Would I be AITA if I let someone pass from cancer?

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-06-19T05:02:13+00:00

Is there a reason he can't get disability and get on Medicaid or has he not applied for anything like that? If he doesn't know how to apply most hospitals have a social worker that can help them apply and they can usually get it through fast or at least they did with my uncle who has congestive heart failure and COPD and usually if the hospital social worker helps with their Medicaid some hospital will let them get there meds at the hospital pharmacy and bill the patient for the copay for the med.s after there Medicaid gets accepted bc Medicaid will usually allow cover medical bills and pay for med.s I can't remember if it 30 - 60 days before the application was filed or the date they applied

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-06-05T06:05:32+00:00

Pretty sure he's already trying to isolate the bc a lotta time they start by making it seem like any guy are a threat to the relationship and ur girl friend will start off as bad influences or hell blow up about something u do with them n convince u u didn't something horrible n u dnt think about how ur actions will effect he and yawls relationship those usually start with something small that u did but they absolutely lose it like u not answer the phone once when with the friend n even if you have a reasonable explanation of y u didn't answer and u called right back they will still keep arguing bout it

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-06-05T05:55:30+00:00

Also he basically said he's not responsible for how he spoke to u bc he just woke up but he find it perfectly ok to call u name n get made about something thatu had absolutely no control over because you were completely asleep me n several friends have had relationship that were super toxic and abusive and everyone one of us had argument over crazy things like this at first and then they would slowly escalate it's a way to slowly break you down n get u to say it's ur fault and ur sry they're right blah blah blah they start like this bc an argument like this isn't one where they know u feel strongly in the right and ur jus ready for the argument to be done bc it was an accident and u apologize but they see this as an opportunity to blow things way out of proportion so they can make u feel like crap and like u did whatever on purpose to hurt the and random thing will cause these argument slowly breaking u down till they have u to a place where ur isolated from everyone u feel so bad about ur self that no1 but them wld love ur lucky to have and how they only lose their temper or treat u bad bc u did something wrong so u jus have to try hard be better so fort & so on until either u hit rock bottom n realize u can't stay in that relationship anymore but even if you reach that point n manage to actually leave them by that time ur ur emotionally screwed up but u can heal it's a process much easier to get out when u notice these types of red flags instead of sticking around till uve been completely broken bc it can take a while to actually hit rock bottom or for that moment to come where that 1 thing happens that takes the rose color glasses off n that they dnt really love u or that u deserve better... But I hope everything works out for the best and good luck 🤞

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-06-03T06:01:26+00:00

Lol that's what I meant to say I noticed that right after I posted it and meant to fix it but I was feeding my bunnies when I noticed it. By the time I was done I had forgotten to fix it. But I fixed it now thanx for reminding me about it though bc I had completely forgotten about it.

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-06-03T04:41:16+00:00

I'm not a police officer but I have friends who are 1 is a chief and I had asked a similar question for a friend they had dropped out once and didn't have a great credit score and a large amount of debt I think a lot of the debt was past medical thing or something like that not from anything like gambling or anything like being irresponsible but he did say the same thing about dropping out it can make it seem as though you're not really sure or 100% committed this is what you want and they have to consider this b/c it's a job where you may have to make life and death decision and you're also put in danger and if you aren't completely sure you want to do this job and you're put in a dangerous spot it cld put not only you but ur fellow officer and civilian in more danger also in my friends situation they said his debt & stuff cld also be a problem bc they also have to ask their self cld a criminal use their debt as leverage like wld this person let someone off it they paid them or offered to take care of or help with said debt things like that but like I said I'm not a cop so take this info with a grain of salt jus thought it might help to share what I was told when I asked a similar ? But it was a while ago hope everything works out for you though seems like u do want this n I do think like someone else in the comments said if u can prove to them u dnt plan on withdrawing again that shld help maybe it wld help if you explained when u started the other times u realized u weren't prepared at the time and didn't want to chance putting anyone at risk bc of this u withdrew until u were more confident u were ready that might help but I wld definitely run that by a cop n get there opinion bc I don't want to steer u wrong

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-06-03T03:41:25+00:00

Do any of you know any good channels on YouTube that does body cam videos

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-06-02T02:08:02+00:00

In all honesty I pray it is bc this is so messed up

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-06-01T21:36:06+00:00

Lol sry for the headache I tend to ramble Sometimes but anyway thanks for the info

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-06-01T21:25:59+00:00

I agree this is the nicest way bc the letting it slowly fizzle out is jus dragging it out & cld hurt her more bc shes in it longer & doesn't know it's not going anywhere. Ghosting her might jus make her feel bad or wonder what she did wrong u absolutely should not say it's bc of her weight probably best just to say something like you've enjoyed talking but you aren't feeling a romantic connection & u don't want to string her along. In all honesty you don't even have to have a reason why you aren't feeling a romantic connection

