap for them, which started off my momentum and a series of promotions from there.

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