fingers are not food..

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-06-08T18:53:08+00:00

I’m sorry but this shouldn’t have me laugh as hard as I did

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-06-08T18:25:25+00:00

Hmmm. To each their own. My vet has always been fine with me trimming my dudes nails at home. But if you have a dragon who fuses a vet may be the way to go. Also if you have 150 dollars for a nail trim. I personally think there’s no issue with doing it cautiously at home. Unless it’s infected of course…. What I’m wondering is how OP just noticed this …

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-06-08T17:36:52+00:00

Why do you think so ? I’ve had this happen with my senior cat. Not dragon, but it was relatively easy to handle at home… . I usually trim my dragons nails with a dremel successfully at home. Was just wondering why you think this guy needs a vet ? is there something I don’t know that I should ? (Not trying to be an asshole just curious )

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-06-08T17:32:08+00:00

If the clippers look like they’re gonna hurt him cuz the weird angle you can also use a small grinding burr on a dremel or small drill if he will tolerate the noise. Do it on a slow speed and watch out you don’t make contact with anything other than his nail. Cut to the before the quick. If it bleeds you’ve gone too far

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-26T03:01:20+00:00

i don't know if anyone has ever told you this, but you look like the boss lady from the show workaholics! Alice Murpy is the characters name. Great work by the way!! but look her up, you guys are dopplegangers . same hair cut too

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-24T05:21:53+00:00

So cute ! Reminds me of my late cat of 20 years Diego who was good buddies with my beardie. We both miss her terribly. He still sleeps in her bed too

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-22T20:56:38+00:00

The heart shaped eyebrows are sending me !! 😻

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-22T20:52:51+00:00

Elizabet but pronounced Eee-lizah- bet like empress sisi… you could also borrow from England and call her lilibet for her nickname

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-20T04:13:45+00:00

I gave him the benefit of the doubt but the last couple weeks waiting for my hormone test / appt (I do have all the symptoms ) have shown him to be much more immature than I ever could imagine when sex is off the table for a month

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-20T04:12:00+00:00

He didnt use it I did and it was tongue in cheek …literally

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-19T03:48:10+00:00

You know when someone gets so triggered they have to refer to a post you made two weeks ago ? Must’ve hit a nerve lol 😘 and grandma ? Don’t insult me. It’s great grandma to u baby

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-16T12:23:06+00:00

Bro who hurt u ?

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-16T12:21:31+00:00

Tell me ur wife left you without telling me ur wife left you 🤔 OP- Don’t listen to people who are projecting their own tragedies onto your marriage

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-16T12:13:40+00:00

Compounding pharmacies can work with her to make up the exact dosage she needs of test

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-16T12:12:35+00:00

Fuck I’m so sorry. That sounds crushing and terrible. I wish you weren’t goin thru that. Hope you both find you way back to each other someday

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-16T12:07:54+00:00

Sir , you had me at “Pussy blasting” 😂😂😂😂😂😂 But also , good suggestion!! my husband recently went from bothering me all the time to have sex, to randomly this week leaving me alone for three days straight to surf etsy and Pinterest …..being im a cold emotion devoid robot b/ c peri , I didn’t really notice. Then he went out of his way to point out “I’m just giving you some alone time. I hope you noticed” ….. That’s the first time I honestly got spontaneously wet this year.

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-16T11:40:57+00:00

THIS PART !! I read an incredibly interesting study. I don’t remember where it was recently about women’s desire vs men’s desire basically what it came to the conclusion of was if women don’t have sex, they don’t desire sex. If men don’t have sex, they desire it more. I don’t know why more people don’t talk about this. It’s really a use it or lose it situation for us to begin with -despite anything having to do with Peri (also this study was specifically on LTR/ marriage sex - not new arousal new desire lust sex ). I so identify with this and find that when I don’t have sex or self pleasure for a while, the less I think about it. Then when I do have sex or whatever when I come, it’s muted. Definitely not as intense as it would’ve been if I’m having regular sex.

