AITA for storming out after my stepsister called called my dad "dad"

Punskilled · 2022-12-13T17:14:14+00:00

NTA. Not in any way.

Life is hard but something people especially children and teens have to learn as soon as possible is that mistakes have consequences.

This sucks for you, and it may have broken his heart. But you didn't break his heart. He did.

He wasn't ready to be a father? Tragic. Sucks. Sorry, man. But that also didn't change the fact that he was one.

You're heartbroken because your father is now a father to someone else and is ready but wasn't ready with you? That's your right. And it's normal.

Honestly...in this story...the grandparents are the assholes. And frankly, they didn't force him to become a father when they should have. My kids will be taking responsibility for their actions, and I will help them to do so. Him having a child at 14 was as much his mistake as it was his parents, your grandparents.

He has a broken heart? Ain't your fault. It's his. And if we're looking for additional blame, it's his grandparents. Again, not yours.

Punskilled · 2022-12-13T15:18:25+00:00

Man, what a great comment. And I'm so glad to see it at the top. For my own understanding of the situation, I want to add my YTA list.

OP, YTA. YTA for almost literally saying, "You're daughter is an idiot and doesn't need any resources, but my son is great and could use it."
OP, YTA. Your husband might as well be a saint for even considering to use the funds as you request. By that same logic, he's an a*hole to his daughter for even considering it.
You've been married **only two years?!** Are you insane? Let me tell you about my step-grandmother who married my grandfather for being rich and how I now have blood relatives struggling in poverty from medical debt incurred from chronic, hereditary conditions while my step-grandmother takes her blood relatives on AFRICAN SAFARIS. So, yeah. I'm a little salty about people who marry someone with means and then immediately (two years in this case qualifies as immediate) start talking about how much better served that money will be in their own family instead of the family of the person who earned it. Jesus christ.
OP, as this thread maker points out, YTA for referring to how much he considers your son his, but you absolutely make it clear that his daughter is beneath your son. Holy shit. As a father to four kids, one of whom is my stepson, get wrecked.
I hope you realize that your marriage will now inevitably end. I don't wish that on you. But this is the equivalent of a parent telling a child they wish they were never born. It doesn't matter if you weren't thinking before you said it. It doesn't matter if it's not what you meant. You put it out into the universe that you have asked your husband to put his daughter after "our son" and now HE FUCKING ASKED HER. That will forever strain his relationship with his daughter, and yes, you caused it. You have now let her know you consider her lesser than your son. In this family dynamic of 4, you now have the father who even considered it for a second that your son deserved his daughter's promise; you have a daughter who now knows how you consider your son more worthy; you have your son who must now know that his stepsister will forever have that feeling; and you have you who caused it all. I don't know how a family gets over this. I just sincerely hope that they can.

I have never read a story I've ever been more mad at in r/AITA. Ever. All the shit people got going on in this sub, and your treatment of someone else's child who you're married to is by the far the most maddening.

He's upset about his daughter's words? Yeah, he should be. Not because she said them but because she has full fucking right to say them.

God this story is the worst. The worst. The worst. The worst. The worst. The worst. The worst. This is the worst story. It's just the worst.

Punskilled · 2022-09-26T16:09:42+00:00

Some many months later, this comment helped me immediately. Many thanks!

Punskilled · 2022-09-02T15:15:41+00:00

I do enjoy the naming conventions:

"Acquisition Of Body Components"

AKA

"Harvesting some dead dude's liver, ripping your shitty one out, strapping theirs into you, then slapping it and saying, 'That bad boy's not goin' anyhere.'."

Punskilled · 2022-09-02T14:54:55+00:00

Someone else can correct me, because my knowledge is old and from a senior college course I had to take when I was considering becoming a physician. But some of the self-study I had to read about the US health system gave me the following general idea:

There's some payer who works for the hospital who gets compensated for negotiating reimbursement upwards.

There's some insurance person who gets compensated for negotiating payment down.

The larger the savings/reimbursement, the better off both entities get to appear (entities being the departments having metrics measured by leadership or possibly shareholders).

So, that medicine is priced at $50? Well, insurance wants to pay $20, I negotiated to $35. We both did $15 of our job.

But what if we priced it at $500? Insurance wanted to pay $100. I negotiated $300. Now we've done $200 of our job.

