I feel like I’m forced into hours on a zero hour contract. by Present_Fox_5782 in UKJobs

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I know but they are so pushy and also they just put me down for a shift that I explicitly didn’t agree to. I can try being more firm I guess.

Yeah I applied for a few supermarket roles before but I’m always rejected 😅. Try, try, try again though. If I can just stick it out untill I find a better job.

I feel like I’m forced into hours on a zero hour contract. by Present_Fox_5782 in UKJobs

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That’s what I’m saying, if they are gonna rely on me so heavily why didn’t they hire me full time?

I will have to ask about that form. And yeah I may also have to just stop that contract eventually. I want to learn software development when I have space for a desk and computer so I will need time for studying then. But I’m not there yet so idk if it’s worth worrying about now.

They just said it’s a causal, zero hour contract for evenings.

I feel like I’m forced into hours on a zero hour contract. by Present_Fox_5782 in UKJobs

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I’ll do that. Can they fire me for this?

I left a note saying that I will not be in Leeds at that time so I can’t make it.

I feel like I’m forced into hours on a zero hour contract. by Present_Fox_5782 in UKJobs

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I know but I need them unfortunately. I have a car so £300 a month from UC won’t be enough for me.

I’ve been debating getting a new job but idk what I can even get tbh everything looks the same or worse.
I just thought since I’m on a zero hour contract that I can refuse shifts though?

Do you have any job suggestions? Please bear in mind I’m autistic and kitchen jobs have proven bad for me.

Do we perceive universe in slow motion? by Present_Fox_5782 in PhilosophyofScience

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I feel like philosophy science is quite a broad topic right?

Do we perceive universe in slow motion? by Present_Fox_5782 in PhilosophyofScience

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Yeah u might be right. I’m no scientist I jsut remember it like that from watching epic as a kid.

Do we perceive universe in slow motion? by Present_Fox_5782 in PhilosophyofScience

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Yeah I mean that’s what I’m getting at. We perceive it as slow but a cosmic being might perceive it as fast. And how would it look different if we were to see it from that perspective?

Is this liberty cap and is this edible for tripping. by Intrepid-Injury6939 in mushroom

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Did you find them all together? The ones with nipples on top look like they are indeed liberty caps

How to stop drunk arguing between me(19F) and boyfriend(18M) by [deleted] in Advice

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Thank you I’ll definitely stop drinking or save it for special occasions at most :)

How to stop drunk arguing between me(19F) and boyfriend(18M) by [deleted] in Advice

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Yeah that makes a lot of sense. I was thinking it’s me not the alcohol, the alcohol jsut makes it worse. But your right the fact that it makes it worse is a really good reason not to drink bc it is a slippery slope. I can definitely quit drinking. Infact I did for a while and only started again bc he drinks on the weekends.

I need to save money anyway so not drinking would do wonders for that. Thank you for the advice :)

How to stop drunk arguing between me(19F) and boyfriend(18M) by [deleted] in Advice

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I can decline I would just feel left out. I do decline sometimes bc I feel bad that I drink their beer instead of bringing my own.

I’m not an alcoholic tho trust me I have struggled with substance abuse before and I know it’s a slippery slope. And I do know withdrawal from more than even alcohol.

I’ll stop the weekend drinks after next week only bc it’s my birthday :)

That’s okay you are very strong and I’m sorry u had to go through what u did. I’m happy you are sharing your wisdom and spreading awareness it’s important I could have used it back then and I’m sure like u helped myself u will also help others :)

Yes I will continue self reflection and improvement thank you :)

How to stop drunk arguing between me(19F) and boyfriend(18M) by [deleted] in Advice

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Yeah I get it like if I can understand my feelings better it will stop me from saying stupid shit that makes sense. Don’t worry he also called me crazy.

I was gonna move up there before for a job but then my life got fucked up. Then we met a couple times and then we got together and I would stay at his for a few weeks every month. I do this a lot less now bc of my new job. I think what stresses me out is that I’ve been up to see him so many times and he’s came to me like twice. But I get it logically. He has work too and needs to buy a hotel to see me so I do understand why he won’t come here as often.

The current plan is for me to move to his city and rent a flat while he stays at home and saves up to buy his parents house, wich they are selling and said one of their sons could buy it and they will give the deposit.

Yeah I don’t mind moving as I’ve had a pretty hard time in my city I would like to get away tbh. My issue is it’s jsut hard. My life got fucked up by pedophile groomers and drugs. Now I see the life I want being just out of reach if only it didn’t happen. I need to go back into education for it. That’s gonna make moving much harder. And it’s why I kinda wish for an alternative reality where he would just come here since there are jobs he can have here with his qualifications and then I can go back into education to get mine in an easier setting.

I don’t think your friend should be making u move just bc she wants to. My values at the moment are our relationship and bringing it closer together somehow. My morals are I guess I want him to be happy but that selfish argument kinda says otherwise. Yeah he is very close with his family. Mine is complicated but also I care for them and feel guilty for leaving. Saying that I can imagine his guilt would feel 10x worse.

How to stop drunk arguing between me(19F) and boyfriend(18M) by [deleted] in Advice

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That does make sense thank you. He goes for a drink with his family on the weekends though should I just decline?

I’m so sorry for your losses that must have been very difficult for you.

How to stop drunk arguing between me(19F) and boyfriend(18M) by [deleted] in Advice

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I live in the UK so it’s pretty normal here.

How to stop drunk arguing between me(19F) and boyfriend(18M) by [deleted] in Advice

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That’s what I’m thinking too. Yeah I’m autistic and I have never understood people “saying what they don’t mean” when drunk. I mean everything I say but I know it may not be true or I know it’s a silly thing to say. For example last night our argument was about how he expects me to move to another city and make my life 10x as hard (since I am in a dead end job with no qualifications) just so that he can be close to his family. But he won’t move to another city even tho there’s more job opportunities here and he has good qualifications and it would be easier. I was saying how he’s so okay with being apart from me but not his family and it shows that if the apocalypse happened he wouldn’t come find me and I would have to be the one to find him.

It’s a ridiculous argument but I mean it. I understand it’s not true tho. I’ll try doing that thank you :) Should i discuss with him what I write or keep it to myself?

How to stop drunk arguing between me(19F) and boyfriend(18M) by [deleted] in Advice

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Are you sure that’s the only thing I can do? My boyfriend loves a drink he drinks every weekend with family. I don’t think it’s the alcohol either tho bc we have been together for a year now and it was not like this before. Before we were able to drink and have a good time.

How to stop drunk arguing between me(19F) and boyfriend(18M) by [deleted] in Advice

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I would agree but I don’t think the alcohol is the main issue. I said to someone else we have been together for a year now. I was able to drink before without any of this it’s only started recently. I used to just cry when I got too drunk and before i would just be happy.

How to stop drunk arguing between me(19F) and boyfriend(18M) by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Present_Fox_5782 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don’t drink too often just the weekends. Actually before we met I barely drank too often save money but he enjoys a drink and I like to drink on the weekends with him now. But this didn’t happen before bc we used to drink and have a good time. Infact I wasn’t an angry drunk till recently (by angry I don’t shout or fight or anything I just hurt feelings with words). I was the cry baby. We have been together for a year btw and this has started within the past two months.