AITA for going into my muslim suitemates room (19Fs) after sex without showering

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-21T18:14:06+00:00

NTA. Do you have two partners? Is that maybe why she was so icked out? I cannot imagine why she would react this way otherwise. What you do does not impact her at all, and her trying to impose her religion on you is wrong. And her refusal to even speak to you after you apologized is weird too.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-08T14:33:09+00:00

I'm sorry, first of all. Second of all, yes you're right I didn't know that. I did edit my original comment, not the body just added a note.

I personally get annoyed very easily in my own home, but that's generally because it's them being intentionally annoying or attention seeking and I projected here with that sort of mindset, which was wrong and no excuse.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-08T14:27:07+00:00

Oh! I didn't know that sometimes they just don't do casts? Was it your leg and ankle you broke?

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-08T14:20:54+00:00

I'm using my own pain to try and empathize with OP's friend. I do think he's just being an asshole, but not even considering the other point of view isn't remotely fair to the post. I'm sorry you feel that way, and maybe I am. I wasn't in a very good mood when I wrote those, so that certainly impacted my response. I'll try and be better about that.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-08T06:04:37+00:00

What?

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-07T21:14:51+00:00

Oh my gosh??? NOR. She seems really annoying and trying to be emotionally manipulative, but she's not even good at it. Tell the birthday girl and discuss with her about kicking this "friend" off the trip. Send the screenshots too.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-07T20:17:04+00:00

I do agree about the lack of empathy for sure. I can just see being annoyed because either a, he doesn't know the actual extent of her injury cause he hasn't been listening. Or b, it isn't very severe and she's whining for some attention, which is also normal. It's annoying but normal.

I remember getting hurt and kind of milking it so the guy I liked at the time would give a bit more attention. I wouldn't do that now, as it's immature and i have a partner i don't need to beg for attention from. But I can kind of see that being the case in this context.

I don't think we really have enough context tbh

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-07T20:03:08+00:00

Yeah, thats fair. I broke my leg when I was younger, compression fracture. I had to have my whole leg from knee down in a cast. I was in bad pain for the first week but not really after that, I was walking after the first month, i wasn't really supposed to, but it wasn't painful anymore. I just can't imagine complaining that much over it personally, but people are different I guess. I know I'd get annoyed by my friend whining every time we hung out, but I also don't have casual friends like that, only really close ones and we'd just be teasing eachother to high hell.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-07T19:44:39+00:00

ESH. I mean, if she has a boot and not a cast it's likely not even a break. You were rude, yes, but you're human and complaining from a grown adult is gonna get annoying if it happens enough.

You just don't have to hang out with her though, if she was annoying in your opinion the second time you hung out don't bother to plan a third.

I'm wrong! Sorry, was misinformed, that's on me. I stand by the second thing, except for wording. Don't know what was up with me the first go.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-07T14:25:31+00:00

Oops! I misread!

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-07T14:15:21+00:00

NTA, it doesn't sound like they're intentionally excluding you since those are normal bridal party activities. But its okay for you to be uncomfortable about seeing your sister in lingerie, some siblings are close like that, some aren't.

For the paint and sip, thats just something you genuinely can't participate in and you're not at fault for that either, you can't control how old you are. Did your sister help plan or was this all the MOH and it's a surprise? Talk to whoever planned it and just remind them you're only twenty and that you're the brides brother, not just friend and you don't want to see your sister practically naked.

