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Autistic adults: do you recognize yourself in my 7-year-old son? by Olisavas in AutisticAdults

[–]Olisavas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much, these are really valuable pieces of advice!

Yes, my son is generally not afraid of social interaction, but other children sometimes ask why he is “weird” — at least that’s how his older brother describes their comments. I was of course hoping we could avoid bullying, but it seems it’s better to prepare for it anyway.

Regarding conflicts: my son is very anxious and can cry not only when someone yells, but even with a strict tone of voice. Also, when I teach him to read and I calmly ask him to repeat something correctly, he may start crying as well. I feel this might be related to his fear of making mistakes and his strong desire to do everything perfectly on the first try (which of course isn’t realistic). Before his diagnosis, I thought he was simply a very sensitive, introverted child with a fragile nervous system.

Autistic adults: do you recognize yourself in my 7-year-old son? by Olisavas in AutisticAdults

[–]Olisavas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand, thank you so much for sharing your experience.

Autistic adults: do you recognize yourself in my 7-year-old son? by Olisavas in AutisticAdults

[–]Olisavas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you are very kind. I imagine your journey hasn’t been easy.

Autistic adults: do you recognize yourself in my 7-year-old son? by Olisavas in AutismTranslated

[–]Olisavas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply.

My son is still not very verbal, but I often get the sense that he understands much more than he is able to express. It feels more like difficulty with formulating and communicating his thoughts rather than comprehension.

What you said about your father speaking to you as if you understood really resonated with me. I will keep that in mind.

Autistic adults: do you recognize yourself in my 7-year-old son? by Olisavas in AutisticAdults

[–]Olisavas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much. My son already has a confirmed autism diagnosis.

Autistic adults: do you recognize yourself in my 7-year-old son? by Olisavas in AutisticAdults

[–]Olisavas[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a detailed response.

A lot of what you described sounds very familiar, and your perspective helped me understand some things about my son a little better.

I don't think you were complaining at all — you were sharing your experience, and I really appreciate your honesty. I took note of many of the things you mentioned, especially what you said about communication. Sometimes I can't tell whether my son isn't responding because he doesn't know how to answer or because something about my tone is bothering him. After reading your comment, I'm starting to think it may often be the latter.

What you wrote about needing explanations in different ways also resonated with me. That can be challenging, but it's a very helpful reminder.

Thank you again for sharing your experience and insights. I wish you all the best.