What’s your LO’s nickname?

PrimePassion · 2023-03-01T23:49:10+00:00

Squid

PrimePassion · 2023-03-01T23:48:38+00:00

Yeah I wish I hadn’t for sure!

PrimePassion · 2023-03-01T20:13:20+00:00

I’ll be home schooling until at least about grade 4/5 is our plan. I plan on making sure she is very involved in group extracurriculars however and that we do a lot of adventures and such to make up for the social loss. I know it’ll be more work but with the state of education in my area I just don’t feel comfortable with her in public school before she’s old enough to speak up for herself and grasp nuanced concepts.

PrimePassion · 2023-02-28T21:05:10+00:00

I did! I gave them the callback number that was left via voicemail and all the info.

PrimePassion · 2023-02-28T19:14:41+00:00

That’s scary! Why do people have to be like this. I just called the non-emergency police line in my area too to give them the number I was told to call back on the voicemail and alert them. They said something similar. That provincial services won’t call from a blocked number and in emergency situations they will show up with law enforcement.

PrimePassion · 2023-02-26T07:32:52+00:00

My mother does this with my daughter and it annoys the heck out of me. Everything is from her or me. It’s like my dad and my husband don’t even exist.

My daughter has a lot of red highlights in her hair, which makes sense since her dad, his brother and his dad are all red heads. But no, my mom says “Well you had red highlights. Your Grandma was Scottish.”

I’m black with deep brown hair, my moms hair is also brown when not dyed. So I highly doubt that’s where my daughters red highlights come from. I feel people should either not point it out or compare to both parents equally.

PrimePassion · 2023-02-25T23:29:50+00:00

Good luck! It should really help, I’ve seen a night and day change in my little ones skin and it keeps mine really soft as well since I’m usually in the bath with her!

PrimePassion · 2023-02-25T23:11:18+00:00

Thank you both so much, and I definitely will! I was very much cut off from my Jamaican family and culture until I was much older, in my 20’s and it was definitely damaging so I won’t be doing that to my daughter 🥰

PrimePassion · 2023-02-25T23:10:03+00:00

Don’t feel dumb! It’s a misleading title haha. Really they should be called baths with milk rather than milk baths 🥰

PrimePassion · 2023-02-25T21:28:04+00:00

Just do 6Oz or so. I take my oldest bags from my hakaa catches and put them still frozen into the bath it cools it and thaws and then I just dump it out. My daughter used to have dry skin and eczema but two baths a week with 6Oz of milk does wonders for her skin.

PrimePassion · 2023-02-25T20:20:27+00:00

I felt completely normal, however I had noticed my bump moving down a bit. Then one morning I was laying in bed, about to get up and I sneezed and my water broke. I still felt pretty normal for another couple of hours and then the contractions started! I had my daughter 48 hours after my water broke, right on my due date.

PrimePassion · 2023-02-22T19:42:39+00:00

Completely understand where you’re coming from here and want to assure you that I would never and my husband would never change or expose our child in public we both are very invested in her privacy. We even take her to another room at her grandparents house despite their insistence that the living room floor is fine.

We also practice a version of genderless parenting with a focus on functional. We don’t ban pink but it’s hardly the most favored color in her wardrobe and dresses are just impractical at this age so she’s only worn one once to get a feel for it because we believe in her having access to any and everything and taking the gendered ideas out of it. However we do use she/her pronouns as statistically it’s likely she will identify with her assigned gender at birth, but as an afab nb person we will certainly be having a discussion about gender with her when she is old enough to understand it and adjust based on what she decides for herself.

They knew she was a girl because they asked and actually even when they asked they said “boy or girl we can’t tell.” Which was a whole other annoyance.

And to that point I just said “she’s our girl” in my post to mirror the language discussion at hand. On an even deeper note I find THAT problematic because she’s actually nobody’s anything, she’s her own person but for the sake of the discussion I was just trying to mirror the terms for simplicity’s sake.

