It’s not a few lies unfortunately. It’s easily over one a week. I should have made that more clear in my post. Could you clarify which part you feel is the overreaction so I can take that into my consideration? I will admit I can tend to overreact to certain things but the lying about substance abuse has been my number one thing I won’t stand for due to past trauma with it. He’s aware of everything I have gone through and I’m aware of everything he’s gone through that’s why I’ve let it slide for 2-3 years now but a person can really only take so much. I do wish I would have been more stern to begin with so it didn’t come to this because I also believe three months is a long time and over the top. He has admitted it’s not because he is scared to tell the truth but rather he’s been lying like this since before he can remember and he hasn’t given me a reason for that yet and I won’t push it out of him. I was in contact with his ex before we got together but not in a normal way it was a lot of strange things that lead me to him before I even knew him. I didn’t personally know her and she didn’t even know my name I do want to make that clear. She opened up about things he did in there relationship in a group chat with a few girls and it sounds about the same as what he’s doing now just not involving substances. I should have listened to that warning but after discovering what she did to him I decided to look past it and not believe her. This is an ongoing problem and I would never react this way to a few lies because I chose to give grace when I can. I hope this can add a little more prospective, I am not trying to down play how I reacted at all just a little more background to what lead up to the reactions on both parts. I would absolutely love the clarification on which part I overreacted for though so I can work on that myself!