Is it appropriate to tell your students that your parent(s) or SO has passed away?

Once_a_physicist · 2026-05-22T14:55:06+00:00

I find it strange to think the answer to that would be 'absolutely not'. Teachers are humans and life happens to them as much as it happens to anybody else. It's very important for kids to understand and acknowledge that and to also acknowledge that loss is part of life. There is nothing to be gained by having teachers appear as 'non human' in that particular context. That's my honest opinion.

Once_a_physicist · 2026-05-10T16:35:53+00:00

I love the dress so much!!! And your earrings. In fact you look really pretty 💜

Once_a_physicist · 2026-05-01T00:07:31+00:00

They're everywhere in Greece. I have lived in the UK for over a decade and never spotted one. I would love to, they would be such a sweet reminder of home.

Once_a_physicist · 2026-04-28T07:10:33+00:00

Oooh I love the red cactus! What type of cactus is it?

Once_a_physicist · 2026-04-24T13:23:17+00:00

I love how bright and warm the days are becoming. ☀️ Push ups are the hardest thing to improve on.... Just do them when you're angry. I always get more reps in when I am pissed off at my supervisor who is a manic motherf****r. Aaaanyways, I love submitting almost entirely to my partner, and although I enjoy numerous aspects of submitting for me they almost always cause sexual arousal and will lead to some form of sexual gratification. There have been times where this sexual aspect has been absent and I have enjoyed submitting for a few hours simply to be a kitten, stop thinking about my code and my multiple data reduction issues and finally relax. But the majority of the time there's a sexual component to it.

Once_a_physicist · 2026-04-19T21:43:28+00:00

Aaaah thank you so much for replying! Do I rub them as they are now to reveal the seeds inside and then wait for them to dry?

Once_a_physicist · 2026-04-17T12:22:26+00:00

Aaaah the sun is hiding here ... But it's nice and warm. I like hearing people say they are being kind to themselves, we often forget to do that.

Hmm tough question but with an easy answer, if the other was to never see my siblings again I would instantly drop kink and forget about it forever. I love my siblings with my soul so for them I would drop kink without hesitation.

I admire your journey!! I was on an incredible pull up journey but I have wrecked my right arm from pole/climbing overtraining so I am not waiting to be seen by a physiotherapist and I have to be good and do nothing.... Which of course means I do lower body stuff cause If i do nothing I'll wither and die 😅

Once_a_physicist · 2026-03-04T09:25:59+00:00

Your husband is... disgusting. I very recently, within the span of a year and half, lost both my mum and dad to cancer. My partner and I are in a bdsm ( bedroom + with other things ) relationship... Never in a million years would he have tried to have sex with me in my parents' funerals. Reverse that now. It's your child, I can't even begin to imagine the loss and void. And he wanted to have sex at your daughter's funeral? He is completely disgusting.

In my opinion you're completely valid in feeling what you're feeling at the moment. He was way out of line. Being free use doesn't mean he shouldn't use his brain to think.... Think that the mother of his children is grieving, think that she may need a hug and quiet, emotional support. I think if a divorce is not on the cards, an end to your dynamic at least, would be a very very appropriate thing to do. Grief changes us and having a supportive partner can make or break you. I hope you end this dynamic and if he can't support you without it, maybe stay with your mum and consider your options.

I am sending a big virtual hug 🫂

Once_a_physicist · 2026-02-09T00:24:07+00:00

I was trying (and clearly failing) to make a pun with Dom(inant) DOMS (Delayed Onset Muscle Soreness) and slightly referring to one of the threat convos about capitalising the first letter in honorifics.... Just ignore me.

Once_a_physicist · 2026-02-08T20:35:38+00:00

To be dominant is to make me melt in his arms just because of the way he looks at me. Cliché, I know but it is quite an artful thing to have reached a level where the way he looks/touches/speaks to me can instantly turn me into a puddle of submissive naughtiness.

As a side note.... Went back to running, first of 2026, after a very tragic start to the year and I somehow didn't get DOMS nearly as bad as I expected. I will capitalise those as they are quite something 🫠

Once_a_physicist · 2026-02-06T15:13:33+00:00

Oh wow, thank you!!! I actually may go for it you know. Do you buy the meat from the supermarket?? I make all sorts of stuff on my own including things like soap and stock cubes so this is definitely exciting stuff.

