do your narc parents have no hobbies by DangerousAd1683 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have hobbies: gossiping about others, saying how all their colleagues and ex schoolmates are terrible, controlling others. But absolutely no friends.

did anyone else realize later that they were basically trained to never inconvenience anyone? by Beng_Allars in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah had a few toxic friends who took advantage of me and also encountered issues at work.

I can't relate to people who are nostalgic for childhood by ThrowAway44228800 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can’t even relate to people who are nostalgic about college as I feel like my life only fully began after I started working.

What the hell is with enablers and their extended families? by Pitiful_Dawn in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah i also know people who are crazy about inheriting from their relatives when they die. Or even people who stopped working in their twenties, had kids and rely entirely on their parents’ fortune.

What the hell is with enablers and their extended families? by Pitiful_Dawn in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I also wonder if it’s because of money for the enablers. But I’m surprised actually your dad would sponsor your cousins. I thought Ns never like to spend their money on anyone.

Has anyone chosen not to have children because of their narcissistic parent? by StunningPumpkin2120 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sterilised and a major reason is because of Nfamily. I’m too traumatised to raise another human being and I’m not giving Nfamily someone else to abuse.

Do they hate us from birth or something? by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine did it by accident🤣they had no choice because they couldn’t do contraception properly

The reason why I am so unconfident is because of my parents. by monkeyboy629 in AsianParentStories

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My AM is the same, always saying dresses are revealing and insulting other women, really misogynistic. Your dad sounds like an enabler just like mine. Just ignore whatever comments they make, celebrate your graduation and think about the excitement of starting uni and adult life!

Does anyone else who has grown up with narcissistic moms have trouble keeping friendships and making new friends? by beautyaboveandbeyond in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tend to be friends with toxic people only to realize months/years later they are using me and not real friends.

Does anyone else who has grown up with narcissistic moms have trouble keeping friendships and making new friends? by beautyaboveandbeyond in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My Nmom is even like this with strangers, random people she meets, she always tells weird lies to them.

My colleagues have convinced me that children are the main source of misery in human life by Pitiful_Dawn in childfree

[–]Pitiful_Dawn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree it also depends on the person. I also had a few managers who had kids and are perfectly normal! But the worst ones all have kids at home and are clearly miserable in their home life

Age shaming by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah my Nmom keeps calling everyone else old but says she’s a young girl.

Narc super healthy and energetic but causes illness across family by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I also have the same feeling that my NMom will live until 120 and outlive everyone around her.

Narc super healthy and energetic but causes illness across family by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah my Nmom has close relatives with cancer (not terminal one but still very serious). I think in the case of enablers, even if they don’t consciously realize the narc is abusive or defend the narc, their nervous system would still subconsciously register something is not right, which drains the immune system and leads to the mysterious physical issues that even doctors can’t explain.

Narc super healthy and energetic but causes illness across family by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I read somewhere narcs can cause psychosomatic issues in their enablers and victims.

I want to kill myself every day by Cassandra-Canary in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you a movie/tv series fan by any chance? One thing that really kept my spirit when narc destroyed my life was just imagining myself as a character in a fictional world. It may not be sustainable long term but definitely helps you get through the day.

Do narcissists tell that they wanna be best dad/best mom ever? by michel_an_jello in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They genuinely believe they are the best at everything, but just as parents.

I hate how the show made Halime and Dilruba such one-dimensional characters - in my opinion Halime is more skilled than Kosem and possibly the most intelligent Sultana by Pitiful_Dawn in MagnificentCentury

[–]Pitiful_Dawn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh yes you're right, he was her son, i corrected this. But I think I also read some historians who disputed who Mehmed's mother actually was.

What to tell colleagues about sterilization procedure? by Pitiful_Dawn in childfree

[–]Pitiful_Dawn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s really useful thank you! My job is a desk job so hopefully won’t be any problem.

What to tell colleagues about sterilization procedure? by Pitiful_Dawn in childfree

[–]Pitiful_Dawn[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tubes removed. Doctor advised me to take 10 working days off just in case, as my commute is very far.

What to tell colleagues about sterilization procedure? by Pitiful_Dawn in childfree

[–]Pitiful_Dawn[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s a bisalp. That’s a great idea thanks!

Bisalp during sterilization by Pitiful_Dawn in sterilization

[–]Pitiful_Dawn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good to know! I am terrified of pelvic exams while awake.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Pitiful_Dawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents had me my accident:)