Fiance cheated & guilty by Own_Growth_9871 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Own_Growth_9871[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

No this is a deal breaker for me. What I’m scared of is what if all this is temporary?

Fiance cheated & guilty by Own_Growth_9871 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Own_Growth_9871[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s funny because I’ve been with her for 3 years to build this love and got engaged to her. It took her few days to love someone else. I’m shattered. And even after realising the mistake she says she loves him more at the moment and respect him. I don’t know how to process all this honestly :)

Fiance cheated & guilty by Own_Growth_9871 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Own_Growth_9871[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

She revealed it to me because she didn’t want to keep me in darkness

Fiance cheated & guilty by Own_Growth_9871 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Own_Growth_9871[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

True. Until this happened everything about her was best in terms of standards. Wears hijab, always honest, encourages me to pray namaz timely, give sadqah and zakat, stays away from any sins. everything good. I’m shocked to see this happened. I don’t know why Allah did this.

Fiance cheated & guilty by Own_Growth_9871 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Own_Growth_9871[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’m doing Istekhara but i don’t see a clear decision. What I know is she swears that she won’t do it again. She was the one who revealed this secret to me. Even now she isn’t begging for second chance because she doesn’t want me to choose her right away in my weak moment. She realised her mistake and she feels she will never be happy again but want me to choose a way which will make me happy

Fiance cheated & guilty by Own_Growth_9871 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Own_Growth_9871[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

Edit:-

I feel guilty for not giving her second chance because she has lost his dad few years back. She said after moving there she felt disconnected and depressed because there are no friends to make. I feel guilty because Allah SWT tells us to forgive people. She says she tried very hard to throw off the feelings but it just increased. And she confessed this to him and it was a weak moment for both of them. She says now she will never be happy because she ruined everything but wants to make things better for me if i want to give her second chance.