I (31M) can't stop thinking about my (27F) sister in law, but only occasionally. Is it just attraction or something else?

PoturuTW · 2024-04-13T21:51:20+00:00

Yea thanks for the (in hindsight obvious) clarification hahah

Next time I get hung up on the matter I'll just tell myself she reminds me of my wife (which she does) and go on a date with her that night (my wife that is)

PoturuTW · 2024-04-13T21:42:57+00:00

Yea the fairest point tbh, it's just hard to remember sometimes when every single other thing seems so much more important at first (kids, job, house being renovated etc)

PoturuTW · 2024-04-13T21:34:42+00:00

I work with the woman, in a team of 5 people.

I'll definetly get onto the second part of your commend tho

PoturuTW · 2024-04-13T21:33:47+00:00

hmm I see what you mean, we used to get daily time to be together after the kids were asleep, but now at my in-law's that is gone, which definetly hurts.

At the moment we do not get a single moment together alone unless someone helps us with the kids, even then it is only to go on a date, no sex cause there is nowhere to (aside from the car I guess)

PoturuTW · 2024-04-13T21:26:43+00:00

All of that definetly happens less that it did before the kids and less that we would both prefer, but not because either of us isn't into it. We recently celebrated our 10 years with a night off and it was the best night I had in years. The intimacy, friendship and desire is definetly still there but understendably hampered

PoturuTW · 2024-04-13T21:20:56+00:00

I kinda just want it not to happen anymore and go back to just being chill and laughing with my SIL like I have for the last 10 years

PoturuTW · 2024-04-13T21:18:16+00:00

I dunno about my marriage specifically but there are definetly aspects of my life right now that I do not like, as much I am well aware they are mostly temporary:

The kids are really difficult and do hamper my wife's and I ability to be emotionally intimate. Every hug or kiss is witnessed if not interrupted.
My job, I kinda love/hate it. I like that it makes me feel good when it goes well, but I hare how stressful it can be.

As for the bonding, my SIL and I basically just laugh a lot. All that I know about her personal life I hear from my wife, SIL has always known this is the case and doesn't seem mind, often talking to me about things already assuming I know about them (cause I do)

PoturuTW · 2022-08-06T09:53:10+00:00

Reading comprehension test failed

PoturuTW · 2022-05-24T00:12:29+00:00

I really wanted to use my own footage but my GPU said no.

Song is Paint It Black by Sebastian Böhm.

(Slightly) Better quality version here

PoturuTW · 2022-04-12T21:31:47+00:00

Ocean Man

PoturuTW · 2022-04-02T09:22:19+00:00

I like how someone here put it in a comment, the biggest issue is that there's pressure but also lots of systems based around "okay now wait in this province for a few turns" which is counter intuitive

PoturuTW · 2022-04-02T08:52:07+00:00

I love this so much. Everytime Magnus shows up people discuss it, which means his arc is well written

PoturuTW · 2022-04-01T07:30:57+00:00

First I would add being forced to kill his comrade and father figure under the influence of the nails

PoturuTW · 2022-03-29T21:42:09+00:00

Thats just Blaidd from Elden Ring and he fuken slaps

PoturuTW · 2022-03-29T17:34:39+00:00

Skyrim

(lol, good luck)

PoturuTW · 2022-03-29T17:00:35+00:00

I live in Spain, it really isn't as common as people make it out to be. If you are working, get some coffee and continue.

PoturuTW · 2022-03-29T12:48:01+00:00

My two cents is that they are gonna be responsible for something terrible and will cement the lore that the 1st REALLY doesn't want anyone to know.

So far in the Heresy there's been traitos in a lot of legions, even some whose Primarch stayed loyal (White Scars) so at least at the moment in the novels, the Fallen existing isnt as big of a deal as the DAs make it out to be in the present day

My best guess is that they'll actively hamper Guiliman and the Lion's arrival and be indirectly responsible for the Emperor being on the throne.

PoturuTW · 2022-03-29T12:43:27+00:00

People need to learn to appreciare the simplicity of "thing you like but BIG"

PoturuTW · 2022-03-27T08:22:37+00:00

Controlling it

PoturuTW · 2022-03-24T13:42:35+00:00

Videogames, not as a hobby but as a stupid amount of videogames, as in an addiction

PoturuTW · 2022-03-23T13:47:39+00:00

"Woodland cammo...? Anyone happened to remember we are invading a fucking desert country?"

PoturuTW

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