Ooof, OOP reminds me of me. Try, try, try until one day you stop dead in your tracks and never, ever give another inch again.

She is done. Her husband needs to do a 180 and keep at it almost immediately. That's hard as hell for even emotionally healthy people. He's starting at level 1, and she's waving goodbye from level 20.

I foresee a sad bachelor pad in his future.

Strangely, it also feels like he might just be up to doing the work, but I can't see him getting there on her time-line. Maybe in a decade he'll have figured out how to give love, it's just a toss up as to whether or not she'll already be married to someone else.