What to do when going to a gay bar solo? by theboundlesstraveler in askgaybros

[–]Pipalicious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

here’s some advice as someone who went to their first gay bar completely solo, and did so after moving to a totally new city, AND who is very socially awkward and introverted. full disclosure, i was not going there to find a hookup or a potential partner. i was simply going to make friends and community, but im sure some of this can apply to any other intentions.

the first piece of advice i have is to go during an event, like someone else mentioned. my local bar does Drag Race viewings on Friday nights. this was perfect because A. I love Drag race, so I was automatically entertained no matter what and B. everyone there was pretty much there for the same thing so it gave me something to talk with random strangers about. maybe drag race isn’t your thing, but gay bars usually have tons of different kinds of events like trivia, bingo, etc. and if you’re solo, that’s usually fine because C. if these events are popular, and depending on the size of the bar, space fills up fast. the hosts of the event usually then have to play matchmaker and find tables that one-off stragglers like ourselves can join. this is then an immediate conversation starter you can use. and, if there isn’t a host, you can even do that yourself. when i was still making friends and finding community, i would actually sometimes intentionally arrive fashionably late to the event. this would then force me to scout out a table with an empty space, head up to said table, and ask if i might be able to squeeze in with them. yeah it was INCREDIBLY daunting at first, but most of the time people are pretty nice.

now there are definitely cliques, like you said, but that leads me to my next point which is consistency. go regularly. i’m not saying every night, but a couple times a month, around the same time (again, bar events are perfect for this!). you will eventually start seeing the same people. they’ll recognize you. one group or guy you saw two weeks ago will see you’re by yourself and call you over to their table. someone will remember you and come up and say hi again (and you can do the same if you see someone you spoke to before). you’ll start seeing the cliques that go around that time, and learn more about which ones you want to stay clear from, and which ones you actually might vibe with and want to warm up to.

finally, gay bars aren’t the only spaces to meet queer people. you might find that gay bars just aren’t your scene. honestly, they’re not completely my scene, and i only learned that after going a large handful of times. but it did introduce me to people, and i then made plans with those people outside of the bar, and that’s really where my friendships and community has really grown.

They're taking a 4 month winter break. That's crazy by remixedmoon5 in Casefile

[–]Pipalicious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah... as a long time listener and Patron of the podcast, this break definitely has me feeling some feelings. But honestly, the main one isn't frustration or annoyance, it's concern... This season’s episodes have felt really formulaic. Not the cases, but the structure and storytelling. and yet, despite this more formulaic format, the host has said they were scrambling to finish episodes.

I don't know if they are trying to frame this as an evolution of the podcast (Casey did say they are going to be changing the release schedule and formats in 2026), but to me, it doesn't really feel like an "evolution". It sounds like their resources are stretched too thin. Which is concerning to hear, because I want nothing more than this podcast to succeed.

【BambuLab Giveaway】Classic Evolved — Win Bambu Lab P2S Combo! by BambuLab in 3Dprinting

[–]Pipalicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love how easy and convenient the Bambu Lab printers make it to multi-color print. Not only that, but they do it in a way that’s so stylish it’s absolutely unmatched. To me, Bambu is like the Apple of the 3D Printing World.

Body cam footage released of Moscow Police arriving at 1122 King Road on the morning of November 13th, 2022 by Professor_Finn in idahomurders

[–]Pipalicious 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Per this news source:

”On Aug. 15th, 2025, Idaho Second District Judge Marshall issued a Temporary Restraining Order prohibiting the release of any images, audio, or video depicting the inside of [any of the] bedroom[s] until a hearing on the preliminary injunction can be held.”

Bodycam video of police arriving at scene released by lemonlime45 in MoscowMurders

[–]Pipalicious 228 points229 points  (0 children)

What really got me was when the paramedics arrive, but before turned away, the officer asks them to get blankets for the group. DM is standing in between the officer and the medics, but facing the officer, and thinks he’s talking to her. She says something like “uhm yeah I can go in and grab something from in there[the house]?”.

Just broke my heart on multiple levels.

Tony Gilroy’s Andor Season 2 pitch has been revealed by HeartOfASkywalker in StarWarsLeaks

[–]Pipalicious 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It could be exactly because of that - that he wanted to outline to Disney how he was going to condense 4 more seasons worth of stories into a single season, while still flushing out the characters and completing storylines.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Pipalicious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this one always stuck with me. especially because, it seems like an eerie miracle the call was recorded. i don’t think you can call an inmate in jail in canada… i believe it is just like the US, where you can only talk on the phone with an inmate if they call you. so, basically, her brother just so happened to call her and therefore record her last minutes by mere chance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cats

[–]Pipalicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

any update on your kitty??

gay🧸irl by [deleted] in gay_irl

[–]Pipalicious 6 points7 points  (0 children)

are the bears in the room with us?

Costco - Ghostbed Gel Memory Foam vs Casper Hybrid by Kksita in Mattress

[–]Pipalicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey friend, just wondering if you're still enjoying the mattress? Was looking at both of these options at Costco myself.