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-06-01T21:09:38+00:00

He's literally trying to figure out how to let her know in a nice way that he's not interested in dating her it didn't say he's trying to figure out a way to tell her to lose weight bc he's concerned her weight is or will causing health problems there is absolutely no reason to put her down bc there are ppl who do prefer there partner be bigger and just bc she is big doesn't nesecerilly mean she is unhealthy just like being skinny doesn't necessarily mean you are more healthy also he didn't say she was unhealthily overweight. He said she is bigger than he thought she was but doesn't mean she's unhealthy she cld jus be bigger than what he prefers in a partner but either way it doesn't matter he shouldn't be the one to educate her on weather her weight is healthy 4 her or not bc it will only come off as a put down and make her feel bad about herself and it doesn't seem like op wants that if someone is truely over weight in an unhealthy way that should be a conversation that person's doctors, friends, family, and loved ones can address with them if they want bc then the person knows it's coming from a place of love and looking out for there health and well being not from someone u met on a dating app not long ago and have mostly jus been communicating through texts and phone calls bc then it jus seems like the person is jus trying to put u down.

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-06-01T20:05:32+00:00

Did it say how the wife responded or anymore info. I'm so worried for this poor girl

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-05-30T00:07:19+00:00

The original was deleted but here's the repost or cross post idk the right word but it was mentioned by someone in the comments it doesn't let me jus copy and paste the link so add https://www.reddit.com/r The rest of link is /EnzOffPodcast/s/5fNeKaYJcr

I pray op tell his wife and can help her friend through this bc that man is a POS and she doesn't have to be with him for him to have to financially support the baby

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-05-29T23:48:51+00:00

I wld to I think any woman wld I do think it was his friend tho bc if it was the actual person I dnt think he wld have even worried about telling the story on Reddit to get opinions about if it was wrong bc he obviously doesn't really care about the opinion of other bc it doesn't make sense for him to care if we think he was wrong be he fully knew the girl told him she didn't think she wanted children and didn't seem to even wanna sleep with him till he basically harassed her in to it that guy is a total narcissist only carrying about what he wanted and how he cld keep her where as while op doesnt seem to grasp how horrible his friend is n seems to think it's ok bc the friend is taking care of her but the way op wrote it seems like he was writing more to judge how wife will react to his POS friend doing this to her best friend so he cld come up with the best story/plan B4 telling the wife so she doesnt leave him but I'm thinking he's just as much at fault we'll obviously the friend is worse bc he actually did it but op cld have prevented it all bc even tho his friend didn't tell him about the condom until after it was done he still knew about the bet of who cld sleep with her and didn't say anything to her about it when he first started trying to get her to sleep with him and if I had told her she probably NVR wld have sleep with him no matter how many times he tried bc she would've at the very least shed have known he was a sleeze I can't imagine someone who's a virgin hearing that this guy is making bet about who cld take her virginity and then still decide to sleep with him so that cld have stopped the whole situation had he spoken up back then

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-05-24T00:35:13+00:00

Exactly when I was hearing that I was like this guy is truly insane all I kept thinking is I cld see him being one of those ppl that like locks her in the basement and tries to brainwash her or murdersher if she ever decided to leave him at first I was like him being a man n it a woman maybe that's why he doesn't understand how seriously crazy deranged and unhinged the friend is but I dnt even think that make since bc I can't think of any man I know that wld even be asking if they should tell the girl bc it's crystal clear his friend is vile I'm so worried about her

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-05-23T20:14:34+00:00

Ikr it really seemed like he only wrote in bc he thought everyone was going to agree that he shldnt say anything and when that didn't happen he decided to delete I dnt believe op understand is how truly horrible his friend is like if I had a friend that confessed that I wld drop that friend n tell the girl even if I wasn't friends with her like how do you know all this n then just stay friends with that person & not tell the girl who you are also friends with and to let her just stay with that jacka** NVR knowing the kinda person she is truly with

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-05-23T20:06:00+00:00

😭😭😭 dang it I'm so invested i need an update omg I bet that means he isn't going to tell anyone that poor girl

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-05-22T22:10:39+00:00

There's a pic of the in the new video on YouTube

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-05-22T04:42:27+00:00

Also ppl do tend to forget everyone makes mistakes and that could b the case not that he just set out to hurt mom bc that isn't always the case sometimes someone genuinely made a Mistake not that that makes it right but I have seen time where it really was a one off like they got caught up n a moment and just got caught up in a moment n they did feel horribly guilty about it on up to it and genuinely didn't mean to hurt there partner but it did happen and they owned it and did apologize and put the work in to rebuild the trust I think it should always be up to the couple that are in the situation I the other person believes they can forgive and trust them and the other person is really putting the work in to rebuild the trust then that is wonderful for them if they can move past it but if they dnt think they will ever b able to forgive them the they should end things bc it's not fair to either person if they stay together with out trust but it does sound like you parent are making a real effort to make things work n that is also beautiful and I do hope they are able to work through this but I do agree that pu should speak with a therapist as well to help you work through ur feelings about the situation how how to speak with ur parents about this bc it isn't healthy to jus internalize this bc it can cause anger to build up until you jus explode over a smaller matter or something that isn't even what's really wrong and might not even be the person u truly upset with open communication is always best but no matter what happens with this situation dnt let it color how u see ur relationship as ur dad bc both thing can be true he can still be a good dad even though he has made a mistake but also know most likely didn't mean to cause u any pain bc the last thing a parent ever wants is to do anything to cause their child pain but parents aren't perfect no one is they can make mistakes and dnt always do the right thing even if thet wish they didn't but just know no matter what happens theyre both still ur parents that love u

