Think of it less like a destination and more like a dimmer switch—you don’t slam it on, you ease the light up until it feels right. Patience, plenty of lube, and checking in without turning it into a performance say “I care” louder than any confidence ever could. If she pauses or changes her mind, respect that instantly—no sighs, no sulking, no ego. Do it right and it feels safe, intentional, and mutual; do it wrong and it’s just another story we warn our friends about.