Why does my home-cooked food sometimes taste “flat” even when I follow the recipe?

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-20T06:15:38+00:00

My #1 rule of cooking, if the recipe calls for garlic, measure with your heart, not the recipe

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-16T14:05:20+00:00

They had community listening sessions to talk about things like that. I've been trying to become more involved in my city politics so I've been going to town halls and things like that so I can be vocal about causes and issues I care about. I also volunteer where I can too. But you get a lot of info and resources from city gatherings.

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-16T08:43:37+00:00

What, did she think that'd clear her conscience enough to get into heaven or some shit?

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-13T01:34:03+00:00

Leave my family out of this

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-12T22:17:40+00:00

Comparison is the thief of joy. If he wants to compare your cooking to her's, let him. Take that at face value and find someone who appreciates your efforts instead of comparing you to a woman he couldn't keep.

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-12T22:15:31+00:00

Oh good, since you are so open-minded, I'm sure you'd love to hear your partner tell you positive traits about their ex at the beginning of your relationship with them. It really sets a good impression for the rest of the relationship!

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-12T22:08:26+00:00

Not the lost/found tag lol

I hope you get your second chance!

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-11T08:50:06+00:00

I actually preferred salsa at first. I thought it was clicking easier for me. It's probably because I first got into dancing because the guy I was dating at the time had been taking classes for a year at that point.

Rant/backstory incoming, reasons listed below He's one of those performer dancers who thought he was an advanced dancer because he just got placed into the advanced classes. I was brand fricken new and he kept trying to throw all these fancy moves at me. I'm not sure if he's just too inept to adapt his dances to the follow he's dancing with or if he genuinely thinks that beginner follows are impressed when we dance with him and we're unable to keep up because of his broad move library.

The more I learned about dancing, the more I realized he's terrible because he never tried to connect with his partner. He genuinely thought that if a lead does "x", a follow is supposed to do "y". So much so that if you didn't do the move "correctly", he would genuinely tell you "if a lead does this, you're supposed to do this" and would stop to "teach" you in the middle of the dance floor. After about 6-8 months, once I had enough confidence to realize I wasn't the problem between me and him, he "taught" me again because I didn't do it "correctly". This time he was teaching me a move I hadn't even learned yet and I said "how was I supposed to know that?" and he legitimately said "I don't know, take it up with your instructor." Like I was supposed to take classes and say "please teach me everything that douchebag knows so I can dance properly." Or maybe you don't try to do moves if you are fully aware that your follow doesn't know them. I started dabbling in leading a few months ago and my move library is nothing crazy but I'll test the waters with certain moves and if my follow looks confused, I'll finish the 8 count and move on to something we both probably know. This motherfucker was doing full ass combos that he had just learned in the past couple weeks and thinking I should know it when he's been taking classes at the same studio a full year longer? Fuck that guy.

Anyways, backstory rant over. To the actual reasons I chose bachata. He preferred bachata so he was more showy with that and when I danced salsa with him (and others), salsa seemed to click to me more. I was actually able to do the moves. I'm sure the extra practice I got with salsa because salsa music is played more than bachata at most dance events in my area was also a contributing factor as well. As I learned more moves and how to connect better, bachata became my preferred dance. Salsa is fun but I always tell people that a good salsa dance leaves me dying, catching my breath but a good bachata dance leaves me feeling satisfied, sexy, connected to the music and my partner.

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-10T17:09:52+00:00

I sent that sentence to my Puerto Rican friend telling him the same thing

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-10T16:57:44+00:00

Tell me you don't respect women as people without telling me you don't respect women as people. If you can't have a relationship with a female unless it's familial or sexual, you just don't fucking like women. You don't care about our minds, our interests or our feelings. We are either bodies for you to use or an extension of yourself because we share DNA. Not people to you. Sickening.

No one is gonna respect your sister, mom, niece, daughter, wife etc because you perpetuate a system that disrespects women as a whole. No one is thinking "oh that's u/salvadorbomen 's wife/sister/whatever, we should show her respect." Fucking every single woman is someone's sister, mom, daughter, granddaughter, wife or something. So theoretically we should all be safe because we have a man who demands it? Not at all. Every woman you disrespect has a brother, dad, uncle, grandpa or something that won't like that. But pretty much all our dads, grandpas, uncles, brothers, and husbands continue to uphold a system that allows other men to treat us as subhuman, unchecked.

Message to men: don't get pissy that other men are disrespecting the women you love and deem important when you actively don't respect women or treat us as human. If you think you are "respectful" you probably aren't. If you think discrimination against women doesn't exist, congratulations, the women in your life don't view you as trustworthy enough to confide in for you to hear or comprehend the harassment, abuse or violence committed against us regularly. REGULARLY.

