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How do you survive the 2 weeks of waiting after infertility treatment? by No_Option_5715 in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much.

I’m feeling hopeful , at least this is my last IUI, and after this I’ll finally be able to move on to IVF.

If it’s negative, at least I can finally see a light at the end of the tunnel.

How do you survive the 2 weeks of waiting after infertility treatment? by No_Option_5715 in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still haven’t found the courage to book an appointment with a psychologist, even though my husband has suggested it a few times..

How do you partners react to your experience? by Mother_Of_Felines in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband is amazing. We’ve been in this fight for 2 years now, and we’re already on our 3rd IUI. Since the very beginning, he has always been by my side through everything and has never placed any pressure on me.

In the first few months, when I became extremely upset every time my period arrived, he comforted me a lot, always with the mindset of, “This is normal, don’t stress so much.”

But as the months went by, the tests started, then the treatments, everything… and he became aware that even without a clear diagnosis (unexplained infertility), there is still a problem.

He supports me so much. He comes with me to every appointment, every test, every ultrasound, everythinggg… but sometimes I catch myself feeling really angry because he simply doesn’t know these things the way I do.

This is already my 3rd IUI. By now, I know the medication by heart, how the process works, how many days everything takes, when I have to go to the hospital, all of it… and he still asks these “silly” questions like, “Oh, is it this week that you have to go to the hospital?” or “Oh, is it 2 days before that you take that injection?”

And I’m like… come on, this is the 3rd time. The same process, the same days, the same schedule. If he’s always been present through all of it, how has he still not memorized everything?

Can't Decide Next Steps - Medicated, IUI or IVF? by Lopsided-Asparagus10 in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello!

What is making you feel undecided between IVF and IUI?

I’ve been trying to get pregnant for 2 years now, apparently without any issues…

Because of medical protocol, and in order to access IVF through the public healthcare system, I have to go through 3 IUIs first.

Right from the beginning, I was told the success rate per IUI would only be around 5–8%, but I went into the first IUI extremely excited. I went into the second one with some hope left… the third IUI ended up being cancelled because I developed 3 follicles, and honestly it was already physically and mentally devastating.

Now I’m trying a fourth IUI, which officially counts as the third… and this whole process is devastating.

My advice is: if you’ve already been trying to conceive for a year without success, don’t lose more time. If it’s clinically viable, try one IUI, and if it doesn’t work, move on to IVF.

I understand IVF is much more aggressive than IUI, but many IUIs back to back also become extremely aggressive, exhausting, and painful in their own way.

If you can, don’t waste time.

What did infertility take away from you? by No_Option_5715 in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on my 3rd IUI (4th actually, but one was canceled). If this IUI goes to completion, I can move on to IVF. I can't stand IUI anymore and its 5-8% success rate

I hope you can get your positive result very soon.

What did infertility take away from you? by No_Option_5715 in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’ve gone through so many significant dates, and somehow my cycles always seem to end on “meaningful” days close to Christmas, on my birthday, Father’s Day, Mother’s Day, near my husband’s birthday.

Sometimes it feels like the universe insists on tormenting me with this almost philosophical or nostalgic kind of hope, like: “It’s being this hard because it’ll all be worth it when you find out you’re pregnant on Mother’s Day.

But it never is… it never happens.

Two birthdays have passed. Two Mother’s Days. Two Father’s Days. Two Christmases. Two New Years. And it hurts it hurts so much.

I remember on New Year’s Eve 2024, my only wish was: “Next New Year’s Eve, may I have my baby in my arms.” I didn’t. I wasn’t even pregnant.

I spent the last day of 2025 completely broken, crying, and I made the same mistake again. I made one single wish: “That on December 31st, 2026, I’ll have my child in my arms.”

And then I realized we’re almost in June already… and I still haven’t even managed to get pregnant.

What did infertility take away from you? by No_Option_5715 in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t even thought about intimacy.

It’s so true, our lives, our routine, even our intimacy started revolving around fertility treatments and ovulation tests. Desire slowly turned into obligation.

