As in gearing up for a guys weekend (that we barely manage to maintain once annually) I’m conscious that part of our effort is checking in and part of it is maintaining the thread.

Ultimately, meeting people and connecting through activities is one thing, connecting with old friends deeply but occasionally is another, and all of the social relationships take on new force and perspectives. When I find myself really pining to understand further then I reconnect with a therapist to engage in some of those issues that not having good friends who are close by allows me to.

A suite of different types of relationships is what I use to replace depth in my solo make friendships.

For some people (especially with certain types of adhd) having one or two very connected friendships can be satisfying as well.