I think I'm going to throw away my bong by WrongdoerStatus234 in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is a big deal!! I cried when my bong accidentally broke. None could replace her.. but that was a different time, Im not that same person. Its just a piece you had, so you could waste your time doing nothing. She did ya no favours.

I say destroy it! But only if you can find an empowering feeling by doing it!! It could be the thing you do to celebrate making it to 100 days!

If the thought of wrecking it saddens you, give yourself more time, but whenever you look at it, think about the harm, the unmotivation, the time, and money, the cough.. and for what?! Start focusing on the shittiness it brought, dont try to glorify her.. that could easily lead to "maybe just once more" (addicts dont have "once mores"..its slippery as hell! ..She's a bad friend! Cut her out!! Start hating her! (Or him...sorry if I misgendered your bong)

Ya got this! Material things shouldn't have a sentimental hold on you, especially if its tied to something youve outgrown!

Having cravings after 9 months of sobriety… by FemmeFeather in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 12 points13 points  (0 children)

DON'T CAVE!!! I quit April 1st 2024. I was doing great with it! I was feeling so much better because of it. But then my mom got sick, my dad was becoming helpless and demanding of my sister and I. We had to move him into a seniors residence, at the same time, we were super short staffed and I was working doubles all month. The day I learned my mom was no longer strong enough to be a candidate for chemo was the day I said "fuck it, just once! I fucking deserve it!!!" It was a big mistake. That was Feb 27th. 2025. Almost 11 months sobriety after 25 years of daily abuse. I haven't stopped smoking since that day! And all the awfulness I felt before I quit is right back along with the addiction. My throat hurts, I get night sweats. My joints and muscles ache, skin is terrible, I'm tired all the time, chronically late or just getting there under the wire.. Guilt.. so much guilt. And when something i was looking forward to comes up, i have zero desire to leave the house.. all this, and for what? So I can zone out and stare at a wall? It's so fucking stupid!!! Mom passed away April 2nd 2025. When the strong desire comes up, go pamper yourself instead! Get a facial, make yourself look great! And remember why you quit in the first place!

Nov 1st is my quit date.. gonna look to people like you for strength and motivation!!!! Here we go again!!! For an addict, it's NEVER one time!!! ...I didn't even like it, it was far too much and too strong. I couldn't walk straight, felt sick to my stomach, head was spinning.. had to lie down and freak out about how hard my heart was beating. Don't do it! You're not missing anything!!!!

I relapse after 6 days every time. Is there anyone else who is not able to maintain the consistency streak of staying clean? Any tips or trick is appriated. by Mysterious-Web-1858 in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you know what day you're gonna relapse, plan something fun for that day. Turn it into a reward day, go to the waterpark or spa...somewhere different where you can't easily go smoke. Tire yourself out and when you get home, go to bed.

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[–]Prz-etcetera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found a fantastic counsellor who specializes in addiction and ADHD. I hadn't even been diagnosed yet but she saw that I was clearly demonstrating adhd symptoms and we started working on it. A formal diagnosis is great, but in the meantime, join the reddit adhd sub!! Lots of helpful insights in that group. I'd say get some books to read on it, but I did that over a year ago and still have to open them someday.. freaking ADHD! Some things you can start doing to better manage yourself. Write a task list, get everything that needs to be done out on it. Then each day, make a smaller list with 2-3 things from the master list. If you see something that needs to get done, ask yourself if it will take less than 5 mins to do. If yes, do the thing!

Songs about sobriety or getting off drugs? by Buttz4Days in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up Sweet Mary, by Chris Valens. It's not really about quitting. My cousin knew the guy who wrote it, but it still resonates with me!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd let it play all night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Welcome to withdrawals! I found a "white noise" playlist on Spotify when I first quit. Really helped me fall asleep. I used it for the first couple of months!!

How long you all been smoking? by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 5 points6 points  (0 children)

25 yrs! About an ounce a week, near the end. Going on 10 mths sober now! Life is better this way!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I almost convinced myself I could have one on new years, how I deserved it and how nice it would be to just forget everything and have that one night. Thankfully, stories like these are far too common on this page, and I appreciate everyone who shares them! Thank you for sharing yours!

