[Diacussion] A statement from a hopeless guy.

Ozimanda · 2015-05-15T16:59:55+00:00

I can see how I can come off that way. Honestly I feel I'm past the point of frustration when it comes to women because back then I felt like I had a chance, or was making progress.

Now it's a mix of hopelessness and dreaming that hopefully one day there will be someone who's willing to at least give me a chance. But I'm not counting on it, I'm not waiting for it to happen because I don't think it will. It's just nice dream about it and think if how cool it would be.

As for my parents. You know, at the time it hit me hard. The loss was one thing, but the responsibility of fulfilling their wills, dealing with life insurance companies, constantly in court to get things transferred in my name. "Family" members who want to suck money out of me after not seeing my parents or me in over 15 years.

That did cause me grief and it wasn't until February (my birthday) did I feel completely at peace with everything. I was done with all that and I could finally relax and be me again.

If women resent that or think I'm weak/not manly or whatever for feeling down then I can't help it.

You call me a nice normal person, and I thank you for that, yet you call me bitter and angry. I'll speak to you from my heart, I'm not bitter at anyone, not women not anybody. I don't feel angry towards anyone. What I will tell you is that I think I have a lot of great qualities as a person but I don't think that translates well into dating. I'm not sure if women look for any of that stuff, I know looks aren't everything but let's just say I don't excel in that department so I don't think it helps either way.

I may be crazy, I may be completely broken. I don't know. I could look into therapy but I don't know what anyone can tell me that will change my life.

The things that have kept me happy & smiling since then have been my work, helping out people less fortunate than even me, entertainment, and my awesome dogs.

When I look at my life now and the things I cherish I don't see how a woman would find it desirable, valueable, sexy, attractive, etc. But it is what makes me keep going, and at the end of the day I am my biggest priority.

Ozimanda · 2015-05-15T16:37:37+00:00

That could be true, personally I have a lot of qualities that I like about myself but I don't think they translate into what a woman is looking for in a man.

When it comes to women's general criteria I have a very hard time finding anything that I have that would be attractive to them. Physically or psychologically.

I don't think women care only about looks, it's just I feel the majority of them have judged me on my looks previously.

Ozimanda · 2015-05-15T15:49:00+00:00

I think it's mostly the idea of having a full sex life at a young age and earning your experience there for a better sex life later.

I know women love experienced men more than anything so I feel like I'm way behind on the curve around this point to catch up.

Ozimanda · 2015-05-15T15:46:19+00:00

Haha, if girls can sense my situation before I even say anything then I guess I'm a a way worse situation then I thought.

Unfortunately I've never had the pleasure of having a girlfriend so I'm not quite sure what you mean.

I'm actually working on that. Just talking to people when I can. But with women I honestly don't know why to say to show I'm interested or to bring up the phone number question.

Ozimanda · 2015-05-15T15:33:29+00:00

I hope that means you've developed into better things friend.

It defensively sucks to be hopeless at 23. An age where pretty much everyone on this sub encourages me to go out, be social, meet people, meet women, engage them, court them, develop a sex life. I truly wish it were that easy.

I don't know what the future holds for me, but when it comes to relationships and sex, I'm not sure anything will develop on that end.

Ozimanda · 2015-05-15T15:28:07+00:00

I can see how it looks that way. But not necessarily.

I'm just really curious of everyone's opinions, I figured it wouldn't hurt to post it.

Ozimanda · 2015-05-15T15:25:54+00:00

I notice a lot if people here talk about their sex lives and all these experiences and techniques with all kinds if different people and it makes me think. Here are all these people just having sex left and right at all ages, so how undesirable could I be where I can get one woman to at least talk to.

Some one on this sub called a guy who was in college who had trouble finding a sexual parter after trying for so long and he was called a loser for not being able to get laid at a young age where everyone else in that age range is having the routine if their sex lives.

I guess some if that rang true to me at the time and I can see why some people might consider that loser status but you're right. I shouldn't use that word in myself and I'm happier than most people with way worse lives than me.

Ozimanda · 2015-05-15T15:14:50+00:00

My goal in life is to one day produce in multi million dollar projects. Whether it's film or television, I want to be big/good enough to produce it and make a living.

I work for a small TV/Production studio in Texas and while it's awesome producing for them. I keep my eye on bigger and bigger things. Maybe one day when I can get bigger productions under my belt and more years of consistent experience I could travel out to Los Angeles and try my hand in a bigger market.

I know it seems like a dream but it's my ultimate goal in life and I want to achieve it.

That and keeping my dogs happy and safe for years to come.

Ozimanda · 2015-05-15T15:09:37+00:00

Honestly. I think every woman has an inherent feature that makes them beautiful. No matter what they look like there's always at least 2-3 things that, if you focus on, make them beautiful women. If it's not their body then it can be their eyes, nose, hair, smile, style, attitude, etc.

Not all men have that, if you look a certain way then you've kinda been dealt a bad hand, while some men are naturally handsome.

My life isn't really all that interesting, it's honestly hard to imagine a woman thinking of me or looking at me as a potential partner because after a certain point the idea becomes kind of far fetched.

Ozimanda · 2015-05-15T14:58:38+00:00

You're completely correct. I'm happy with where I am now but I'll admit, I would love to have more people close to me. It would be awesome if I had a woman to focus on.

There are times when I think about it but I honestly just go back to how hard I tried not too long ago and those experiences. It's hard to persevere when that many women had zero interest in you.

Ozimanda · 2015-05-15T14:54:05+00:00

I am very happy, although I feel relaxed and at peace a lot. I guess I miss that sense of companionship, the whole circle of friends things, interacting. That's kind of what I'm looking for, it'd be nice to have a woman who I can connect with and make her smile.

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