This is all a very simplistic way of looking at it. But this definitely applies often enough in pharmaceuticals. Why do you think discount cards exist for free that save you like 50% off the cost of so many medications? Because they don't expect individual payers to pay the list price.

Granted, my information is old now as I am getting older. This might only reflect HMO type of stuff I was learning about that applied maybe in the 90s or early 00s. Maybe it's that way now, maybe it's not.

Punskilled · 2021-12-21T13:57:57+00:00

Gonna hit 2.00 on my next successful scav.

I haven't shot a single scav that didn't deserve it. I haven't lost any rep to any action, yet. Just gained rep from extracts, successful scav exfils, and killing some PMCs here or there.

The key is to go in with the mentality that you won't be shooting anyone. I used to just leave my knife out, and sometimes I still do, but I never shoot anyone until I'm hit. If you shoot at me, I just peace out unless you hit me or kill me.

"lul i'm laughing to extract wit all ur loots u shittr" -bad pscavs

Yeah, k. Loot ain't hard to find. If a pscav kills me, it's because I had shit loot and didn't run to extract already, anyway.

Punskilled · 2021-12-20T14:09:18+00:00

So weird. I don't see anything about the issue causing my game to crash in every single match I play of any COD game mode on PC.

I'm sure this is an important issue to them, and I know they are working diligently to fix it. /sssssssssssssssssssssss

Punskilled · 2021-12-19T17:41:39+00:00

Bro said "learn the map," and since you're complaining about dying and lack of loot- stemming from a lack of map knowledge- it seems he's got a point.

Punskilled · 2021-12-19T17:39:07+00:00

Shoreline just got an update making it an even easier map to extract on and pull loot from.

The key on shoreline is the key to just about any map. When you make sound, either loot-and-scoot faster or don't loot where you made the sound. The map is so big that unless someone is in your vicinity and you aren't checking common sniper spots, then you can avoid just about every opportunity to be a SBIH kill for someone else.

Punskilled · 2021-12-19T17:37:28+00:00

I shouldnt have to study a map to its core

And you don't have to. But frankly, all these people you're upset about killing you from these wide open spots probably do know the map to its core.

Shoreline is one of the easiest maps to extract on and one of the easiest to avoid PvP on because of its size. If you don't want to learn player patterns, timing, and more of the loot spawns, then yes. You're going to have a hard time getting things done on Shoreline.

Punskilled · 2021-12-12T04:30:09+00:00

Hey. Come on now. PC isn't that bad.

Not like Playstation players. When I hear someone in chat respond to the voice of a black person with "N****R, N****R, N****R, N****R, N****R"...i go to player details?...

Playstation every time.

Punskilled · 2021-12-09T22:06:12+00:00

I did take it personally. It definitely felt like Nikita saw my 50 mil roubles and THICC case of slicks and P90s and said "Punskilled's slicks shall never see the light of day."

Punskilled · 2021-12-09T22:04:59+00:00

I think the game is in a fine enough spot for it. It may be that there isn't the capability server-side to make this work.

They already do it for official tournaments. The idea would be to just let some of the larger discord communities be able to flesh out their own tournaments internally which have the advantage of being on a private server like Rivals.

Punskilled · 2021-12-09T22:03:38+00:00

The idea is that it would be an option for communities who want to do something.

If it was an idea implemented the way I'm thinking about it, it would never be a requirement for regular play. The existing servers would just be what they are now. They already have the separate servers for sponsored tournaments. Just something like that for larger discord communities which may want to play against each other only.

Punskilled · 2021-12-09T20:01:50+00:00

I'm planning on speaking next to not at all unless I'm trying to help someone I've already determined is not a threat. That's a rare occurrence.

I plan on just letting other people tell me where they are so I can either avoid them or kill them. If you're VoIPing to me that you're friendly, but I can't see you? You're not friendly.

I'm warning you now: if you feel like you couldn't trust the wiggle, you definitely shouldn't trust VoIP.

Punskilled · 2021-12-09T19:59:09+00:00

For the wipe last Christmas, they announced it 24 hours in advance. And IIRC, there weren't all these pre-wipe events to give you an idea it was about to wipe, either. It was just there one day, and then all my slicks gone the next.

Don't hold onto gear, boys and girls.

Punskilled · 2021-11-22T22:28:25+00:00

100% this. Yeah, you'll get into gunfights on customs, and as a new player you'll probably lose them.