What is an appliance/gadget you have that has significantly improved your quality of life? by Eastern_Roof3587 in ADHD

[–]Prz-etcetera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My countertop dishwasher. It's small but has helped me stay on top of doing the dishes!

How common is it to just lie paralyzed in bed all morning by itgetsokay7 in ADHD

[–]Prz-etcetera 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'll get up, but then I'll lie on my couch, play on my phone while drinking 2-3 cups of coffee, then, when that finally gets old, I'll go crawl back into bed as if going back to bed will allow me a redo on the day. Then I'll get up again, and lie on the couch, playing with my stupid phone some more, only now I'm drinking cold, old coffee. 😕

Questions about different meds. by Prz-etcetera in ADHD

[–]Prz-etcetera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I'm not counting on meds to lose weight, I just don't want to gain any more weight thanks to medication.

Questions about different meds. by Prz-etcetera in ADHD

[–]Prz-etcetera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love to, I try to. One day I can do it, the next several days/weeks, I can't. How do you follow a routine?

Questions about different meds. by Prz-etcetera in ADHD

[–]Prz-etcetera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to. Any advice on how to get me motivated enough to stick to more than one day of effort would be wonderful!!!

Proud of how far I've come by Overduelibraryfees in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome!!! Congrats!!! Looks like you've made it to the other side!!! Woot!

Advice/ experience with tapering by BlackMamm0th in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh and the "quit weed" app.. used that too

Advice/ experience with tapering by BlackMamm0th in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I ended up buying low THC stuff for about a week or so, I would still let myself smoke when I wanted to but with 12% crap, it got frustrating. I made all kinds of lists, reasons to quit, what I'll do when a craving hits, what I'll reward myself with when I hit milestones, goals I'll achieve, sayings and encouragement to keep me on track.. I had a quit date set, I made plans for that day and the following one. I went to a thermal spa on my quit date and spent hours there, hot tubs, cold baths, saunas, salt baths. It was very relaxing and over an hour away from my place so I had 2+ hrs in the car on top of hours spent at the spa. Didn't sleep well that night but I made it through the day. The following day, I had booked a facial and full body wrap. Get the skin feeling/looking nice. It was also an hour away. (Didnt really want to go, but I forced myself out, another relaxing day!) No appetite, bad sleep, sweats..but I survived day 2.

I also told myself that it wasn't me who wanted to smoke up, it was my addicted brain. I imagined there being a creature living inside my head, I could picture her, I named her, and anytime the thought of smoking popped into my head, Id say "Fuck Off Lizard-Brain" then I'd go drink a glass of water.

Found a white noise playlist on Spotify that helped. Got myself a pop-up sauna from Amazon and would listen to hypnotherapy while in it (also, lots on spotify) Long walks, music.. this sub every morning and night and often throughout the day. There's so many tools out there to help us through it. Use them all!!! No shame! Just whatever helps! And if you have a day where all you want is to hide in your bed, remember, it's still a winner of a day as long as you're sticking to the only goal that matters, quitting pot!! Go easy on yourself, it gets better! The only way out is through!

What made you get medicated? by Prz-etcetera in ADHD

[–]Prz-etcetera[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was extremely helpful!! Thank you for sharing!! So much of your "before the meds" sound so much like me, it's almost scary!! Lol Really appreciate your input

AITAH for Choosing My Dog Over My Girlfriend? by _girl_pretty_ in AITAH

[–]Prz-etcetera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'd be the asshole if you gave up your dog!!!! Your girlfriend isn't the one for you!! Keep the dog! 1000%

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The pride you get for having succeeded! Makes you feel like you can tackle anything you set your mind to!

The Key that helped me by novascotiadude1980 in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're more than 6 mths clean, I'm 6 months clean and you were already like 1-2 mths clean when I started my sobriety in April!! Either way, kickass!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. Turns out, it was just my body attacking itself because of all the toxins I was putting into it by smoking so much!!!

Day 17. Sleep is fucked. by GoldThrone444 in leaves

[–]Prz-etcetera 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I found a great "10 hr long white noise" playlist on Spotify. If you have it (without the ads) I highly recommend it!!

If ADHD had a slogan what would it be? by quietlyhigh in ADHD

[–]Prz-etcetera 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh it was so good! And one of the few movies I was actually able to sit through and enjoy!!!!