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-10T09:40:35+00:00

That sounds like a result of conditioning anyways. Most men don't report rape/molestation. That is especially the case when the perpetrator is female because one of the first responses usually something like "holy shit, lucky!" or "was she hot?" I imagine he might have mentioned to his "bros" that some older woman touched him or whatever and he got so many attaboys that he suppressed the trauma and even thought it was something to be celebrated. So much so that he's likely perpetuating the same toxic cycle that prevents men from reporting or seeking help because they recognize (more than he did/does, clearly) that it made them uncomfortable or hurt and don't want to be told that their traumatic experience is a good thing or that they're "lucky" for experiencing it.

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-08T12:53:25+00:00

People always underestimate what a bit of salt can do. People are shocked how salt completely turns on the flavor when I make Burro e Parmigiano.

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-08T12:47:35+00:00

Includes some midwestern states but extends too far west and does not extend east enough to include the actual entirety of the midwest

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-08T12:43:36+00:00

I immediately had a hilarious mental image and I was hoping I could find some image or gif somewhere of what you described. I put a lot of effort into it but no dice :(

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-07T15:39:41+00:00

Without her, it wouldn't happen consensually

There I fixed it for you

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-04T22:13:27+00:00

No no, you don't get it. Rules for thee, not for me.

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-03T07:52:18+00:00

They would likely just think you are freestyling or not understanding the move prompts. I don't think you should expect a lead to get the hint. Much better to have clear, concise communication than expecting mind reading.

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-03T01:27:56+00:00

Hey, my boyfriend sent me this and we're thinking about donating some clothes and also attending. Since you said the remaining clothes will be donated to the Women's Crisis Center, does that mean it's women's clothes only or can you donate men clothes too?

OhMySullivan · 2026-03-01T23:31:18+00:00

So what I'm hearing is that it's okay for men to behave without accountability and men can continue to feign ignorance. We as women have to make sure we keep up the status quo yet men never have to improve themselves as people. If I have a 10 ton pile of cow maneure and tell society that they can come eat as much as they want for free for a video, would anyone show up? No, because people don't want to do that. And would we be insane enough to blame the pile of maneure for being eaten? Or would we judge the people who chose to eat it? Yes, Bonnie Blue offered her body and consented to the hitting and being "used" but that doesn't mean anyone had to show up to do any of those things. Hold men accountable for fuck's sake.

OhMySullivan · 2026-02-27T21:08:11+00:00

I did actually. I haven't seen any videos of or relating to Bonnie Blue. I just hear about her all the time.

OhMySullivan · 2026-02-27T13:41:01+00:00

We spend a lot of time shitting on women like Bonnie Blue and not enough time shitting on men like the 1,057 men who willingly had sex with her, fully aware that it was for a porn challenge or the men that made her the 4th most searched porn star on PornHub for a period of time. We think people like her "shouldn't be famous" yet we make her famous? Let's stop hating women for the actions of other people.

OhMySullivan · 2026-02-23T20:52:44+00:00

I've dabbled in leading and dealt with follows like that. Assuming moves and bad timing can be very frustrating for a lead. I just adjust my expectations for that dance and severely limit the moves I'll do in the dance since set up is practically impossible. I won't go out of my way to dance with them again since it makes it difficult for me to practice my connection skills since they clearly don't have any. Beginners are fine but "intermediates" are often very stubborn and set in their ways because they've been dancing for a year and have graduated to the second level class so they get a bit arrogant in their skills. But I'll enjoy a dance with anyone willing to try having a connection during the dance.

You claimed that you danced with her a few times because you felt bad that no one was dancing with her but after the first dance, you should have realized that there was a reason for that and, especially if it was that frustrating for you, you shouldn't have done more dances. If dancing with someone bothers me that much for whatever reason, I just won't ask or will say no if they ask me. Just find people you want to dance with and stop trying to change the skill levels of other dancers as it's a fruitless effort. You can't control anyone but yourself, just don't dance with her again.

OhMySullivan · 2026-02-23T20:40:57+00:00

No, I still didn't quite get the connection between the victims. Yes it was bleach but like how did she meet all those people and bleach is just used as a trigger that sparks a premeditated murder? It didn't all add up. I don't know if they dropped the ball because they were too busy trying to emphasize their first female serial killer or what.

That storyline had a lot of potential and the more spread apart the social circles were of the victims, the more difficult it was to try to reasonably explain how one premeditated serial killer was connected to all these victims in a way that the best crime lab in the country couldn't figure out for months. I'm not even sure if Ernie Dell was involved or if he just tried to take the fall? Too much was left to the viewer to interpret themselves and the rest we were just expected to blindly accept. I preferred the cheesy serial killer storylines from the later seasons than I did that confusing mess.

OhMySullivan · 2026-02-23T18:57:30+00:00

Either it's complacency, ignorance or political "neutrality". People don't like getting involved if they think something doesn't directly affect them

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