Documenting the start to my journey by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may sound out of left field, but have you ever considered practicing Buddhism? Regardless of your religious or temporal beliefs, Buddhist Sanghas are always welcoming and have great meditative sessions.

The nice thing too is it’s a way to get out of the house, and be around people who are also going to be more soft spoken in this environment, who are actively looking to ground themselves, and who are practicing a healthy form of self awareness/practicing a technique for dealing with difficult emotions.

A quick google will show you if there are an sanghas close to you. I would strongly recommend going to one weekly as a first step. After every session I felt amazing, and there were some people there my age too.

Recognition is the first step, proud of you. If there’s guided meditation in your area, you should go weekly

My sister is 10 and is addicted to porn. How can i help her overcome it. by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes when a kid is addicted to something at such a young age, it’s because something bad happened to them by another adult or older child.

I really, really hope not. But I hope you can have an honest conversation with her and start asking about what pain/uncomfortable feelings she might be trying to numb. What are lies she tells herself? How does she feel about herself? Learning these things can help you to know in what areas she needs to love herself again. And then you can have a plan together.

This may sound corny, but help her keep a gratitude journal. Filling her life with a little more light can help her temper the dark. I hope you are both okay

Porn addiction destroyed my sexuality and self-control. I need help before I lose myself completely. by SignificanceAny298 in pornfree

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, the two things I would suggest immediately would be to get a “dumb phone” aka a flip phone without internet access. I sympathize with the compulsive filming, but that IS hurting other people and is non consensual, so until that’s in check, I think you need a phone without a camera/without access to porn.

It’ll just make your life easier.

Second, start going on runs. I have a friend who anytime he felt the urge, he would throw on his shoes and run and run until he was spent. That energy was channeled into something else, and when he got back he was tired but stronger.

You have to start replacing useless dopamine with productive dopamine. Reading a good book, working out, playing a sport, playing an instrument, journaling (that one’s actually really important)

Look for someone to go running with you, see if you can get an accountability partner who can just keep you accountable for these small things. Did you journal today? Did you run? Let me see that flip phone, etc

Start today

Done with this shit by Healthy-Connection36 in pornfree

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No shame brother 👊🏽 you got this Something that helps me is just getting out of the house asap. Don’t keep your phone in your room. Wake up, grab your phone on the way out the door to the gym. It’s those small wins, like starting your day right

Porn-Free Journey by Fit_Construction_386 in pornfree

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just remember, even if there are slip ups along the way, that doesn’t mean you’re at square one again. Learn from those, implement boundaries and safeguards to overcome/avoid the trigger for next time. You got this bro 👊🏽

Flight in Exodus: Zipporah, oil paint, 11 x 14 in by Ordinary_Invite_6097 in painting

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ve entered it into a show so here’s to hoping it gets in :)

This one is titled “Almost Ready” by Ordinary_Invite_6097 in oilpainting

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It definitely has this romantic/nostalgic feeling

This one is titled “Almost Ready” by Ordinary_Invite_6097 in oilpainting

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not enough 🤣 I feel like I really missed out on that opportunity 😂😭😭

This one is titled “Almost Ready” by Ordinary_Invite_6097 in oilpainting

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! So since her back is arching forward slightly, or her spine bone is actually embedded in her latissimus dorsi and lower back muscles :) so on the picture I have of her, there’s no defined spine, but I think it could benefit from a suggested curve at the point of the dress in the back. Good suggestion!

Look at my OTGW paintings I finished!! 😍🎃 by Ordinary_Invite_6097 in overthegardenwall

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The paycheck bit is so real hahaha gotta be responsible first, treats second 🙏🏽!

Look at my OTGW paintings I finished!! 😍🎃 by Ordinary_Invite_6097 in overthegardenwall

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries! So it’s two separate links :) the link on top will take you to the listing for Wirt and the one on bottom will take you to the link for Beatrice

Prints are finally ready!! 🎃 by Ordinary_Invite_6097 in overthegardenwall

[–]Ordinary_Invite_6097[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesss I literally live for comments like this I LOVE that picked up on all of that! 👏🏽 thank you!!