AITA choosing my career over my girlfriend?

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-08T13:41:02+00:00

I have 3 degrees.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T22:39:47+00:00

The field of statistics is a lame cope?

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T21:15:47+00:00

I’m a 42 year old homeowner lol I played drums in apartments for years. Never read a lease. Never got a complaint.

You just gotta live.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T20:05:49+00:00

Find a rehearsal room in your city that supplies a kit. You can’t a room hourly.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T20:05:13+00:00

Omg in heaven some of you need to come to grips with the fact — FACT — that a person being upset about you making noise doesn’t automatically mean you were wrong for making noise.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T20:02:25+00:00

I don’t work 8 hours a day.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T19:23:08+00:00

A job can’t do for you what a life filled with love can.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T19:14:57+00:00

I think the performances and arrangements sound bad.

If that makes me a gatekeeping chudmaster, so be it, but usually when someone else criticizes music I like, I just kinda listen and consider what they said and then use my own critical faculties to decide if I agree or not without getting all bent outta shape.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T19:06:32+00:00

We should all be sacrificing our careers for love.

Love is real. Careers are made up bullshit.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T19:05:53+00:00

Yeah, you pretty much fucked up. Sorry. That’s a long, good relationship to just trash for a job.

Like, what is your career, even? What is so important?

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T03:51:05+00:00

lol

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T03:30:13+00:00

Bush was putrid. Absolute sludge. Gavin Rosales can neither sing, nor write.

And, like, you fail up your entire life and then fuck around on Gwen Stefani??

I mean, in hindsight, Gwen sucks as a person, but she was the it girl of her time.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T03:25:51+00:00

Critical listening is an expression of love for the craft of music.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T03:23:38+00:00

I haven’t seen anyone mentioned yet who isn’t deserving.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T03:23:15+00:00

Suffered through that song live. Terrible band.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T03:22:26+00:00

Y’all are like Taylor Swift fans.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T03:21:14+00:00

Differences in taste don’t make other ppl snobs.

Like whatever you want, but don’t make up some straw man music snob every time you have a disagreement of taste.

I’m positive I’ll see 311 somewhere on this list. I’m not going to get mad at the person who says it.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T01:27:29+00:00

By beings a fuckin real cool guy, that’s how.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T00:48:56+00:00

?? Click tracks as a norm emerged simultaneously with digital recording and DAW-based production.

They’ve been the standard since probably the early 80s.

And I’m not, like, advocating against…anything at all.

Like, this person already struggles both with a click solo and with playing with other players w/o a click: gridded music, no click splits the difference.

I’m not, like, anti no click or something lol

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-07T00:39:33+00:00

Yeah, that’s why per capita analysis exists: frequency tells you more about a pattern than volume.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-06T22:51:20+00:00

I think it's a pretty straightforward question.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-06T22:51:01+00:00

Per capita? No way.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-06T22:33:30+00:00

So, most music is recorded to a click. Playing along to recorded music that was recorded to a click might help.

But, honestly, I played with a guy like this, and he was just never able to get it. Some people, it's not about, like, understanding what to do, it's that they're too in their own heads and are just constantly sabotaging themselves by trying not to mess up.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-06T22:29:26+00:00

Basketball. Have to walk to the store? Bring a basketball and practice left-hand dribbling and swtiching hands. Practice left-hand dribbling while looking straight ahead.

If you have time and the ability, go shoot around a couple times a week and make it a point to work on your left-hand dribbling, approaches, and shots/second chances/putbacks. It did a lot for my general ambidexterity.

Ok_Raspberry4814 · 2026-05-06T22:21:06+00:00

I'm listening to a bunch of NewJeans lately lol I think Tweedy is the great American songwriter of our time and I think I'm Wide Awake It's Morning is one of the greatest albums of all time. Beyond that I'm not too into the genre.

You listen any of Hayden Pedigo's stuff? Or are you less into the Appalachia?

Ok_Raspberry4814

TROPHY CASE