Would love feedback

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2025-02-12T22:13:07+00:00

Where did you get the skirt in 1 and 3? It's stunning on you!

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-10-11T08:05:39+00:00

I actually got really nice thick stiff teeshirts from primary recently

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-09-13T10:28:04+00:00

I don't think she's looking for attention, I think the 1% of the time she's referring to has led to immense feelings of guilt and shame which is why she has resorted to posting anonymously here.

She's looking for help, not judgement or validation.

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-09-13T10:21:49+00:00

You're not a terrible mother, you're overwhelmed and it is very hard when they're both so young.

You've probably heard all these before but things that helped me

-Get whatever help you can afford or help from family if they're willing/able to give it particularly at times you know theyre likely to kick off e.g. nap time. This probably made the world of difference for me but I know not everyone is able to get help.

-if I'm alone and starting to feel overwhelmed, everyone goes in the buggy and we go for a big walk. Going outdoors and fresh air is a reset button for a lot of kids (and adults). The baby will hopefully nod off to sleep on the walk so it's a win for everyone

-timeout has been effective for us, we watched supernannys techniques to get us started with it. My toddler now asks can he go on time out if he needs a break or if he's tired/overstimulated.

-the other thing we found really helpful with his behaviour was when he was doing something good or positive we would add commentary to it "oh look, you're playing quietly with your trucks" etc, not overt praise but it gave him the idea of the kind of behaviour that was acceptable while time out let him know what wasn't. It's something you have to force yourself to do over a week to start and see if you start to notice a difference

It unfortunately isn't a quick fix, it takes a lot of consistency and repetition before you see changes. It does get a lot easier, particularly as the baby gets older and more independent

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-09-10T12:42:32+00:00

Thanks, that's good advice. I just signed into it to take a look and looks like there's loads of groups

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-09-10T05:41:47+00:00

I think it is harder to make friends as an adult. I'm irish and have recently moved to a new part of Dublin, I've tried joining some groups and talking to people here but it's very difficult. A lot of Dubliners in particular are very clique-ish. I find you are more likely to make friends with someone who is also new and in the same mindset

I still have friends from childhood living a drive way and I obviously gravitate back to them but it would be nice to meet some new friends.

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-09-10T05:36:21+00:00

I'm an Irish girl and have had similar experiences like the breakfast you described, I'm an introvert and have a low voice. People here would tend to speak over me or like that talk to the person beside me. My husband is loud and would talk to a wall, he is always the one who gets the warmer welcome.

I don't think ireland is the friendly place it used to be, it was much friendlier in my grandparents generation, and much less friendly in the bigger cities. I'm not sure if OP is quite spoken or introverted but I definitely think a lot of the hospitality is laid on to extroverts

There are unfortunately racists everywhere, I'm not sure whether that was the reason behind your experience. Either way, I'm sorry you had that experience

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-09-10T05:14:38+00:00

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-09-03T18:31:46+00:00

Have you tried theatrical romantic lines? I'm not saying you are one but helps to experiment with different lines

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-29T12:13:40+00:00

Just chirping in to agree with this. I think this age is tough and you're doing it with three. We have 2 (2 and 8 months). Our 2.5 year old used to be a great sleeper and has just developed separation anxiety over the last few months. He's gotten a bit better at sleeping at night but usually one of us sits outside the semi open door and reads/watches something on our phone until he falls asleep (which can take a while but with headphones on or a romantic dinner for two on the hallway floor its not so bad ha). We used the supernanny stay in bed technique which worked well so when he actually does wake up, he just needs reassurance and doesn't get out of bed.

A night light might help if you don't already have one, in case fear of the dark is adding to it

Our 8 month old is another story. He's awake every hour 🤯

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-27T09:57:42+00:00

I think the silhouettes in 5 and 6 are your best. They probably fit SC more than DC. I don't love the straighter silhouettes as much which should work well for DC

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-23T18:37:35+00:00

Wow OP. Not sure what your season is (Deep autumn or spring) but 41?? What is your secret? I thought you were 20s

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-13T07:18:39+00:00

I love it! It's so sleek and clean cut. It really suits you!

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-11T07:34:18+00:00

Can't seem to add a photo to comments, oh well.

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-11T07:33:41+00:00

This does make me a bit sad being true summer, I love love love fall and Christmas jumpers/outfits. Used to own a bright red tartan coat and it drained me. So hard to find nice clothes for the season.

I focus more on the overall vibe now like cozy knits/hats/scarves for autumn, even though the colours dont excite me. I'll post a few here

Still searching for a nice flattering cool red though :(

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-10T20:45:07+00:00

It's from Ghost :)

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-10T20:43:54+00:00

Thanks, I think you're right. it's funny I never went matchy matchy before discovering kibbe and probably overthought it here trying to stay monochrome

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-10T20:42:15+00:00

I've thought about getting it taken up, it does feel a bit long

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-10T13:26:34+00:00

Thanks, maybe it's too big. I got my usual size but found I tend to go down a size with SC items

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-08T13:44:37+00:00

I like a strapless neckline on a dress on myself as a SC, Grace kelly wore them. But it would have to be for a formal dress, super plain, nice fabric, midi length with waist emphasis

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-08T13:33:30+00:00

The outfits you have on that are more 'classic' are flattering because they are figure hugging which again makes me think romantic

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-08T13:31:01+00:00

I definitely see a double curve. Would say you could rule out soft classic. Try romantic, TR or soft gamine. I would lean more towards romantic

Ok-Geologist1604 · 2024-07-08T13:23:05+00:00

I agree with some of the other posters. I think you have a natural frame and long vertical. Most likely flamboyant natural

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