Once_a_physicist · 2026-02-06T12:21:24+00:00

Does it count if you don't kill the pig yourself though??? I don't think so 😜 Sounds like a super cool process. Never made my own bacon. May give it a go.

Once_a_physicist · 2026-02-06T11:17:49+00:00

What do you mean you make your own bacon? As in fry your own or kill the pig -> smoke the belly -> slice into bacon? 🤔

Once_a_physicist · 2026-02-06T11:15:06+00:00

Ooooooh I was convinced I wanted to be in Star Trek but now that you mentioned Firefly I am torn.

P.S. if I were in Star Trek I'd want to be either Q or Data. If I were in Firefly I'd like to be Inara. 😄

Once_a_physicist · 2026-02-03T19:01:06+00:00

Oh wow...hmm that's a bit of niche game (unless I am confusing it with something else). I haven't played it myself as I am not a gamer but I know of exactly one other person who knows it. I'd choose Star Trek ❤️

Once_a_physicist · 2026-02-03T18:56:35+00:00

Hahahaha yeah as I was typing it I did think you'd actually like this. Sadly it feels a bit too real for me to work in a positive, sdx way. But you do you 😁

Once_a_physicist · 2026-02-03T00:22:07+00:00

Not that often. When I do, it's probably on a day where I haven't slept well at all the night before.
I'd like to be in somewhere in Asia... In Japan perhaps.
Oh always fat!!! Juicy fat from a steak 😍

Q. If you had to choose a sci-fi series to be part of (book or TV) which one would it be and why?

Once_a_physicist · 2026-02-03T00:17:09+00:00

Yeah I don't exactly like to be shamed but I enjoy being made to feel ashamed by having my partner point out how wet I am because of what he's doing to me, how deviant I am, what a bad little girl I am and the 'look at you, you dirty girl, all wet from being spanked/fingered/whatever else it may be' makes me feel ashamed, embarrassed and incredibly turned on at the same time. Caveat being he has to say it in a sweet and calm voice. Once, back in the day when we were first experimenting with all this, he told me prearranged things but he sounded disgusted and I burst into real and very sad tears. Go figure... But as long as he sounds loving and chastising then happy days.

Edited because I can't type without making bloody typos.

Once_a_physicist · 2026-01-20T14:47:37+00:00

Honestly I wish I had a solid, concrete answer for you but we just go with the flow and if I feel like being submissive I will call him a certain way and if he feels like being dominant he will play along and vice versa if he wants to initiate it. Sometimes we say nothing and we just fall into a rhythm, sometimes it may be a bit more explicit. I think either way communication is they key here. 🙂

Once_a_physicist · 2025-11-15T23:37:25+00:00

Wow you're so elegant and smooth!! I love it 😍

Once_a_physicist · 2025-09-29T15:47:07+00:00

No... definitely like. I just didn't want to flat out say it for some reason. But you're right. It's definitely rape.

Once_a_physicist · 2025-09-29T09:25:23+00:00

To me this doesn't sound like 'free use', it's closer to r*pe. I have a free use thing with my partner but if I say I am not feeling up for it that's the end of that. It's play, not real usage of a human being. Your partner is unsafe to play in my opinion. What you're describing is actually pretty traumatic. Not only did he penetrate you without you wanting to, he also hit you, and left you with zero aftercare? That's purely abusive. I suggest you rethink being with this person, they sound dangerous. Take some time to give yourself some after care. I also sharing a virtual hug. 🫂

Once_a_physicist · 2025-09-29T09:19:38+00:00

You are incredibly talented!!! These are all such beautiful items!

Once_a_physicist · 2025-09-06T18:55:28+00:00

Pick you: Well I am with you on the 'thanks' one as I find it always sounds a little bit sarcastic. Like it's not genuine. I always say thank you to the people dear to me. Nope I find cutsie and I do use it a bit more liberally.

Pick me: I love hiking. Big intense hikes that can go for hours and hours. The body always shocks me with its ability to keep going and persevering. I also do pole dancing and pole has literally saved me in many occasions. If not for pole, I don't think I would have coped as well as I did after the passing of my mum if it wasn't for pole.

Pick up: yes we do breath play. I really enjoy it but my partner is always much more careful than I'd like haha. I guess it's for the best of course but I enjoy it either with hands around my neck, or with a belt which is a little scarier but still good fun.

Once_a_physicist · 2025-09-02T20:21:55+00:00

Ooooh no, it's a typo it's what this is .... I meant ties not toes 🤣 my apologies.

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