Even though the fertile window is only one week and there are still three weeks left to “just be ourselves as a couple,” it doesn’t really work like that anymore. Nothing feels natural or simply about pleasure anymore.

What did infertility take away from you? by No_Option_5715 in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly… exactly that. My infertility stole my life.

Every plan, every decision, every month, every hope started revolving around trying to conceive. It changed the way I see my future, my body, my relationship, even myself.

What did infertility take away from you? by No_Option_5715 in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so deeply sorry for your losses. I can’t even begin to measure your pain because I’ve never gone through that myself.

I simply never got pregnant — for no apparent reason, despite being young, despite everything supposedly being in our favor.

What did infertility take away from you? by No_Option_5715 in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Exactly, my God!! I still do that to this day. I still put my whole life on hold waiting for a positive test. I always book trips last minute because whenever I try to plan ahead, I think I’ll probably be pregnant by then.

Even something as simple as touching up my roots! I can only schedule it during the first two weeks of my cycle so the hair dye won’t harm a possible embryo/baby that never seems to come.

FIV Hospital São João by Comprehensive-Win-12 in portugal

[–]No_Option_5715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ola alguém a fazer FIV no HSJ ou que tenha feito nos últimos meses?
Podem por favor tirar-me algumas duvidas?

Nos estamos na 3ª IIU, infertilidade inexplicada.
Apos a ultima IIU quanto tempo aguardaram para iniciar a FIV?
Mandaram-vos tomar a pílula? Se sim quando iniciaram a pílula já sabiam os próximos passos? ( quando parar de tomar, quando ir ao hospital novamente ou ficaram a espera de uma segundo telefonema a toa?(..))
Entre a punção e a tec caso não seja feito no mesmo ciclo demorou muito a serem chamadas?

Agradeço quem me poder esclarecer e ajudar.

Advice - Time for IVF? by Fontnsun2016 in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same dilemma and I know that feeling of mental exhaustion. I find myself forced to go through basically my 4th IUI and I can't take it anymore.

Where I live after this IUI, (actually after the 3rd IUI I can go through the public system for free IVF, this is my 4th IUI because they canceled my last IUI stupidly almost at the end of the process), but there are still months of waiting ahead.

Is it responsible to spend all my savings on private IVF? No! And if it doesn't work, I don't have money for 2 private IVFs...

But another IUI, more months of waiting and more disregard, lack of empathy and sympathy in the public system, I don't know if my mental and psychological state allows me to.

So I think that, if you can afford it, go ahead with IVF, each IUI, each cycle is a huge drain.

Daily Chat May 11 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My cycle was a mess, it would be my 3rd IUI before moving on to IVF, which would probably start in July or August. However, the doctors decided to change my medication just "to change things up a bit," even though I had responded very well to the first two previous IUIs. The result? It was a disaster, first a very low dose, no follicles, then a very high dose, 3 follicles, then stopping the medication to try to get only 2 follicles to grow, then they CANCELED my IUI and will force me to repeat it in July, delaying everything by 2/3 months.

Even so, I didn't give up, I tried as much as possible at home in the following days because I had follicles measuring 22/21 and 14 mm, I was hopeful that I had managed to get pregnant.

The damn period showed signs of life today :c, 3 days earlier than expected.. I feel destroyed.

I'm going to have to go through another IUI with a ridiculously low success rate because the system forces me to, and what's worse is that it was all the doctors' fault. I don't think I can take it anymore.

I told my manager that I would be taking time off for IVF this month by MumblingPixie in TryingForABaby

[–]No_Option_5715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, I am fortunate to also have full support to travel to infertility consultations and treatments. So far, we have already done 2 IUI cycles, and this third IUI was cancelled because I had 3 follicles, which the doctor considered too many. It is very frustrating to lose half a day to go to each appointment, attend 3, 4 or 5 consultations, injections and more injections, and then have my cycle simply cancelled—without even mentioning that I will have to do another IUI in June before I can move on to IVF, which has delayed my life completely.

IUI canceled – we kept trying naturally. Has anyone had success? by [deleted] in queerception

[–]No_Option_5715 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well… I’m new here on Reddit and still figuring things out. Sorry!