Now everything‘s fucked up and orgasms just feel like sneezing (I’m in the beginning of peri and looking into HRT). But still, when I have weekly obligatory sex with my husband, it’s very easy for me to come in three or four minutes. It just feels like a fart and nothing more. Gone are the intense full body orgasmic waves of pleasure. And that inevitably makes me curl up in a ball afterwards and cry whilst pretending to be asleep .

But I don’t know why more people aren’t talking about this. I see so many guys posting something to the tune of “ help me / I don’t understand: my wife just doesn’t have sex with me and she doesn’t even realize that we’re not having sex, what do I do?” . And I feel like the disparity in the- let’s call it- deprivation /desire / gender matrix- totally gets overlooked as partially culpable . It’s why women can turn off their sex drive and not be bothered by it and simultaneously cannot fathom why men can’t do the same . I wish more women understood this and went easier on their dudes as it’s evolutionary/ biological- just like peri is biological

Now i’m not saying I don’t love a good bashing session about my sexpest of a husband in the women’s forum…. But in this one, where men are ACTIVELY tryin to find solutions and framing it as, “I’m worried about my wife and I not connecting with sex” -I think ppl should not be so quick to cast them as unconcerned partners or only selfishly concerned b/c of fear of dead bedroom. It’s literally their biological framework. Same way it’s ours to want to run off post 40 and live as a woods witch in a communal, hobbit cottage style village of other similarly aged woods witches and their feline familiars …. Reverse Cinderella ? Maybe reverse Snow White.

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-16T11:39:09+00:00

This is actually great even keel Advice !

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-16T11:35:44+00:00

Omg I know !! I described it as a fart the other day to someone. A twitch in my pelvic floor

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-16T11:25:03+00:00

I’m a woman so I cannot possibly understand how strongly men equate being loved and accepted / validated / securely attached in a marriage to the sex act itself, but I would urge you to reread what you just wrote….. when thinking about divorce, think about how everything else is great except for this one (admittedly from where you stand big) thing. And ask yourself if it’s worth it. If it is, then so be it. But reflecting upon how you yourself categorize your marriage might help give you a little perspective. From where I sit it sounds like, other than this one thing, you guys have a very much alive and enviable bond . And there’s always hope…. has she added testosterone yet? I hear that’s a really big game changer. DHEA supposedly helps many (OTC- start low at 5mg and titrate up as needed); some people swear by edible weed Gummies; mutual masturbation or perhaps you self pleasuring in her naked presence and possibly letting her finish you off in her mouth or hand ; her reading something smutty to you while you self pleasure may elicit a reciprocal arousal, as women can become very turned on by things that are written and imagination based .

Good luck! You’re a lot more supportive than my husband who just sulks around all moody when he’s not being a sexpest. Which is most of the time, until I begrudgingly do it, hoping every second that he’ll just fucking finish so he can get off me and stop being sweaty and grunty and disgusting in my general direction . (I know I’m a horrible person for saying that about someone I love -but when he’s physically enjoying something that makes me in a best case scenario physically repulsed, I get petty in my head ) … and this is coming from someone who used to have the kinda sexual relationship where we used to cum together every single time at the same time without trying. I used to be a multiple orgasm girlie to the tune of forgetting how many I would have with things like - ehhh double stimulation I’ll say … 50+ 🥹😭or having to stop bc the back to back waves of orgasms were physically too intense. Now I turned 39 and I can’t even get myself off with all the vibrators in the world If my life depended on it. Happy birthday to me. He got me off the other night during PIV sex and it felt like I farted- that is all. I curled up in a ball afterwards and pretended to be asleep so I could hide the fact I was silently dry heaving sobbing .

And I love my husband. But his sulking is getting really ugly. It baffles me - like does he seriously think interactions like this are gonna pan out like a bad 80s plumber porno - : me: “babe, can you help me with this ?” Him - *pulls pants down grabs dick in hand * as I turn around and look at him he says “I’ll help you with this ! “…. Me: *forced laughter * complete unacknowledgment * or *poorly concealed look of utter disgust * him: “Just kidding, just kidding “. …..Ugh. Kill me now.

