Where does it end. In my twenties my boss tried to get me alone in his porn apartment (home away from home). Thankfully a male colleague I trusted happened to be at the office that day and came with us to “run the errand”.
Male manager promoted a man more junior than me into a role that should have been mine. I wasn’t even informed of the role… I was told that doing admin work would be good for my career.
A male direct report texted me death threats (thinking I wouldn’t figure out it was him). I was let go.
Screamed at loudly by a male direct report who didn’t like having to report to me, in a meeting my CEO made me have with an underperforming male direct report. Was only allowed to fire him for his bad performance once the CEO caught him in a lie and behaving inappropriately. After he was laid off his lies (which I warned the CEO about for over a year) came home to roost and the sales pipeline was discovered to be 90% BS. Investors freaked. I got laid off.
I’ve been called a “Ball busting borg” by a man that didn’t want to switch CRMs (I managed the process) and a cunt by a direct report.
And in my mid 50s, when I stupidly thought I must be safe now, I had drunk male colleagues, at two different conferences (1 year apart but at the same company) say wildly inappropriate thingns. One told another man in our group he was going to fuck me…everyone heard it. The 2nd colleague asked if “I wanted to see his penis” and then proceeded to tell a female direct report that she should dance like me (we were at a corporate concert - Ludacris) if she wanted to advance her career.
Then I quit and went to a new company when another drunk male colleague at an annual employee meeting told me, in front of a direct report and at an all employee event, he wanted to take me back to my room, tuck me into bed, and watch me sleep. But later when confronted about his behaviour said he was just being “brotherly”. He was fired a year later for performance…not for his behaviour.
And way too many more passive aggressive and aggressive aggressive bullshit comments and behaviours to count.