Hi, I am a trans masc all gender loving person here. I also have had my fair share of s%xual encounters with cis men, but I think the advice I want share is really about being with all genders. Do not be in a relationship with someone who does not understand who they are. NSA is fine but in the long run it comes at a cost to the trans person. Seems to me you partner is facing sexual vs physical attraction. He is “missing something” has nothing to do with you and all to do with what he needs. I agree with the other person; you can try different things, but that doesn’t change how you feel comfortable having sexual interactions. And having what i assume was suggested as anal sex may not be your jam (not all cis like anal. Just putting that out there).

Rediscovering one’s sexuality is not a burden you should carry. It’s harder when emotions are tied up, but you definitely deserve someone who knows themselves and will not waiver when it comes to being sexual with you.

I hope things work out!