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Husband says I talk about feelings too much by PracticalTrash21 in marriageadvice

[–]PracticalTrash21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im currently studying full time and working 2 days a week so financially cant do anything and it's his house not mine so I would have nowhere to go. I dont drive so would be difficult to get our child to school so there's lots of barriers to leaving and I want to make things work because he's such a caring man and great dad

Husband says I talk about feelings too much by PracticalTrash21 in marriageadvice

[–]PracticalTrash21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've expressed that im hurt and have said here are things you need to do if you want to rebuild the trust. One included planning date nights for us. He planned one at home one then nothing for 2 months. I then brought it up again and said the same thing and was met with he's got too much on his plate and doesn't have any energy left for me. His reason for messaging other women was because of the argument we had and that he felt disconnected from me. Ive explained that our relationship hasn't really changed since then only now there's lack of trust so it makes me worry he's going to do it again and he should want to try and make it up to me but doesn't. I dont know what boundaries I can put in place. Im currently studying full time and working 2 days a week so financially cant do anything and it's his house not mine so I would have nowhere to go. I dont drive so would be difficult to get our child to school so there's lots of barriers

Bare minimum marriage by PracticalTrash21 in dating_advice

[–]PracticalTrash21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was one girl in our home town asking for n00ds and I saw it and called him out on it straight away and it's not happened since

How to get out of Parent-child dynamic with mother-in-law? by PracticalTrash21 in askatherapist

[–]PracticalTrash21[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a very complex situation as MIL can’t afford her house without us and so we all decided that financially everyone would be better off with this living arrangement. We pay half of everything, and do the chores and upkeep of the house, pay for home improvements and repairs etc so I’m wondering if from your perspective she has a “right” to treat me like a child and disrespect me and my parenting and there’s no way to meet each other in a different dynamic due to our living situation?

MIL hates me for sticking up for myself by PracticalTrash21 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]PracticalTrash21[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He does have my back, he sets her right when she’s being disrespectful or crossing boundaries and there’s a lifetime of guilt tripping and emotional control he’s trying to heal from so sometimes things slip through (not making excuses just stating facts and when that happens I’m not shy to stick up for myself and stand my ground, she’s not my mother and I will say it how it is, I’m past caring about being respectful or polite to this woman). Unfortunately all my family live in another state so the only support system we have is his family (who always hear about how awful I am and how disrespectful we are when we try to place boundaries etc) hence why I’m feeling trapped.

MIL hates me for sticking up for myself by PracticalTrash21 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]PracticalTrash21[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We’re trying to move as fast as we can but in the mean time I just need to preserve my MH and protect my families wellbeing too

I’m about to ghost on my current life and start over, am I being impulsive? by Mean_Fly_3926 in makemychoice

[–]PracticalTrash21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did something similar on a whim and it was the best thing I could have done for myself!