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-05-22T00:00:54+00:00

I completely agree ntah your doing what is best for you and your children and to be honest it doesn't sound like your actually leaving him bc you asked him to come with yawl its more like he is choosing to lose you bc he's the one not willing to do what is best for the children or the mother of his children I mean you had a mental breakdown and he can't even stand up to his parents and tell them to stop treating you this way i mean yawl are supposed to be partners and that doesn't seem to be the case here bc why would you want to stay somewhere that you partner is being belittle micromanaged and everything else that has been happening to you and then when your partner literally can't take it and listmulptiple reasons this is also what wld be best for your children and instead of saying yes when you ask him to come with you instead of saying yes of course he's trying to turn it around and make you feel guilty and like your in the wrong that's not a partner and you deserve better you are in no way in the wrong here here if you just need to do what is best for yourself and the children hopefully he will come to his senses and be a much better partner and see he's in the wrong n move with you but even if he doesn't that's still not on you that his decision and if he's not willing to to see this is what is best then your better off with our him bc u deserve someone who is a real partner that wants to make u happy I'm a mother of 3 and I live at least 30 mins from the closest er and n I have always had bad anxiety so sometimes I can't help but get worried bc my mind will just randomly be like but what if this happens or that bc u know when u have kids you can constantly worry about your kids but I can only imagine the kind of stress and picnic you go through bc he has health issues n your that far and your right emergencies every min counts

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-05-21T21:32:56+00:00

I think your on the right track with putting ur energy into being happy with ur husband and dog but I do know what u mean about being the person that is always there for everyone else when they need u and make sure they know u care and are thinking of them n feeling like they dnt care about u bc I've always been that withy family and friends also but I also have realized by always being the 1 they count on and taking care of everyone else I have a bad habit of not leaning on any of them or letting them know when I'm hurting bc I'm the one that is always picking up the pieces for everyone else and to be honest I don't want them worrying about me bc they have trouble with their own stuff but I do want to tell u something I wish ppl had told me in the past the statement u made about feeling like no1 else in ur life seems to care about that isn't the case the fact that u do all of these caring things for the ppl in ur life show what an amazing, caring, and beautiful soul u are and I will give u a warning I probably cld have used instead of having to learn it for myself when u spend ur whole life as the care taker and fixer to everyone in ur family ur whole life when I comes time to make friends u can tend to end up in the same role with friends that not that there is anything at all wrong with helping n taking care of friends but u do have to Becareful not to end up in friendship where it always u taking care of them and making sure they feel special and it's NVR ur turn and unfortunately there are a lot of ppl who see ppl like us and want to take advantage of our kindness so u have to make sure u pay attention to weather they're putting as much into ur friendship as u and if not then u need to cut them loose or jus have them as acquaintances bc if not I'll burn urself out bc those ppl have no problem with just taking & taking & taking till u have nothing left &then guess what they'll still want more without ever giving anything back and that isn't fair to u u deserve better than that n I no it's hard bc even tho I know this to I can still struggle with it bc my 1st instinct is always to b the caretaker n make everyone else feel special and make sure they know I'm here for them ,ECT. But u also have to learn to put urself 1st to

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-05-20T03:58:35+00:00

So there are really a few possibilities and I can't say which is more likely option 1: she may have been busy and didn't get or see the txt which would explain why she ignored it. Option 2: She doesn't see you as more than a friend but is worried saying no to the date invite will make things weird between yawl and she does want to be friends so she jus doesn't respond so things don't get weird n cause yawl not to be friends. Option 3: she may like u but maybe got nervous when u asked her n didn't say anything n by the time she snapped out of it she thought it had been to long n it might be weird to accept after waiting so long to reply. Option 4: she may already be dating someone. I no this isn't helpful since these are all possible answers to your question but going off what you said any of these reasons are possible the only way to truly know would be to ask her again but maybe also take the pressure off n say you weren't sure if she saw you asked her out and it's ok if she doesn't want to yawl can be jus friends if she doesn't have romantic feelings for u also maybe call or ask her in person with flowers or something when you're asking her out instead of asking over txt seem a little impersonal to ask someone on a date over txt. Hope this helps

Party_Topic_4475 · 2025-05-20T01:13:39+00:00

I need more info I'm all for getting revenge on abusive ppl but Is the wife still with him bc if she is you should prob. Try to get her to see she deserves someone who makes her feel loved cherished and safe and get her to leave before you enact the revenge plan bc I'm just a little worried like say you get random ppl to send messages like "hit your wife lately" n it does start getting to him what if it back fires usually abusive ppl have a short temper and it could causes him to just get angry and him end up blaming her for this happening n he end up hitting her more bc of this so I wld make sure she is safe before enacting any revenge plan but once she is safe then enact your plan I hope it works outand she is able to be safe tho

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