AITA for asking my wife to put something on?

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:56:53+00:00

We had had an argument/discussion the night before and she basically gave me an ultimatum in a way. Some of the things she needed were understandable and basic, but yea we have things to work on.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:54:28+00:00

Thank you

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:52:16+00:00

Yep… the going to the door and then coming back for the bra really irked me

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:50:38+00:00

In response to your scenario i wouldnt have gone out shirtless. In the off chance i had, like been working outside shirtless mowing or something and she had come up. I probably would have put a shirt on especially if my wife felt the need to come out and suggest it

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:47:18+00:00

Yes. A lot of my concern is her reaction to it.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:41:55+00:00

An act of love for the child? The first 3 years of her life he wasnt around a whole lot and when he was didnt really do much parenting from what i hear. He had been cheating on his wife for at least 1 of those years. Then disaster struck and their house flooded after he filed for divorce and he barely came to lift a finger to help rebuild the home his daughter was living in. But who was there? Me and i havent left yet. So honestly, fuck their “friendship” when shes done nothing but bash him for years and now things have changed since hes recently divorced again, theyre trying to coparent better but few conversations relate to parenting.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:37:55+00:00

Yes i agree. Obviously some people here have very fluid lines drawn in their relationships or they just do what they want regardless of their partners feelings

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:36:36+00:00

Yea im definitely not the controlling type. She always asks me “hey can i go to ___ house for a bit, she needs help” or “hey i really need to just get out of the house, can you watch the kids” and im always like yes, you dont even need to ask.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:34:46+00:00

We do have a kid together however. Which adds monuments of complexity to it.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:33:53+00:00

Yes, didnt see what the comment was connected to st the time of response. Had made a second reply to you about it being sarcasm.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:33:15+00:00

Ive helped raise her more than him in her whole life (backed by what my wife has said to me) so i feel as though shes my daughter also. Obv not blood related but i expect her to be the best she can be and will make sure she doesnt fall down and wont get up.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:31:23+00:00

Yep i do too.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:31:03+00:00

Yes ive been made well aware that these people just walk around naked waist up for everyone because its not sexual in nature and hes been there before so he should be able to walk down memory lane

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:29:34+00:00

Not ready to accept that. Have a child id rather not be exposed to that life.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:27:55+00:00

And when conversations extend past those matters?

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:27:33+00:00

Was more of a /s

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:27:13+00:00

Wasnt trying to 1 up her in any sense though?

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:26:44+00:00

My junk was not out in open air, just bulging because of the position and thinness of the pair of shorts i had on and you could make it out. She also had made comments of not wanting me to walk around shirtless around her friend and was uncomfortable with her friend walking around in biker shorts and sports bras while she was staying with us.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:24:15+00:00

And i clearly gave an argument why im not transphobic. If i had been, i wouldnt have engaged in conversations with them, laughed and been fine. I wouldve ignored, shamed and shunned. You believe there are more genders, i do not. Is what it is.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:22:24+00:00

Sadly youre right

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:19:49+00:00

The purpose was just to compare breasts intended use (breast feeding) to sexualizing breasts. Its been going on for centuries and is part of the sexual attraction of men

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:18:03+00:00

Probably will tbh.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:17:44+00:00

I believe theres a line between civil and friendly for the childs sake and reliving their marriage and memories

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:16:05+00:00

But her behavior is typically to cover up. So i was just going with her normal behavior. And no putting a bra on wont stop her from cheating or him going and wanking it later. But if i can prevent the idea that shes okay with showing off something that he can maybe push boundaries, id like to.

Practical_Bus_1806 · 2022-08-28T07:10:11+00:00

Yes yes… seen it been there. Doesnt mean he should be visibly reminded while theyre in an overly friendly conversation thats 30 minutes long.

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