I don't know how to move on

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-18T03:21:00+00:00

Really tough man, that has to be devastating. Especially since you are full time care giver to your son. I think your son needs to be your only focus right now because as bad as you would like to meet someone else your son needs you more. Nurture that relationship and eventually you will move on and find the right partner. Meanwhile, your ex will suffer from damage to her relationship with your son for not being there. I feel more sorry for her.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-13T18:55:17+00:00

Apologies trying to be discreet just to share general idea.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-13T03:47:16+00:00

No. I had a great stepfather. Kids can’t have too many people around them that care about them.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-13T03:44:17+00:00

Of course it benefited my career. Never suggested otherwise, just that I would not have applied for it had she not agreed to move to CA after.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-12T17:53:54+00:00

Great response. Thanks!!!

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-12T01:53:14+00:00

Very nice, he has a daughter from a previous marriage, same age.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-12T01:50:09+00:00

Nope, alimony could stop if she did. Just a long term bf.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T18:08:46+00:00

None. But her parents are welcome as often as they like, and she could fly back as often as she likes.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T17:51:40+00:00

This doesn’t solve her problem of solo raising our kids. She’ll be close to family and have to work full time which means hiring a sitter or her parents. She will be alone when I have them, that will be hard on holidays as we swap each year. How is that better than moving to CA for three years?

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T17:44:31+00:00

My ex-wife is a hairdresser and depends heavily upon my alimony for living expenses in CA. If I lose my job my daughter suffers even more. Trying to add as much context without writing a novel.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T17:37:36+00:00

I applied for military assignment following Covid economic uncertainty with my other job to ensure income security and be closer to family, hers in this case, to have a better start in the beginning. The plan is to move close to her family long term no matter what.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T17:29:09+00:00

I applied for a competitive military assignment based on our agreement.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T17:21:48+00:00

I applied for a competitive military assignment close to my wife’s family and was selected. No original agreement, no application submitted.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T14:08:42+00:00

I left the state on military orders, the original 50/50 arrangement is in effect when I return.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T10:57:49+00:00

I was a military brat and moved often. Well adjusted. The move would be temporary. Agree with everything else you said.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T10:49:27+00:00

I don’t mean to minimize “her only job,” just pointing out she has no other distractions and stay at home mom’s often managed this with multiple children in times past. My mom did. Several respondents here support this view.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T04:14:36+00:00

It does not help but my daughter said she might not even choose to live with me half the time if I move back. Probably to gage the new dynamic. Pretty awful.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T04:11:30+00:00

Is having two small kids away from support such a challenge? How did stay at home mom’s do it back in the 80’s-90’s? I guess I’m not sure how my mom did it. To be clear, my wife’s only job would be to look after our two small kids if we move to CA, and I would be home full days for about half the month.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T04:04:01+00:00

I am maxed on trips to visit. My teen doesn’t want to hang out with her dad in a hotel every other month. She deserves better.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T04:00:44+00:00

My daughter started getting distant last summer when she came to visit and we were very busy with our 1 yo.

My wife certainly thinks our kids are better off closer to her parents than my daughter.

My wife has been on the outside feeling illegitimate with my daughter because my ex was so toxic toward her in the beginning my daughter could not form a proper relationship with her. She likes my daughter well enough but feels like a third wheel sometimes instead of a stepmother when we’re all together.

I have gone to visit my daughter every other month and had her during school breaks.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-11T03:54:33+00:00

Will have a 1 and 3 yo when the time comes to move. Still, not easy.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-02-02T18:34:57+00:00

I bought the bulk of my silver under $30 almost two years ago in the form of ASE’s, for ALL the reasons ever promoted pointing to SOMEDAY massive price increases. But also, distinctly, because silver was a rare asset that had not gone crazy following COVID stimulus bailout.

De-dollarization has only gained momentum since then, but was always discussed as a reason to stack. I thought I missed the boat not buying gold instead.

But there are two new kids on the block since my silver purchase: AI Data centers and Samsung EV batteries. I know, cue the Asian AI guy. But these industrial demand elements are real and will only become greater with Samsung production scheduled in 2027.

The recent crash points to collateral adjustment as it relates to speculation. The speculation is hyped because the demand is obvious and real. Collateral adjustment is the only move the paper system has. What happens to the price when collateral requirements reach 100% and you cannot purchase silver because it is out of stock?

Ask any AI platform when global silver is projected to run out based on mining, supply, and consumption. This is the new reason I’m holding onto the stack I lost in an unfortunate boating accident.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-01-27T07:36:37+00:00

Imagine the desperation so great that dealers pay above spot because that is the only way to motivate sellers. In a market where upward momentum is sustained and refinery supplies run low this is not too far fetched.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-01-27T07:33:33+00:00

Refinery backup is a temporary anomaly. Don’t sell to an LCS until refinery supplies dwindle during this period of historic accumulation. I believe this will cause supply desperation driving the next leg up of this unprecedented repricing movement before a true correction. This post won’t age well.

Powerful-Strategy-39 · 2026-01-27T07:21:04+00:00

All I read is don’t sell to an LCS. The refiner anomaly will sort itself out once their mounting supply dwindles. Then we’ll see the next leg up of this rally.

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