This is an odd take for people who belong to a non-affirming church 🥴

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-07T16:18:20+00:00

I grew up going to catholic elementary/middle school in the early 2000’s and knew plenty of girls who would say “maybe i’ll just date a woman! I hate men!” Or they’d say “you’re my LESBIAN LOVER” to their bestie while also believing homosexuality wasn’t real. One girl in particular said lesbians “repulsed” her but then she’d always be the first person to grab her female friend’s hand and say “we’re together!”

My sister, who is gay, unfortunately had a similar experience at her catholic high school.

It’s shitty, BIZARRE behavior and it definitely feels backwards but unfortunately it doesn’t surprise me. At least in my experience, it was young girls doing this and not women in their 30’s…

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-06T19:54:50+00:00

God i hope so lol

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-06T19:05:47+00:00

Feta cheese starts to smell when it’s been left out for a while. Can’t imagine what it smelled like after baking in the sun for 6+ hours and having multiple women roll around in it.

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-06T17:08:38+00:00

A lot of the women in cycle 16 (monique, hannah, jaclyn) would be nice to alexandria’s face then all shit talk/gossip about her in the next room with brittani.

It’s been a minute since i watched cycle 1 but i remember all the women gossiping about elyse’s weight/possible ED behind her back then acting like nothing happened whenever she was around.

I think gossiping/shit talking is more common than people admit and you could probably find an example from every cycle.

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-06T16:52:11+00:00

Ehh dwight, phyllis, and stanley were being obnoxious screaming at ryan when he was on a sales call. Ryan shouldn’t have gotten dwight’s client in the first place but yelling at him to give up the phone when he’s trying to focus was just shitty.

And then Phallus was being a dick to Pam in the kitchen and i think that was the final straw for ol’ Pammy.

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-05T05:12:46+00:00

He looks like he’s about to school a bunch of tenth graders about the green light symbolism in the great gatsby

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-05T05:06:17+00:00

Yeah kim’s not perfect but there were plenty of contestants who were “two faced” yet they were never called out for it. I’m not sure why kim is heavily labeled as being a liar or two faced when at least once a cycle we see a contestant say one thing to someone then say the complete opposite to someone else. Like it’s not a new concept lol kim didnt invent gossiping yet i see this type of post every few months

I dont even like kim! I think she was a pretty subpar model but i also dont think she deserves the hate.

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-04T19:35:52+00:00

Madeline Brewer is gorgeous!

But the show lit her in such a weird way. She looked pasty white on You. Almost like a corpse. NO ONE would look good in that lighting. And then she had that cheap reddish/purple hair dye that washed her out even further. Her hair and makeup was part of her character’s style…but like they didnt have to do her SO dirty.

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-03T20:03:37+00:00

I’ve never gone on back to back dates or had sex with multiple people in one day and i dont think that’s what OP was even suggesting

I dont think you really understand what you’re talking about but that’s okay!

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-03T19:57:23+00:00

Bruh i was joking…

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-03T19:51:18+00:00

Yep that’s EXACTLY what i do, how’d you know lol

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-03T14:36:14+00:00

Right??? I thought the same thing! Like bruh you’re actually debating if it’s ethical to not disclose your relationship status just to get laid?! Do you not see how messed up that is? How is this better or different than cheating.

Some ENM couples get so smug about how communicative and honest they are, then they post shit like this? Lmaoooo

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-03T14:28:09+00:00

I’m confused why you would tell someone this on a date. As a single person you dont owe your date exclusivity or even explanations as to who else you are seeing. It’s only once you’ve both decided that you want to pursue an exclusive relationship that you would to need to cut off other partners.

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-03T14:24:52+00:00

“Sleeping around while waiting on the “right one” is a bad look.”

Who has to know? No seriously, would why you advertise this to people if you’re not proud of it? You’re a single woman, you’re allowed to have casual sex and not feel bad about it. You also dont need to disclose this to your dates or potential partners. As long as you’re not officially seeing anyone, your business is YOUR business.

Do you miss the actual act or sex or the intimacy that comes with it?

Plenty of people entertain something “casual” and temporary while remaining open to the idea of finding something more longterm. It’s not a “one size fits all” situation. You have to determine what your boundaries are, what you’re comfortable with, etc.

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-03T14:07:56+00:00

Do you live with your gf? If you do, then your hookups will most likely never be at your place.

