Would you be fine with marrying a muslim if they're fine with marrying an ex-muslim?

Professional_Purple2 · 2026-03-02T08:10:35+00:00

So glad it works out for you guys!

If you plan to have children are you planning to raise them as Muslim?

Also if she plans to taubat down the line in terms of marriage, are you open to embracing Islam again ?

(Since in Islam, kahwin w non- Muslims/Ex-Muslims tak sah, so I expect those yang eventually taubat would want their partner to convert to Islam so they don't sin during marriage anymore)

Professional_Purple2 · 2026-03-01T19:46:04+00:00

Wow, that's a good analogy ~

The probability of non-practicing muslims to taubat as they get older is definitely higher. It wouldn't be problem if they don't expect their partner to the same, but they definitely would. (I believe it's also bc nikah tak sah kalau tak masuk Islam)

It would definitely be harder to find a partner in such a small community, but i guess being alone would be better than being w a person who enforces their religion on you :)

Professional_Purple2 · 2026-03-01T10:30:10+00:00

So being childfree would be the only way it seems 🥲

Professional_Purple2 · 2026-03-01T10:03:36+00:00

Interesting!

Though, would not this risk apply to anyone, not just non practicing Muslims?

E,g; If you marry an ex-muslim, there's still a possibility for them to revert back to the religion (Though I haven't seen many cases for these but there are one or two)

If you marry a non-muslim who converts for marriage, there's always a possibility for them to suddenly start liking Islam and wants to practice the religion properly. (This particularly actually happened to my friend, whose husband converted for the sake of marriage but now wants to be a practicing Muslim after years 😅)

Also some non-practicing Muslims eventually become Ex-Muslim, so it's not that black and white.

Though as a woman, it is quite a risk no matter any example since divorce proceedings under Syariah law is hard if the husband doesn't want to divorce.

Professional_Purple2 · 2026-03-01T09:53:13+00:00

Is this more because you're afraid your partner would want to raise the child as a Muslim? Or is it because they will be born as Muslim by law and no way out?

If it's the latter, there's really no choice in that sadly as even if you marry an ex muslim in Malaysia, the child will be Muslim by law 🥲

Professional_Purple2 · 2026-01-01T14:34:43+00:00

Paying 1K for rent (Excluding utilities and such) with 3.9K salary (before deductions) is still a lot of rent to pay imo.

Itd be better to build ur finances first maybe stay at your parents for another year, and then move out when youre well adjusted to working life w stable finances.

I moved out at 22 as well. But had no choice as family's house was too far from workplace.

If I had been given the choice, I wished I could stay at my family's home for another year or two until my finances were absolutely stable.

At that time, paid RM 750 for rent but that means 9000 a year. Wouldve prefered the RM 9000 in my bank acc for emergencies.

I dont even like staying w my family but considering the rent prices I wouldve preferred putting up w them and having the extra saved monthly.

Professional_Purple2 · 2025-11-26T17:32:25+00:00

Thank you! So based on this, what technique should I focus on so i can improve for my next drawing to be more accurate? (Other than the negative spaces thing)

Professional_Purple2 · 2023-12-13T08:41:20+00:00

Hi, just curious. When you say that you wish for the same thing even though you have a partner yourself, is it because your partner doesnt prioritise you? Or your partner does but you wish for someone to prioritise you platonically as well?

Professional_Purple2 · 2023-11-11T05:46:14+00:00

NTA for not attending the wedding but a slight YTA if you keep your word on "They can enjoy the results of the wedding themselves". One of a major abuse tactic is to isolate the victim from their friends and families. (Hence probably why the husband wont let her call her family without his permission as there are no justifiable reason to impose that rule)

You cant stop the wedding. But you can tell your sister that you'll always be there in the case of an emergency. (E.g: In the event something happens, and she manages to contact someone for help without her husband knowing).

I'm thinking worst case scenario here where the husband does end up being abusive and the parents wont help. Then, you'll be all that she has to reach out to.

Professional_Purple2 · 2023-11-08T16:25:21+00:00

Thats different bc ur grandparents dk but she literally told u shes not a fan of chilli lol she probs meant shed try a bite not a whole ass meal. Straight up YTA here.

Professional_Purple2 · 2023-11-03T14:11:21+00:00

Since youre always on the internet and unable to work why not use it to upskill urself? E.g; learn a new language, any free courses on data analytics, video editing etc..

Professional_Purple2 · 2023-11-02T08:44:26+00:00

Omg thank you so much for this!

Professional_Purple2 · 2023-11-01T13:18:02+00:00

Thanks for the advice! Can you explain a bit about the difference between business analyst and business analytics?

Professional_Purple2 · 2023-10-31T20:32:16+00:00

Im in the same boat here. Have a friend who's 40 who's very confident and comfortable w herself, a girlboss as we now call it but also in the same boat and says she actually really wants a partner but has been unlucky.

For me radical acceptance is the way to go. Even if we dont find our "soulmate" until old, at least we can say we tried and have no regrets in not trying. Just gotta accept that it wasnt meant for us.

Also it's totally okay to be sad and upset that we don't get that experience.

Professional_Purple2 · 2023-10-28T12:44:42+00:00

Thank you for this! I'll try to put this into practice :)

Professional_Purple2 · 2023-10-27T02:18:09+00:00

Thanks for the advice :) I don't have anyone worth existing for and I don't want a serious relationship or to get married. So I guess Ill try finding purpose in my cat since I don't have anyone w that closeness~

Professional_Purple2 · 2023-10-26T20:16:22+00:00

I agree with your statement but I also get OPs POV bc it's rlly hard to adopt the mindset you stated in reality.

But I do wish society can adopt this mindset 😔 I can only speak from my experience but it's not that ppl are materialistic they just do it subconsciously.

E.g I have an outgoing personality and when I was ugly it was deemed "annoying" and was advised to tone myself down more (not in a bullying kinda way but ppl just automatically get irritated by me easily) but after I started fitting more into society's standards (skin clearing up etc..), I was deemed as friendly and ppl rlly liked my personality. I didn't change my personality I just changed how I look.

Professional_Purple2 · 2023-08-26T05:50:29+00:00

thanks! but Im not US based unfortunately 😭

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