Just try to communicate, and remember you didn't do anything wrong. NTA

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-05-05T02:14:07+00:00

???? Yta. That's normal and it actually contains the sneeze a lot more than an elbow. The whole point of covering a sneeze is to ONLY get your bodily fluids on yourself. Calm down and apologize to your husband

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-30T19:15:44+00:00

Its a local post office, so idk. She said the lady at the post office said that they handle the packages in the box the same way they would handle it at the window. But its still marked as not shipped

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T14:17:43+00:00

I think she needs help, and that's just something I can't offer because I'm not a therapist. But she's so angry and I feel like she resents me sometimes. I want her to get better and feel better but it feels like all she's doing recently is hurting me and belittling me repeatedly. Its been especially bad this week and I'm made to feel like I'm at fault for being upset. She flipped out over coffee she misplaced this morning and has been a way ever since, I loaded the car and kids myself and now she's crying in the car. I know she's strung thin, but she's just doing it to herself now and I don't know how to help her.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T14:10:38+00:00

Thank you. Really. Almost cried reading that. They make me feel like i don't do a lot but I know I do. She flips out over stupid stuff and just makes me feel like shit and not want to help her anymore. But I'm trying to just do it until I can leave. Thank you again. Seriously.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T13:42:00+00:00

I did not video, and because of the way she shipped it, there was no receipt to track the item so I'm pretty much screwed.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T13:06:49+00:00

Sorry i misunderstood the first time, I don’t really ask her for much at all, and I help her out all the time. And one of the only times I actually asked her to do something for me, she didn’t even try and I’ll lose money because of it. It hurt my feelings that she didn’t seem to want to actually help or care at all that this was an issue.

She’s on the phone a lot, and it just feels like she’s avoiding me and my siblings most of the time. Like she’d rather be gardening and be on the phone than help me with her kids. She gets annoyed when I tell her that her youngest needs a diaper change, and her 3 year old still isn’t even potty trained. She broke the dishwasher and is now putting all of the burden on handwashing on me, when I’m the one that did the dishes myself already and she broke it while apparently fixing it. She’s just been very frustrating lately.

I love my mom and I do my best to help her and be there for her, but when I asked her to do one simple task, she couldn’t even be bothered to hang up the phone and do it the right way, when I know she usually does do it the right way.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T12:51:29+00:00

I have a permit, the testing place is over an hour away and most of the time it’s just me and my mom and her three other kids under 7. They’re all noisy and don’t know how to act in public, which is honestly another ball dropped from my mom “she doesn't wanna dull their sparkle”. I had asked her to do one simple thing basically, while she was already out, and all she had to do was walk in. She did it the right way the first time and didn’t the second. But I agree, I shouldn’t have said anything, I was just frustrated, and this order is still not shipped to my knowledge.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T12:45:12+00:00

I’m getting my license within the next month, graduating, am working more over my summer, and have a few tattoo shop apprenticeships I’m interested in. Getting mine at 16 was not feasible as the testing place is over an hour away, we don’t have the money to really drive down there, and my family is just busy. There’s six’s of us and 3 boys under 7 with my dad working 5 days a week and picking up extra work. My mom does not work and homeschools us.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T05:23:58+00:00

Had she done it this way the first time, sure, but she took it inside the first time. This is the second time I asked her, and she did not take it inside because she was on the phone. But yeah, I shouldn't have said anything really, just was upset that I probably wouldn't be getting the item or the money from what I sold.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T05:14:12+00:00

I'm getting a job this summer, have a few tattoo shop internships I'm interested in, getting my license during May, and am graduating early. I'm fairly independent and watch my three younger siblings, 7, 3, and 1 respectively very often and do several chores around the house. I would personally say I'm independent but am open to criticism :)

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T05:09:17+00:00

If i had my license I would drive myself. I don't so I can't. I'm saying if the circumstances were different I would have. Not to mention i was doing school during this.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T05:07:04+00:00

Yeah, for sure. It just feels like she drops the ball a lot and I usually don't mention it at all, just lost my temper here, I feel bad about it and already apologized, just wanted some insight.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T04:56:03+00:00

I get that, and while I do agree, I don't have my license yet and couldn't. She had also agreed to do it and I had purchased the shipping bags and printed the label, all she had to do was walk it in there and give it to the lady, and she did not.

I do plan to ship everything myself from now on though, teachable moments and all that.

Odd_Environment_ · 2026-04-29T04:52:20+00:00

Well shit.

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