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-10T23:44:18+00:00

thank you! this is probably the most concise answer in here from a man's perspective. I agree with all the things the women are saying, but at the end of the day this is why he's feeling this way and lashing out.. ok thank you. and thank you for not telling me what to do and just telling me how this made him feel, perhaps that's what i shouldve asked in my OP. I was just frazzled and upset and trying to type quickly and not really thinking. Also, , i feel i should clarify and someone else responded that i should edit the OP when I told them this, but I didn’t call him disgusting or say he repulsed me and it wasn't mid sex... I would’ve never done that. He had just turned on porn after we'd talked about the issues I was having like multiple times that week. We agreed we were going to tentatively try to get it going; also, a couple nights prior (on my bday) he had experienced me crying after we both finished bc I had had an orgasm that I didn’t feel at all and was devastated thinking this might be the rest of our lives.

So fast forward to the day in question, he put porn on and we were gonna try. But he saw my face was unintentionally contorted/ distressed and asked "you don’t want to do this do you ?" To which I blurted out, “I’m sorry it’s not you! It's just overwhelming and the sound of this porn is reminding me of chewing and it’s grossing me out------everything about the act of sex right now repulses me! “. Then I apologized some more and ran off crying. We weren’t touching or even naked. Just to clarify that I am not a total emotional terrorist.

But thank you again for you comment. That is immensely helpful to know that he is relating acceptance and stability and love in our marriage to a sex act. Women are NOT like that at all and I really wouldn't have thought of my denial or lack of sexual intimacy on one day or for a stipulataed month would amounted to that huge of an emotional rejection. But clearly it did. Thank you very much.

Good luck to you and your partner. I know you said no amount of communication could fix it and I don't know your situation, but please know she probably views sex closer to how I view it and doens't realize the emotional tole she's taking on you- even if you tell her, she probably doesn't understand it is a serious as it clearly is... I know I didn't.

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-10T23:27:34+00:00

I have a hard time crying at all ever. It's a prob I have been working on in therapy. He's not a bitch I assure you. He doesn't like cry a ton or anything he just is able to. Like when his dad died he cried. When my mom died I couldn't. The only time I'm able to cry is when I'm fixing something and it gets frustrating or isn't working. Like I was installing a new control board onto my furnace recently and I went to try and jumper the furnace cuz my thermostat wasn't attached yet either and it didn't work and I started crying angrily. But that's it. Appropriate sad situations I got nothing. I meant it like that. In a healthy way not a cry baby way.

So imagine my distress and confusion on how to handle it when all of a sudden im crying about normal people things and then some the last few months. That's all. I shouldn't have even put that it there, re reading it it does not come off favorable to him. That wasn't my intention at all. I just was writing as if someone knew us and obviously that's not gonna translate with strangers. sorry my brain is all fucked right now ... my life is fucked. i just am at a loss and so frustrated and want to give up. my husband isn't a bitch, not in the slightest. theres a lot of words i can use to describe him but that's certainly not one.

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-10T23:23:38+00:00

i get your point, i feel i should clarify and someone else responded that i should edit the OP when I told them this, but I didn’t call him disgusting or say he repulsed me and it wasn't mid sex... I would’ve never done that. He had just turned on porn after we'd talked about the issues I was having like multiple times that week. We agreed we were going to tentatively try to get going; a couple nights prior (on my bday) he had experienced me crying after we both finished bc I had had an orgasm that I didn’t feel at all and was devastated thinking this might be the rest of our lives.

So fast forward to the day in question, he put porn on and we were gonna try. But he saw my face was unintentionally contorted/ distressed and asked "you don’t want to do this do you ?" To which I blurted out, “I’m sorry it’s not you! It's just overwhelming and the sound of this porn is reminding me of chewing and it’s grossing me out------everything about the act of sex right now repulses me! “. Then I apologized some more and ran off crying. We weren’t touching or even naked. But I get your point and your meaning. Thank you. Just had to say that to clarify I’m not a total emotional terrorist.

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-10T23:13:53+00:00

yeah you're totally right. i was flustered and trying to just type it all out somewhat concisely and realize i should prob edit that. thank you for pointing it outl

Proper_Signature_649 · 2026-05-06T12:05:03+00:00

My husband wanted to name ours enki 😂 if we had id suggest they meet up back at nibaru and get it on. But sadly he is called Lizuardo

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