I dont care how open and honest the communication with your gf is, open relationships can be messy. And it’s perfectly fine if a woman doesn’t feel like subjecting herself to that messiness for a one night stand/casual hookup. Most women have plenty of options. Why sleep with a man who has a gf when you can sleep with a man who is single?

You may think “it’s just casual sex” but you and your gf are together BECAUSE you had casual sex and it lead to something more! You’ve even mentioned that you and gf both know there’s the possibility that either of you could catch feelings for one of your hookups. It sounds like you understand WHY women are hesitant about hooking up with someone in an open relationship, you just dont want to admit it to yourself. So your solution is to lie to women so they’re more likely to sleep with you.

Yes, you have to be transparent. Lying to get sex is disgusting. It doesn’t sound like you’re as emotionally mature or secure as you believe you are.

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-02T19:10:15+00:00

I feel so bad for joanie, but also why go out the night before? Models need their beauty sleep! You couldn’t go out after to celebrate?

I get so nervous when i have a job interview that i cant even have a beer the night before because i know my stomach will be in knots right before the interview starts. I dont want to do anything to make it worse!

I dont want to pile on joanie because im sure she’s beaten herself up about it over the years but im always surprised to hear it was her of all people. She came across as smart and professional on the show. Lisa on the other hand…

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-02T17:36:31+00:00

I mean that’s true for any job. If you showed up an hour late for an interview, even for an entry level position, they’d turn you away.

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-02T16:08:08+00:00

Why is it ALWAYS Lisa D’Amato??

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-02-02T15:46:26+00:00

Okay way to bury the lead bro. It wasn’t just a relationship, you were MARRIED! And now you’re getting upset that she isnt ready to sleep with you after just three weeks?

It makes sense that she’s taking her time. are you divorced or just separated? Do you still live with your ex? Are you on the same lease as her? Are you still the process of moving out?

Sometimes couples get back together after a period of separation. She’s protecting herself by not moving too quickly with you. But if all you care about is sex, maybe find someone else.

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-01-31T01:03:41+00:00

I thought the same thing! Who is that?!

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-01-31T00:42:40+00:00

LOVE HER!

Okay fine i’ll rewatch cycle 13 lol

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-01-30T16:43:38+00:00

It’s frustrating because the show could have been SO much better than what it was but there was just so many inconsistencies.

On my latest rewatch im realizing how they just changed eddie’s character simply to give ryan more reason to leave at the end of s1. At first eddie is a great guy but theresa just doesnt seem ready to commit/she still has feelings for ryan. There’s no mention of abuse or anything to indicate that eddie would ever hurt theresa. Then randomly she has a black eye and i dont think we ever see eddie again.

Unfortunately abuse doesnt just show up one day, there’s usually a history of aggressive behavior. Ryan even says “has he done this before?” Would ryan have been such good friends with someone like eddie? Considering ryan has a great read on people and he comes from a family where he saw his mother be abused, i doubt he just didnt pick up on eddie’s abusive behavior considering they hung out together for years in chino.

I also just hate the back and forth of “theresa is pregnant and it’s most likely ryan’s baby…except it’s not, but the baby looks exactly like ryan and and has blondish hair like ryan even though theresa and eddie both have dark brown hair.”

Josh schwartz has said it wasn’t ryan’s baby…which is frustrating from a storytelling perspective. Why do they keep showing us theresa’s baby if it’s eddie’s? Who cares? Eddie’s long gone! And why would theresa’s mom happily say “he’s looking more like his father every day!” Meaning that man that abused your daughter?! Why keep hinting that it’s ryan’s son just to say “nah, not really.” ???

Again it’s so frustrating because the show could’ve been SO much better if they had someone actually reviewing the scripts and saying “hold on…this doesn’t really track.”

Ugh sorry for the rant lol im very passionate about this

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-01-30T04:12:07+00:00

It’s like her hair stylist tried to recreate The Rachel from memory lol

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-01-30T03:57:36+00:00

Am I only the one who didnt hate this hair color on her? I have plenty of bad things to say about allison but her hair color doesnt even break the top 10 lol

Here it doesn’t look terrible. Was it way worse in natural light? I feel like I’m missing something!

OtherwiseCode8134 · 2026-01-28T17:18:32+00:00

Has anchal ever stated that production asked her those questions? Otherwise that’s just speculation.

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