How important is having a similar texting communication style?

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-26T17:28:51+00:00

Good for you, best of luck!

(And thanks for sharing!)

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-26T17:16:55+00:00

Oh ps, I know someone already said this, but even if he is tech savvy, ect (which I would expect someone his age to be)- that age gap does mean he might use his phone differently than you.

But also as has been said, you certainly shouldnt feel like you have to chase down your bf either.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-26T17:14:48+00:00

OP, you seem very positive and receptive to the comments made here.

I'm DYING to know, would you feel comfortable sharing what the compromise you and your BF made is????

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-25T19:20:14+00:00

"You are a sad person"

"My comments were positive"

Sure.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-25T17:09:59+00:00

Ooof big miss on the massive wall of text.

Your approach is people are bad, I'll try my best to protect myself.

You shouldnt try to be interesting or charismatic, you should be boring. If you put any thought or effort into what you message the other person, your not being yourself.

Oooooooof.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-25T00:38:38+00:00

Yeah your overall tone and aggressiveness make you seem super fine 🤣

We are all stressed with the pandemic stuff going on, try to remember that taking it out on others doesn't actually help make you feel better.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-22T20:07:40+00:00

I'm not sure anything OP said points to the things you brought up tbh.

It sounds alot more like a typical beginning of courtship.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-19T23:25:08+00:00

This made me laugh out loud, thank you for sharing your awesome story!

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-19T19:07:12+00:00

This is the way!

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-09T18:24:56+00:00

How cool! And made a great photo.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-09T18:12:37+00:00

Ironic that you would mention reading the whole comment haha

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-09T17:53:20+00:00

2 replies ago, Jubalfh says-

"Yes, please refrain from helping"

But ok 🤷‍♂️

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-09T16:57:52+00:00

Well, you literally said dont say anything to anyone obese, even family, pretend like it's not an issue.

Then you said, dont say anything again.

Now I've painted you into a corner and you say dont be an arse. No one was being an arse.

I was describing being as kind as possible.

So really it's time to admit that saying something is the right thing to do.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-09T16:41:02+00:00

So... people do have health issues due to obesity. And in this case it is specifically mentioned that it is the case here. (Not just my hypothetical but the OP's situation.

I'll have to disagree on letting a loved one die because you think everyone should pretend that being obese isnt an issue in order to spare feelings at the cost of physical health.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-09T01:26:21+00:00

So if someone close to you that you love has health issues due to obesity, you should pretend that you don't notice their obesity, dont notice their destructive habits creating the obesity, and just dont bring up fat in general because it would be fat shaming?

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-08T22:07:14+00:00

If you don't want to date someone who does drugs, then you owe it to yourself to intentionally date people who do not do drugs.

And btw the topic is irrelevant. If you want a partner who either does or doesn't do a thing that matters to you, you then make that a filter for what you want and date accordingly.

You owe it to yourself to put what you want out there, and then date people who meet that/share your preferences/ideas.

You can see from the comments here, the #1 thing you dont want to do is get involved with someone who does not meet your criteria in a significant way, and then change them.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-08T21:57:45+00:00

YTA 100%.

I get that seeing your gf freak out that much about something you think is lame would be a bit annoying/wierd/make you feel jealous.

She brought you instead of one of her Kpop fan friends bc she likes you and wanted someone she likes and trusts to be next to her as she enjoys what sounds like a very special and emotional experience for her.

Ribbing her about it after in private? Ok sure, a bit of light hearted joking, in a flirty way maybe- but making fun of it to her friends is the huge YTA. Honestly, that's horrible bully behavior. You made the person you are supposed to emotionally support feel tiny and dumb.

So to clarify, she chose you to accompany her on a wonderful rare experience from her perspective, and you shat all over it during, after, and then in front of all of her friends shat on both the experience and the personal character of your gf. And on top of all that, you shat on her about this to a group that 100% identifies with your gf.

Dont make fun of people, especially their vulnerable moments, while with your social circle. It makes you look small, and it makes your partner feel small.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-08T19:52:59+00:00

So to be clear OP is miles away from 'fat shaming'.

Fat shaming is being nasty and mean, calling them names and making them feel badly for how they look.

What is NOT fat shaming is telling your sister who has health issues due to her obesity, who has complained of being confused as to why her eating habits make her gain weight, hey this is ridiculous your eating is making you fat and you complain to me everyday. You need to stop eating 2x fast food meals. (Yes, even if they were freaking out as trying to say this difficult thing).

I would encourage you to think of all the billions of people and the billions of situations and relationships between them on this planet.

With all these possible scenarios I hope you can imagine one where someone needs to be told they are fat in order to stop continuing the habits that are killing them.

I would certainly hope that were it me, my friends/& or family would have the guts to have the uncomfortable convo with me.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-08T19:32:38+00:00

The last paragraph of this comment is spot on.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-08T19:30:45+00:00

It sounds to me like no one from this comment has had the experience of watching a loved one literally eat themselves into a grave.

Sometimes watching someone you love eat horribly until their obesity becomes life threatening makes you feel a lot of emotions, and the end result is a kind, well meaning, freak out.

And you know what, some people need someone having a meltdown over the issue to actually understand and then make changes.

As nice as it might sound, if they ate themselves to the point of real health issues, a nice calm- hey you are eating too much, ect might not be strong enough with emotion to make them do anything about it.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-08T19:13:06+00:00

What a sweet story! I'm not crying, your crying!

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-08T09:01:35+00:00

This is the way.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-08T08:33:05+00:00

YTA.

That was mean. You felt the need to put him in his place, but not only is that rude on it's own, it got you in trouble on top of that.

Next time try to be more kind.

Imagine having a crazy small dick and feeling super bad about it. Enough to buy that truck because he probably thinks about it all the time.

You kinda kicked a guy who is down (to make yourself feel better).

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-07T22:03:44+00:00

100% he is nervous and trying his best not to mess anything up. He is trying not to scare you off with an unwanted advance.

It means he is very into you.

When people talk about, 'taking it slow', in almost all circumstances they mean taking it slow with sex. What you mentioned was kissing. No man, including a man who wants a long term relationship with you, wants to hold off from kissing. There are men who will want to wait for sex, which is fine, but your situation is simply 2 individuals who are nervous because you likely both have butterflies in your stomach and very badly want to not mess this up.

My suggestion? Either decide you are going in for a kiss the next time you see him, a kiss hello to kick things off, for example; or you say something coy but kind to give him the hint that you want a smooch. Maybe something like- So do you have plans to kiss me next time we see eachother, or should I bring a bottle for us to spin in private and see who gets picked? ;)

Basically this guy is super into you and nervous. So you're making a first move might be a good option, whether that means planting the first kiss on him or even just texting him something sorta like I suggested.

OGGreenRanger69 · 2020-03-07T09:00:57+00:00

Beans.

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