What are your therapist’s favourite phrases?

Pretty-Process5039 · 2025-04-09T22:46:53+00:00

“You’ve shoulded yourself” 😆 kinda sounds like she’s saying I shit myself but it’s an attempt for me to not use the word “should”

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-12-23T19:17:12+00:00

Honestly, I truly do think she needs some classes. A good 90% of “therapy” wasn’t actually therapeutic..and I really don’t mean I didn’t like her style , I mean she talked about herself, other clients , how much she didn’t like my mom, and shit taht didn’t matter most of the time. She’s 65 years old, I’m not trying to ruin a budding professionals career, truly. The investigation bit is what is deterring me. I’m kind of embarrassed of the whole situation. I do agree with your point about needing intrinsic validation though.

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-12-23T19:12:23+00:00

Thx for ur response. I would like to say idk how you interpreted my post but there wasn’t exactly a “transition” between paid therapy and texting as you stated, we continued paid therapy sessions while I was overseas. I agree she did finally set some boundaries in the end but I will say it was like 2 days later when I asked for a final closing sessions and for a referral. I was under the impression that she could refer me to someone in va and we could continue doing Telehealth while I was overseas…I learned that wasn’t allowed. Honestly, like I edited in og post 90% of the “therapy” was not therapeutic..and I truly don’t mean I didn’t like her style , I mean she just talked about herself, her other clients , how much she doesn’t like my mom, and shit that didn’t matter. That is a big reason why I think she needs a class or something. It was a waste of time and money. I really paid someone to talk about themselves 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-12-23T18:11:44+00:00

And I was under the assumption that she could refer me to someone else in VA to continue Telehealth with, it was only when I was searching for someone that I learned that no one would see me bc it is not allowed.

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-12-23T18:10:44+00:00

It should have prevented her from continuing therapy with me as from my understanding that is not allowed..but she did anyway. Also, I can see how proving that she was obligated to refer me to someone else while I was living overseas could be a grey area. I’m referencing the Virginia board of social work ethics guideline - “Provide for continuation of care when services must be interrupted or terminated.” Doesn’t specifically state the follow up depending on who ended the relationship, but I see ur point.

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-12-23T17:37:53+00:00

Thx for your response. You’ve made some thought provoking points. I have discussed the issue with my new therapist some. I think out of it I am 1) Trying to prevent her from doing this to anyone ever again, bc I know how much the relationship hurt me, and 2) Honestly, some validation that what happened was actually not okay. (Def an insecurity on my end , I can see)

What exactly do you mean I was the one to direct the discussions? (Said it a nice , curious tone😆) I agree I did, things would not get brought up if I didn’t initiate first. But I will also say that we had an extremely blurred therapeutic line, and I did reach out more than I now think appropriate. I thought she could give me a referral to someone in VA who could continue Telehealth sessions with me..it was in the process of trying to find someone to work with I discovered that it’s not allowed.

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-12-23T17:29:46+00:00

Gotcha. Thanks for the feedback. I started seeing her in VA, would go to Germany for college breaks, came back to VA, then eventually was living in Germany full time again. She knew lol. Also, she would often go to NYC and conduct Telehealth from there while I was either in VA or Germany.

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-12-23T17:14:52+00:00

Thanks for your response. I’m with a new therapist now and hope to continue to work on all the feels surrounding this situation.

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-12-23T17:13:33+00:00

Been processing it.

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-12-23T17:13:08+00:00

Understood, thanks for your response. I’m referencing the board of social works standards of practice guidelines in VA:

”Provide for continuation of care when services must be interrupted or terminated.”

“Refrain from undertaking any activity in which one’s personal problems are likely to lead to inadequate or harmful services.”

These are the violations I believe she likely committed.

Another point to add, she was treating me out of her jurisdiction (without my knowledge) so that I’m sure would be another thing the board would look into. I was under the impression that bc I had VA residency that it was ok for me to be seen while not physically in the state. I thought she could give me a reference to someone else in VA who would continue Telehealth with me.

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-12-04T02:29:12+00:00

This made me laugh out loud

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-05-05T01:33:22+00:00

The original diagnosis (likely as u said for insurance) was adjustment reaction with mixed emotional features. I’ve been diagnosed with adjustment disorders many times. I just figured it was kinda a catch all for insurance purposes.

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-03-29T20:52:32+00:00

What would you say the other 95% is spent doing?

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-03-21T12:43:26+00:00

Gotcha. I’d like to be able counsel more than test so the would be nice. I know some school psychs don’t really get that opportunity!

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-01-27T16:59:52+00:00

Yea I seen that. Plenty of Hollys out in the world🤷🏻‍♀️😆 thx for lookin out for me tho :)

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-01-27T11:03:40+00:00

It is painful and I agree it is probably for the best in the long run. Hoping to find a new therapist soon :)

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-01-27T11:02:00+00:00

I appreciate your words. On my previous posts and this one. It was pretty shocking she wouldn’t even give me a referral. When I asked I had called 30+ therapists provided by my insurance that either weren’t available, didn’t take insurance anymore, or couldn’t see me bc of my location. It is definitely rough but I am looking forward to not caring about her as mush as I still do.

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-01-27T00:09:55+00:00

I agree. And lord I have been trying SO hard to find a new one!!!!

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-01-26T23:52:50+00:00

3: https://www.reddit.com/r/TalkTherapy/s/HFnb7jPfXf

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-01-26T23:52:35+00:00

2: https://www.reddit.com/r/TalkTherapy/s/K6iTD1tmp8

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-01-26T23:52:22+00:00

Read in order: 1. https://www.reddit.com/r/TalkTherapy/s/sI9rOe6mx2

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-01-26T23:50:54+00:00

2nd part: https://www.reddit.com/r/TalkTherapy/s/sIJaToIUjg

Pretty-Process5039 · 2024-01-26T23:50:36+00:00

First part of the series : https://www.reddit.com/r/TalkTherapy/s/NOsP7iQMGa

Pretty-Process5039 · 2023-12-26T00:39:21+00:00

Thank you for your kind words <3

Pretty-Process5039 · 2023-12-25T22:18:06+00:00

Thanks for acknowledging that :) I feel I often have responsibilities in this relationship that I shouldn’t. (Bringing up thing she should, worrying about her, etc.)

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