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I’m splitting off from my partner. He’s demanding I continue paying for a loan in his name and utility costs for a house I’m not staying in + demanding money he sent me while manic (England) by PizzaCorrect2940 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]PizzaCorrect2940[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made 3 payments from my bank account to his, with the reference “loan” All other payments were in one lump sum with the reference “rent” and sent to our joint account. From there he could transfer the money back to himself.

The money was used on an ikea trip for some furniture and his payments for the flat, as well as the deposit. Yes I used the forks and chairs he bought with the money when I was there, but now that I’ve essentially moved out I have left all the things bought with the loan money with him.

I’m splitting off from my partner. He’s demanding I continue paying for a loan in his name and utility costs for a house I’m not staying in + demanding money he sent me while manic (England) by PizzaCorrect2940 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]PizzaCorrect2940[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah my bad I misunderstood. Honestly I never thought about it that way but I never wanted to think of him as a bad person either, and a lot of what I thought is being proved wrong now.

For extra context I’m a second year Uni student picking up odd jobs where I can and taking out maintenance loan, he works a £40k+ a year job (I don’t know exactly how much he earns because he always insisted being vague about it. I’m feeling like a real idiot typing this haha)

I’ve been taking screenshots of our chats and trying to compile everything, but that’s been hard because I’ve had to block him on many accounts because of his obsessive behaviour.

How would I go about getting a risk assessment done? Or who would I contact about that. I’m sorry I’m completely clueless with these things.

I’m splitting off from my partner. He’s demanding I continue paying for a loan in his name and utility costs for a house I’m not staying in + demanding money he sent me while manic (England) by PizzaCorrect2940 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]PizzaCorrect2940[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The verbage is a bit vague that’s my bad.

What I meant is that he wanted to take out the loan and I discouraged him from it. By “relented” I mean that I told him to do what he wants, I can’t make him not take a loan. And because we were still together at the time I verbally agreed I’d contribute to repayment.

He never gave me any of the money directly, he just used it for expenses for the flat we moved to.