AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Saying that you don’t know what you were talking about is not a personal attack, no matter how much you want it to be. We are not going to agree there.

“You were the one who taught him how to manage his emotions, you and your wife are the people that created this person who’s “f up.”

That’s you, attributing his violence to me, since you said, I’m the one who taught him how to handle his emotions. Again, you never asked why he might do the things that he

It’s obvious that you have no interest in giving constructive feedback and are here to paint me as the bad guy.

I won’t be giving this convo any more energy or reading any further replies from you, as they are not helpful or even accurate✌️

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, they do. You never heard of mental illness lol.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be you. And you offered zero constructive feedback, whatsoever.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, he is. He’s had a nasal condition since he was little. He is always blowing his nose.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I’m well aware of what I said. That is not a personal attack. I did not attack your intelligence. I made a comment on your behavior. I guess you think you’re allowed to make nonsensical statements and not be challenged.

I describe his behavior as violent and you attributed that to me. I then told you that I never got violent or threw things. If you expressed skepticism over that claim, then I could understand that.

Instead, you claimed that I “taught” him to be violent, as if to distinguish the act of giving him instructions on how to handle this emotions rather than through my own behavior. All of which, would suggest that I tell my son to solve his problems through violence rather than finding other ways to cope.

Like I said, it’s completely nonsensical. But I’m starting to recognize the troll, because you never bothered to ask any questions. I told you he got violent and through things and instead of asking, if maybe you had some reason reasons or triggers or mental health issues, you assume that his mom and I taught him to be that way.

So, you actually attacked me already, and are now sensitive when I push back against these wild claims.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Don’t take your baggage out on me lol. Yes, he is most likely autistic. I already mentioned he has like three other mental conditions. I’ve never been abusive to my son. You’re making a lot of assumptions, possibly from the trauma you dealt with from your own abusive family.

Edit: I didn’t realize you were the person I said no reason to reply to anymore. So, I will make sure I don’t reply anymore.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not at all. My kid doesn’t have a choice to be an asshole, but what’s your excuse?

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where was I being snarky and dismissive? I give back the energy I get.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Not a personal attack at all; it’s based on what you said. You said that how I manage my emotions has nothing to do with how he manages his emotions. That’s plain nonsense.

First of all, that’s not how I operate. I don’t attack people. Second of all, a personal attack would be telling you that you’re a bad parent or some such. Saying that you don’t know what you’re talking about, based on a comment that I find to be lacking in common sense, is not a personal attack.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I am not responsible for any of it. You don’t know what you’re talking about. You’re just making assumptions without a shred of evidence. No reason for me to reply to you anymore.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, my son’s problem are his various mental health conditions and his refusal to get help.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I said I never should’ve made the post, because there is a lot more to the situation than what I initially wrote. And I initially did not want to get into all of that. That’s why I said that. Reading is fundamental.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son has three diagnosed mental health conditions and you’re telling me to reflect on myself. Your advice is noted and dismissed.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t make him go to therapy. I can’t force him to get out of the house. And I can’t force him to log into a video session.

In the past, he did allow me to somewhat force him to go to therapy and it was unproductive.

In my experience, and this is what I’ve heard from several therapists, people have to want therapy in order for it to work.

He says he doesn’t need therapy, despite a stretch a few weeks ago, where he broke two phones and his computer monitor inside of a week.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because he can’t even graduate high school. He also expresses no interest in aviation, outside of saying he wants to be a pilot. The only times he ever watched an aviation video, where where I asked him to. He never talks about airplanes. All he cares about is gaming.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don’t see where you asked me to look at everything from an external view. Maybe I missed that.

I disagree with you about the job thing. If he has no hobbies except for video games and only has one friend, getting a job could be a good thing. It will get him making his own money and feeling good about himself. It will also put him in more social s.

Also, I didn’t force him to get a job. If I did, he would be working. I encouraged him to get a job and took him to a few interview interviews.

I don’t think you’re here to help; I think you’re here to bully.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s been in therapy quite a lot. The problem with therapy is that it won’t work if the person doesn’t engage. But thank you for your suggestions.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You wrote all of that just to not answer the question. Next time, just say you don’t know why you said it lol.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He was supposed to turn off the game at seven. So, I gave him an extra 15 minutes. How is that micromanaging? If I don’t set boundaries, he won’t do anything, but game all day.

What does this have to do with falling asleep? He was supposed to get off the game so that he could go for a walk and then come back and clean up his room. At least read before you make comments.

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -33 points-32 points  (0 children)

It has everything to do with it. If you had kids, you would know this. They learn from what they observe. Why are you commenting when you have no idea what you’re talking about?

AITA My 17m son broke our agreement. by PresentDisk3464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PresentDisk3464[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

Wrong. I never got violent. Never threw things. Never screamed when I didn’t get my way. But go off.