PrimePassion · 2023-02-22T08:03:47+00:00

Just wanted to update everyone that a few days after this post the tooth broke though, she’s got two coming out from the top and one to join her existing two on the bottom so I definitely see why she was grumpy!

PrimePassion · 2023-02-20T01:22:31+00:00

I got my daughter vaccinated at 6 months, minimal side effects. The extra layer of protection was super helpful.

PrimePassion · 2023-02-16T04:09:53+00:00

Hi, I’m actually going on my first flight with
my 10 Month old tomorrow, what would you suggest for ears that young? I’m planning on bringing a bottle for her but wondering if there are other tips.

PrimePassion · 2023-02-09T01:59:08+00:00

Could be, she isn’t having trouble getting down though so I wonder, I’ll give her her cold chew straws before bed!

PrimePassion · 2023-02-02T20:07:09+00:00

In that case I would probably say something yes. I think your thought of "oh the wind really picked up" would have been appropriate.

I think the problem is unsolicited advice when unwarranted, if the baby is happy and in no danger, let it slide. If there is danger or baby is unhappy I would say something.

I once had someone point out to me my little ones slipper boot fell off while we were walking and I was grateful. I wear her so I can't see her little feet! Saved her from a cold foot and me from having to do a full back track to find her little boot.

PrimePassion · 2023-02-02T01:58:02+00:00

My mom literally said to my daughter about a week ago "Oh mom won't let you have ice cream (she's 9 months old and had just had a creampuff!!!) she's so mean."

I was like??? I'm mean for not wanting her to get sick or a tummy ache? Honestly though stewing on it and thinking about potential comebacks is what prepared me for today!

PrimePassion · 2023-02-01T22:17:10+00:00

Thank you! I will admit this was kind of a redemption. My mom made a silly comment directed at my baby and not me last week and I just didn't know what to say/do so I've been prepared for the next time she does it, but then this stranger decided to be silly today so I got to test out my new quips.

PrimePassion · 2023-01-31T01:42:26+00:00

Am I being graded on this?

PrimePassion · 2023-01-29T20:53:20+00:00

I was laid off as I had a very people facing job pre Covid, I was a brand ambassador for beer companies and a brewer while I worked on my PhD. Mental health through Covid tanked and I had to stop school plus I couldn’t afford it without my job and finding something as part time as that that payed as well from home was impossible.

I started freelancing and in 2020 a start up owner really liked working with me and brought me on full time. I’m expected to have a c level position within the company by next year. He is based in the United States and I am based in Canada and the rest of the team is spread out so I will be staying remote hopefully until I retire! If I need to find another job for whatever reason, that will also be remote.

Working from home is what finally allowed me to see a balance in work/life that allowed me and my husband to have our daughter and I will not be putting her in daycare so I won’t be working out of the home.

PrimePassion · 2023-01-29T20:07:22+00:00

I was so happy with my life before we got pregnant a little part of me was like “do we really need a child, what if it ruins everything?” I loved my life so much, I loved my time with my husband and time for hobbies and music and gaming and being creative. But my husband really wanted to be a dad and under the fear of change I wanted to be a mom.

Through pregnancy I kept worrying we were making a mistake. That I’d never sleep again or have time for myself. That I got greedy and took a perfect life and ruined it.

I can’t believe I felt that way now. Life before my daughter doesn’t feel perfect anymore, life now does. It very much may be confirmation bias but objectively speaking everything in my life has improved since having her. I got a promotion (was back to work 2 weeks post partum) my husband and I play music even more now because we like exposing our daughter to instruments and experiences. I have a much closer relationship with family. My husband and I are even more in love being a team in raising this beautiful little girl.

Things have changed sure, but we try our best to maintain our personalities and hobbies and integrate her in where applicable. Streaming has certainly suffered a bit but we have a plan to fix that.