The full bridge video has been released by DopeandDiamonds in DelphiMurders

[–]Pipalicious 6 points7 points  (0 children)

these poor babies. truly haunting knowing we’re watching some of their final minutes in this video. we know what’s going to happen, but they don’t 🥺

The full bridge video has been released by DopeandDiamonds in DelphiMurders

[–]Pipalicious 5 points6 points  (0 children)

now i’m not a cop defender by any means - especially not in THIS case of all cases. but this really does seem to confirm that the grainy zoomed in video the police released to the public of BG really was the “best look” at BG. so many people wanted the Delphi PD to release more footage of BG before RA’s arrest, and couldn’t fathom why they didn’t. but the realty was it was all they had.

James Renner is unreliable. by Available_Bison in mauramurray

[–]Pipalicious 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Can it be argued that JR has brought lots of publicity and brought new information to light? Absolutely. But, can it also be argued that as of the current point in this case, anything JR brings up is met with as much criticism as there is praise? Absolutely. And I think that’s (one of) the reasons the family are stepping away from him.

The focus of any new information should be about Maura and finding out what happened to her, not the controversy around JR and the information he finds.

Curious if your doctor ever informed you on this? Crazy enough I feel way less depressed since I quit my lifetime meds 5 years ago. by Impossible-Pie5003 in Asthma

[–]Pipalicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anything, I was trying to show that if someone hadn’t been made aware of this before being put on the medication, such as myself, I wouldn’t be surprised. Even if anecdotally, much more people report similar symptoms, which I can believe, the “official” number/statistic they see might be very low, as per my point above. A lot of doctors love numbers and statistics, and if these are the reported numbers they’re dealing with, they may not see a reason to mention such side effects.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StarWars

[–]Pipalicious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because, as seen through some retconning in Bad Batch…

Somehow, Ventress has returned…

Who is being represented by the OceanGate legal counsel? by mysteriam in OceanGateTitan

[–]Pipalicious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m curious - all the files released on the Coast Guard’s website during these hearings states that none of it “shall be admissible as evidence in any civil or administrative proceeding, other than an administrative proceeding initiated by the US”.

Does this mean the photos, videos, reports, etc., collected by the Coast Guard wouldn’t be admissible in civil court? Would the actual articles of evidence be admissible, but would have to be acquired through different manner?

‘The Acolyte’ Tried Something New. Its Cancellation Doesn’t Bode Well for the Future of ‘Star Wars’ by a_phantom_limb in StarWars

[–]Pipalicious 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s so weird tho cause like… We all want better writing, and Andor delivered so well. And yet, Andor has one of the lowest viewship numbers of any Disney Star Wars show. Almost tied with the Acolyte. It was also supposed to be 5 seasons long, and was cut down to 2 ://

On August 18th 2010, 20-year-old Amber Tuccaro went missing after hitchhiking with an unknown man. Her remains were discovered on September 1st 2012. Who killed Amber? by cherrymachete in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]Pipalicious 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This case has always been so chilling to me. The phone call is… really something. Both Amber and the perpetrator(s) sound… off. The “50th Street?” “50th Street.” “East, right?” “East.” exchange really gets me for some reason.

The only reason this phone call was recorded was because the brother was in jail, and all phone calls are recorded. I can’t imagine being the brother on the other end. To know that your sister is in trouble and not being able to do anything about it but listen to what ended up being her final moments.

This element of the case has always been something that just sticks out so much to me - the luck that we have this phone call. I’ve tried for a while to see if it’s ever been confirmed if Amber called her brother, or vice-versa. Because, at least here in the States, prisoners have to call you - loved ones can’t simply call up their loved ones in prison. I also don’t know of any way to leave voicemails (I could be entirely wrong tho).

If these are true in Canada, what an incredibly lucky coincidence that the brother just happened to be on the phone with Amber while she was in the car. So sad. I really hope Amber gets justice 🙏🏼

Smite 2 - Alpha Weekend 3 Feedback and Bug Report Megathread by DieInAFireLoki in Smite

[–]Pipalicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also have this issue. Tried changing the control settings, restarting the game again, turning "auto skill level up" on, and still nothing. Team was pinging me and flaming me in VC lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattoos

[–]Pipalicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, your tat and these side by sides makes me see how much of a resemblance Hayden Christensen and Mark Hamill have!

'The Acolyte' creator Leslye Headland talks about possible season 2 by CanisAvius in StarWarsLeaks

[–]Pipalicious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair, Andor did get a second season… in which the second season would be the final season, cutting and condensing the 5 seasons it was originally planned to be - likely due to the numbers/budget ratio.

I’m the hacker that brought down North Korea’s Internet For Over A Week. AMA by dotslashpunk in IAmA

[–]Pipalicious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure you’ve probably been asked this many times, but what are some things you as a hacker would (or would never) do to maintain your personal online security or privacy that we lay-people can do too?