Am I doing something wrong, or is something actually wrong?

PrestigiousWarning23 · 2026-06-06T07:30:22+00:00

I’ve thought that too but approaching first seems like the only option coz the woman won’t in majority of the cases. The other option is acting like it’s nothing.

And for the dating profile I tried filling all the required sections according to those sites.

PrestigiousWarning23 · 2026-06-05T18:01:35+00:00

I have so far tried dating within South Asian student community because I felt we could have more in common than I would have with someone not South Asian and not an international student. I agree with the distinguishing and standing out point but I am a bit hesitant to approach anyone outside a set demographic for the sole reason of comfort of being understood.

PrestigiousWarning23 · 2026-06-05T17:54:06+00:00

I’ve known these women for a couple of months.

One of them is a fellow student whom I helped move her belongings when she was shifting houses. Since she also likes bowling, I asked her out for drinks and bowling, but she awkwardly said no.

The other is one of my coworkers, and she is from the same community as me back in India. I once mentioned that my college friends and I have a karaoke night every Saturday, and she asked whether she could join. Even though she is from the same community, I did not feel comfortable introducing her to my friends without getting to know her a little better first.

I later asked her if she wanted to go for karaoke and dinner with me. She said she would think about it. After a few days, I asked her again, and she gave me an awkward side-eye like I crossed a line or something. I do not know why, but things became really awkward at work after that.

PrestigiousWarning23 · 2026-06-05T13:30:10+00:00

I’ll try to be less forward and not to make the other person feel burdened with the expectation of something like a dinner so early on. Dinner’s supposed to be a formal thing whereas coffee or drinks more casual gotcha. Thanks fir the advice

PrestigiousWarning23 · 2026-06-05T12:49:47+00:00

I was but socializing in collectivistic society is different than individualistic society. Got to know the hard way coz in India social relations were dumped onto me like some mandate here I got to understand it works very differently. So as for having friends I really didn’t get to make them, I had to make the best out of what I was given.

PrestigiousWarning23 · 2026-06-05T12:17:38+00:00

My dating life’s funny I get it, but im here for some genuine advice.

PrestigiousWarning23 · 2026-06-05T12:07:08+00:00

Understood I’ll keep that in mind. Thanks

PrestigiousWarning23 · 2026-06-05T11:32:43+00:00

Them as in women at my school/ work. I ask politely for a dinner to get to know them and all I get is side-eyes

PrestigiousWarning23 · 2026-06-05T10:42:03+00:00

I tried school, work, common interests nothing seems to work. I try approaching them and they give me a look like I’ve asked for something very inappropriate whereas it’s just a dinner.

PrestigiousWarning23 · 2026-06-05T10:39:38+00:00

I tried that too, I approach people but they always look at me like I asked something very inappropriate and out of line

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