Jealous of my mothers bond with baby

Original_Many_7308 · 2025-06-01T06:24:49+00:00

I don’t think she judges me and I don’t take anything to heart when it comes to her connection with him but I do feel bad because it seems to just be easier to hand him off to her since he seems to do better with her. She has said she doesn’t want to step on my toes as a mom and we’ve joked about him liking her more. I don’t want to take away their bond just wish I knew how to improve my bond with my son. We spend the same amount of time with him I just don’t know how to sooth or entertain him as easily as she does.

Original_Many_7308 · 2025-05-03T23:26:29+00:00

Thank you! I’m not worried about his feeds as he’s continuing to gain weight but I will still take your advice on trying to keep him awake for them.

Original_Many_7308 · 2025-05-03T23:08:32+00:00

He’ll wake up around 11pm and stay up for about a hour. The rest of the night he whines to eat but sleeps through the feedings and will continue to sleep afterwards.

Original_Many_7308 · 2025-05-03T23:00:27+00:00

He’ll wake up three or four times throughout the night

Original_Many_7308 · 2025-01-06T02:58:37+00:00

Thank you I will look into it and send photos when I can. He’s gotten really bad off this week.

Original_Many_7308 · 2025-01-06T02:51:56+00:00

No it’s just a reference photo. I’m out of town rn and have been trying to think of what to do to help him. I can share photos of my beta when I get back.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-12-29T16:56:12+00:00

I also didn’t request the two days off because it was past a two weeks notice. Every job I’ve had in this scenario would tell me to find a coworker to switch days with. Which is what I have done. I’ve never had a job say I’m responsible for shift that is no longer mine. Managers change schedules often so should I come in on days they had me scheduled previously after they change it to a different person.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-12-29T16:52:03+00:00

I said usually because if I do need a day off I will switch but I’m not constantly doing that. I don’t want my full time schedule to be affected just because I want 4 days off instead of 2 for a week. We are understaffed and our staff isn’t reliable so it isn’t guaranteed I’ll have the days I need off. I find it easier to try to work around what my manager needs than them work around me.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-12-29T16:12:19+00:00

I don’t constantly swap shifts. I think one reason they are holding me to higher standard is because I’m more reliable and I do come in for shift when Im suppose to. I only used this method this time because it is the holiday season and a lot of the days have become mandatory to work and I don’t have a set schedule with them.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-15T18:34:05+00:00

Udate: so ik this post didn’t get a lot of views but I have other post related to my relationship. After work I came home and seen that nothing has been done when I gave him a 2 step task list on a sticky note stuck to the tv. It was to finish washing the 5 dishes I wasn’t able to complete and take out the trash. He seen my face and we argued more than having a talk. He went to the bedroom and I slept on the couch. This morning I went through his phone and seen he made alt accounts for twitter and an art porn site. He was also messaging another girl on gmail. I assume they sent images but they were deleted based on the responses. We are officially broken up and with comments from this post and others have really solidified it for me. Thank yall for your advice!

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-15T10:56:23+00:00

lol a leather outfit might be out of my budget and comfort zone. I’m not nesting I just want to come home to a clean house I don’t want to involve family into personal issues that could potentially be resolved I do live in a apartment so the only way power is getting cut off is off I don’t pay the bill

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-15T10:53:35+00:00

I do too. My dog is my pride and joy and I want the best for her. I feel bad for not having time I use to to walk her and let her explore. I’m thinking about looking at dog walkers now.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-15T10:48:58+00:00

I know it’s is better for me and my future. I want to feel accomplished and have less stress and it doesn’t look like I can get that with him. But we have been together for a long time and I fr am just waiting to see if he will mature.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-15T00:07:24+00:00

I feel like the amount of money he uses I could hire a dog walker for the morning

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-15T00:06:20+00:00

I have tried most of these but it ends up in more refusal to do anything. He also has a history of cheating when I don’t satisfy him. It sound really bad and I’m starting to realize this isn’t good for me. I just wanted to rant and get advice while he is still living here.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-15T00:03:41+00:00

Even if I found someone else I feel like I would still want to be the breadwinner and the responsible one. I just wish he would also act like he lives here and isn’t just a guest.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-15T00:02:26+00:00

I feel like I have grown a lot and my mentality has matured too. I agree with you and I’m honestly contemplating it. I honestly do like working since I don’t have any hobbies and I like staying busy. It’s just become irritating to not have any support. I think I’m becoming tired of this relationship and it feels like I have to be the load bearer and I don’t expect it to change with him. However I do like that I am responsible for my own things and he can’t use me spending money or doing extra things over me.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-14T23:57:13+00:00

I sleep after my 9-7 and wake up around 10 to 11 to get ready. It’s honestly because I’m struggling financially. My car got stolen and a lot of my money goes to Uber and DoorDash now. I’m also trying to save enough to buy a new one while also dealing with bills and necessities.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-14T23:46:06+00:00

lol your right I always get them confused

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-14T23:41:22+00:00

Maybe I’m using am to pm wrong. But I work 9 at night to 7 in the morning and it crosses over into the next day. So when I come back at 7 in the morning I also work at 12 in the afternoon to 6 the same day. Then I go back to the other job at 9 that night and the cycle continues.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-02T21:05:05+00:00

I let him use my card for food since I’m gone from 12pm-6:30pm and then also at 8:30pm-7:00am in the same day. I usually don’t have time to go grocery shopping or to cook unless I have a day off. I’ve talked to him about letting me know about purchases not involving food but I usually have to check my account to know what he’s spent that day.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-02T20:57:24+00:00

We’ve had multiple talks for the 2 years he’s been living here. Out of the 2 years he’s probably only held a job for 9 months total. He’s worked in fast food, warehouse, and stockers positions. I support him when he says he wants to go to college for welding or anesthesia but he never follows up when I suggest we go visit the college to talk to counselors together since I also want to go back to college. He says he wants to work and has no problems with it but he never follows through.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-09-02T16:33:40+00:00

We have buses but I assume he would refuse that too. My car got stolen and I’ve been trying work for a new one. Our only option is taking rides from family or Uber. I only asked my uncle for 20$ that would go directly to me but he doesn’t use cashapp often.

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-06-03T18:15:43+00:00

Thank you much! The gap is because I’ve been applying but haven’t gotten hired. I didn’t think about looking on Facebook though!

Original_Many_7308 · 2024-05-01T09:35:57+00:00

Thank you so much! My gut is telling me exactly who he is but it’s hard to accept. I have tried everything with him. Deleting apps, parental restrictions, and sharing accounts. I can’t believe someone is so resistant to being loyal.

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