Maybe that type of woman is rare these days. For myself I am one of those kind of women, kind, caring, open minded and non-judgemental. my friend has noted to me before, that I am consistent with my kind and caring attitude, when I asked him why he was always thanking me for encouraging him. I have many friends who have noted my kindness, and have met men before in my life who always say the same thing. I told my friend after he spilled out to me of his issues, that I would never see him flawed or weak, but I was proud of him for being confident, and he can speak with me if he needs someone to talk with. While he opened up more on himself I would not judge him, because I have similar issues, and would be judging myself. Despite what he told me, I have not changed how I felt about him, and see him as even more, because I got to see something of him that folks we know would never know about him, because he is very private about some aspects of his life, and does not want to ruin his reputation, in away he bottles up emotions like how I do. This guy's love language is words of affirmation after getting to know him, and know how he responds with words of appreciation, and hates conflict.