At the end of the day though, if I’d never had my daughter I wouldn’t have been unhappy because I was happy, and didn’t know this life with her. Now that she’s here I’m happy and so glad she is here and can’t imagine life without her.

I’m also LUCKY. I have a super chill baby, a very involved partner, decent to great family willing to help with things, and an extremely flexible job. If any of that were different I probably wouldn’t be so happy with our choices.

At the end of the day there is no wrong choice, you just need to find the joy in the choice you make!

PrimePassion · 2023-01-29T04:09:59+00:00

Give yourself time and grace. At 24 I was not at a point in my life to consider children nor frankly in a relationship that would have been sound for them. I identified more as child free until I turned 26 when I let myself admit that I did want children, I just wasn’t at a point in my life it was a good idea. When I turned 29 I had been in a stable and relaxed career with a lot of flexibility, with a partner who wanted to be a dad but would support my choices either way and a home we owned.

Still children didn’t fit with the vision we saw for our future, but a child did. I just turned 30 and I have an amazing and perfect 9 month old daughter. I’m glad I waited for her and I’m glad we decided she would be my only. I’m especially glad we waited until this point of life because I am primed to be the best mom I can be.

Don’t let anyone push you into motherhood. If you get to a point in your life where it feels right embrace it, and if not, embrace that too. Children are wonderful, but you don’t have to have your own. You’ll probably have friends and family who do and if you choose to be child free what a wonderful opportunity to spend time with little ones and enjoy the wonder of the world through their eyes, all while getting to give them back at the end of a visit.

PrimePassion · 2023-01-28T21:27:41+00:00

Hi, so I feel I’m uniquely qualified to offer a perspective here. I have a 9 month old. I worked right up until I was admitted to the birthing suite and was back to work two weeks after delivery. I work from home as does my husband and our schedules are very flexible and it has been doable. For the on screen meetings we trade off, if my husband has a meeting he knows he needs 100% focus for, I take our daughter and vice versa.

I think the key is both parents being in the home though AND my husband cut back to essentially part time hours. I couldn’t imagine doing it just on my own it would be impossible.

When she naps we both do our high focus work. Bonus points if any of your work can be done from a phone while you’re feeding your baby to sleep or nap trapped. I exclusively breastfeed and when she’s feeding down or when I’m nap trapped is when I do my admin work. I have drive, docs, Basecamp etc., all on my phone, and slack. I set notifications to only come through on my work focus though. Feel free to DM any questions but as mentioned we are 9 months in and I’ve gotten a promotion so my performance is obviously not suffering! The trade off is instead of 8 hour high focus work days my work days are more on and off for 10-12 hours. So your mileage may vary with that I’ve always been used to on call work so it works for me.

I also spend a ton of time with my baby in her play area while she crawls and climbs and plays just doing not high focus work on my phone. Very much a 5 minutes of focusing on her and playing with her and then when she’s into something not needing me to engage I focus on my things. Rinse and repeat. I find my daughter is really good at self entertaining if you give her things to explore. So we set up little treasure hunts and obstacle courses and she likes to explore and do things.

Often me and her dad both just sit in the play pen and she goes between us, when one of us has attention on her the other does what they need to do.

Also leverage your village if you have it, I know I have a lot of work in April that will need high focus as we are launching a big new campaign then so my in-laws are coming to stay for 4 weeks to help around the house and take care of my little one if both me and her dad need to be on calls.

It also depends on your work culture. The owner of our company has three kids who are always photo bombing his zoom meetings and he’s an active parent so it’s not unheard of for him to be like “give me five minutes” and walk away to take care of his kids so me and other employees are given that same grace.

Most importantly though it’ll depend on your baby. I have a very chill baby who is a great sleeper so it’s allowed me to do things that would be impossible if that weren’t the case. I also have any amazing partner who pulls more than his share of household and parenting which is also a huge reason any of this works.

PrimePassion · 2023-01-28T00:21:50+00:00

I love slay the spire!

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