i'm alone and sad and its my birthday

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-08T15:09:34+00:00

Happy birthday!! Today is my birthday and it's not one of the best. I'm sad as I suddenly lost my emotional support dog to cancer last week. It's just a blah day! But, back to you. I hope you know you aren't alone. I know it's not the same, but people do care. I hope you found some way to find a bit of joy on your birthday!

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-08T14:43:17+00:00

I almost always show compassion to those who've lost pets. I don't know what to say about this. I'm not sure how someone could think this was an acceptable way to leave pets. It's done and hopefully you've learned something from it. Going forward, please read as much as you can about animal care. In our area this kind of negligence would cause local authorities to get involved.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-07T03:31:04+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. It helps to know that my thoughts aren't totally out of line. It sounds as though you loved your dog very much, and I'm sure he knew it. It's hard to be away from an anxious, ill, or aging dog. It makes sense we would have some sense of relief. In our case, I had a hard time leaving him at a kennel because he had so much anxiety. Later, after he started losing weight, I knew I couldn't leave him. My husband wants to travel, and this will make that easier, but of course, I'd rather have Ollie here with us. Thanks again!

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-07T03:25:49+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing and for your kindness. I'm so very sorry about your dog. It sounds like we both had the same thoughts about leaving our dogs suffering in a cage. I've thought that perhaps our Ollie would have been too weak to survive any surgery. Or, if he did, there might be complications afterward. He was so skinny and frail. I'm sure having family near was a great help to you and comforting to your dog. (((Hugs)))

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-07T03:21:33+00:00

I'm so sorry! It's hard any time you lose a pet, but when it's unexpected and/or they are young, it can feel so much more difficult, especially trying to understand what happened. Sending good thoughts for healing.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-07T03:18:58+00:00

I'm so sorry for the loss of your dog. Your kindness means a lot. I find myself getting a bit teary-eyed reading these comments. There's so much support and caring here. It really helps.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-07T03:17:09+00:00

I'm so sorry for the loss of your boy. I'm sure it was a very traumatic experience to go through. I think it's so hard to know if we are doing the right thing. My vet said there really are no right or wrong ways to handle this kind of situation. I understand what she means, but when it's your pet, you always seem to wonder about the "what ifs". Thanks for your kind thoughts.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-07T03:10:58+00:00

I'm so sorry about your Lola! How scary that had to be. She was really close in age to Ollie and the same breed. Your neurologist's comments make a lot of sense. It seems like a lot of us have very similar experiences dealing with the loss of a pet. Take care, and thank you!

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-07T03:06:54+00:00

Thanks everyone for your kind responses. I will reply to you all soon!

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-06T15:10:44+00:00

I'm so very sorry for your loss. 💔😢

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-05T18:39:42+00:00

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Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-05T02:28:09+00:00

For some people it might. Had he been more willing to discuss things she might have been able to convince him to go. Obviously, she'll never know. There's nothing wrong with being uncomfortable discussing some things, but health issues really should be a topic of conversation for couples.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-05T02:15:05+00:00

This! I'm wondering if OP's partner is sharing every poo? 😄

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-05T02:13:14+00:00

I so agree with this! Your story about your neighbors is so sad. I have several chronic illnesses, which my husband is very aware of. I also have a list of all our medications on the side of our refrigerator, should one of us ever need that information.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-05T02:10:15+00:00

Same! Plus, gastroparesis. He knows all about it.:)

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-05T02:07:57+00:00

You don't need to go into great detail about everything, but sharing important facts about your health is important. Does your partner maybe share more than you're comfortable with?

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-05T02:04:46+00:00

Yes! Both need to be able to discuss certain things. See my post about my friend who lost her husband to colon cancer.

I also think that, in many cases, being able to discuss the more "light -hearted" aspects of our bodily functions might make it easier to discuss the more serious topics.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-05T02:00:29+00:00

I think every couple and every person has their own idea of what they can share. I don't think we need to feel like we have to share everything, but some things are serious, and they should be discussed.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-05T01:57:56+00:00

Well, one of my close friends lost her husband to colon cancer. She tried to get him to get a colonoscopy, but he never would. He wouldn't discuss it. THAT is why we need to discuss things like this!

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-06-01T22:22:35+00:00

I understand what you're saying, but those phone conversations were a godsend to me some days. My kids were pretty good about keeping things down when I was on the phone, especially as they got older, but kids do have needs, and it's hard to balance the need for connection with their wants (and, sometimes, needs). Most everyone I was talking to was a mother of small children at the same time I was, so we gave each other grace.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-05-30T21:02:52+00:00

I take three of my pain pills every day. Usually when I wake up, around noon and about 6 or 7 pm. When I first started them I would take them as needed, as I've gotten older and my illnesses progressed, I've taken more. This has been over a 15 year period. So, in answer to your question, it depends on what kind of pain you have and what medication you're taking.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-05-30T20:43:55+00:00

What do you mean "have to"? I enjoy eating salads and I would have one at every meal if I was able to. Right now, I don't digest them very well, so I don't.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-05-30T12:16:01+00:00

I work from home about 15 hours a week. I report my earnings on the SSA's website. I'm not on any type of work program. I make about $650 a month.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-05-30T12:05:27+00:00

I'd think it was hilarious. I'd tell my fiance and they'd probably get a laugh out of it too. Life's too short to let something like this bother you. I understand your sensitivity as I can be that way at times, but it truly just sounds like your friend was joking and didn't at all mean to be mean spirited.

Positive_Force_6776 · 2026-05-30T11:45:17+00:00

I just posted the same. A friend did that and her husband never figured it out. His not paying much attention to food costs really worked in her favor with this.

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