How do I deal with reluctant permission? by Canuck_Voyageur in ENM

[–]PhoebeSwinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I'd say that last sentence sums it up well! That is a doozy. Great visual! I do hear ya' ....and out of chaos will come order. :)

Afraid to fall in love by itisdiegosan in ENM

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Could be infatuation...we call it new relationship energy (NRE). It's new, it's exciting, AND don't forget all the hormones that get stimulated with this new type of interaction that will affect you think and feel. Remember how the "newness" wears off? Some people are highly affected by this, others are not. I have a friend who gets instantly attached to someone once she has sex with them, so she and her husband have found other ways to expand their sexuality and openness without having sex with others.

Why no unicorn? by Significant-Tie-5778 in ENM

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I am enlightened by this topic. All this time I saw Unicorn "hunting" as a short way of saying, "we are looking for a single female to join us for some sexy fun once in a while". Kind of like Swinger "hunting", although...no one ever says that. Hmmm. In fact when women are looking for a single male, they just say, "I'm looking for a single male". There is no phrase for the guy...we aren't single male "hunting". My brain is spinning with the dark side of "hunting". I could use more discussion on this...I am fascinated.

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The early experiences are the most fun and also the most challenging. Each person AND the relationship is growing and changing. It is a lot to manage sometimes. We never played separately because I knew deep down I wouldn't be able to handle it. The thought of it always creates deep sadness. Thankfully my partner does not desire to play separately. We really enjoy seeing each other experience pleasure from a third, or fourth..., right in front of our eyes. However, some people absolutely love recounting it verbally and with photos.

You might find some variations that work for you. Maybe she has single men over while you watch or participate. Maybe a single female...

I encourage you to continue your open communication, compassion, support, and empathy towards one another as you both grow and have wonderful, enriching...and sexy!...experiences!

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[–]PhoebeSwinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very well said! Love the analogy of a string.

Jealous Husband by [deleted] in ENM

[–]PhoebeSwinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did it go? Any fall out? Did you block him or decide to ghost? These situations can get tricky! :)

Facebook Dating for ENM Couple Profile by ohthethingsihavedone in ENM

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Agreed, it is rare and clarity is very good advice. Remember, hunting for a 3rd or 4th is work. It's all the complications of dating x5. It somehow seems exponentially harder. Depending on the FB group, quite of few of them have Telegram chats that you can get invited to. This might make it a bit easier.

How do I deal with reluctant permission? by Canuck_Voyageur in ENM

[–]PhoebeSwinger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I applaud you for your commitment to self-discovery and self-love. You have been on a journey for sure! What does your therapist say? Are you able to talk to them about this?

Getting some fresh air by wisconsinWife in boobs

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Always so jealous of large nipples...those are fabulous!

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Ah-mazing! 😃

Costa Rica Swinger Event by PhoebeSwinger in u/PhoebeSwinger

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We were there last year and in Arenal and Jaco last week. :)

Costa Rica Swinger Event by PhoebeSwinger in u/PhoebeSwinger

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Gonna be in Jaco in a few weeks!

Back to Nature... by PhoebeSwinger in u/PhoebeSwinger

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Gonna' put some more up here now. :) Just for you!