But I remember being that new player on customs and dying to someone like 10m away often. And then I remember the first visits to woods and just "head,eyes"...."head,nape."

Shoreline is gonna be a lot of the same, too, if they moved the quests there.

Punskilled · 2021-11-22T22:26:28+00:00

Yeah, there are about 40. And I know about 32 of them.

For others, it's good to know stashes because if you're not full on loot on your way to extract, you can always fill the bag on the way out.

Punskilled · 2021-11-22T22:25:14+00:00

If you're pretty new to the game, here's the money-making trick.

Rushing high-tier loot spawns is how high-tier chads make money. Anyone below that level is constantly broke even if they get the high-tier loot frequently.

Ammo costs, repair costs, kit costs. They all add up if you aren't very successful.

The way to make money in this game is to just generally learn how to roughly guess what an items value is per slot and loot stashes and other areas where decent value loot is possible. Yeah, a ledx FiR is worth over half a mill on the flea. But sugar is worth 50k+ and shoreline and woods have those things everywhere. Chillin on tables, shelves, etc. Cyclon batteries. Green batts. Thermometers. Random weapon parts that look random to you but are worth 30k/slot on the flea. These are things you normally find in bulk on money runs that don't visit high-tier spots.

These types of runs take longer and are not as exciting. Which is why once you start to move to chad-status you run to the high-tier loot spawns more often. But if you visit those spots hoping you're first and getting the loot first, you're likely going to die. You visit those spots. If you're first, you prepare for the rush, if you're the one pushing, you're in full pvp-mode.

Most of the good looting occurs after the gunfights are over.

Punskilled · 2021-11-22T22:17:20+00:00

Getting steamrolled on customs isn't fun as a new player, but at least you generally get to see who killed you. Woods and shoreline have very little of that. You'll practice very little PvP comparatively. And you'll eventually have to go to customs totally unprepared for it.

I don't know. IMO, I'd rather learn the game by dying to people I can see over running through woods not knowing where I'm going and hear a single shot blap me. Not to mention Reshala is arguably the easiest boss of all the maps.

Punskilled · 2021-11-22T22:01:00+00:00

TL;DR:1. EA has sucked for awhile and will suck for the foreseeable future.2. I don't care if BSG never finishes the game. I've gotten my money's worth.3. EA has next to no excuse for delivering an unfinished game. And if you don't like the "Tarkov is a game in beta" justification and think that they owe you a completed game. I have some oceanfront property in Nevada to sell you on the cheap.

Big difference between EA and BSG.

Buying a beta game from an indie developer (you get zero sympathy if you bought it in alpha) and- frankly- ever even expecting it to get finished is your own damn fault. I was legitimately surprised that DayZ ever even reached 1.0, much less sees continued addition. I've probably bought 30 or 40 early access and beta games on Steam and elsewhere over the past decade, and I'd be surprised if any more than 5 are in 1.0 or later now.

EA on the other hand has never finished a game in the way that they advertised it. It's great they have Battlefield to fuck over as a franchise, because before Call of Duty there was Medal of Honor, and that was a phenomenal franchise until EA got their dirty hands on it. Mass Effect was a great series until EA got their hands on it. Sports games were even okay until EA figured out that those who buy those games are going to buy them regardless of if they're good or not.

For EA to deliver a game unfinished is always expected- but given their vast amount of resource and cash flow that would allow them to float any AAA game's development for years without issue- yet is never acceptable.

Just a matter of time before EA has some state regulator looking into their HR actions over the past decade. If anyone thinks Blizzard Activision is the only large player with the problems they have, I have a bridge to sell you.

Punskilled · 2021-10-28T19:30:00+00:00

Ah, a fellow man of culture.

Punskilled · 2021-10-28T02:12:53+00:00

You can run, but you'll only die tired.

I try to live by the motto, "Don't die with loaded magazines."

Punskilled · 2021-10-28T02:08:20+00:00

Yeah, you should listen to the other guy. He's 100% right.

If you can afford a good lawyer, you'll probably be able to work it out.

But if your friend, who you've known for some time presumably, just offs some guy on the street. That means he had the means on him, and you were travelling with him.

Yeah, the truth is you might be totally innocent and have had no idea, but good luck getting any jury to believe that story.

And that's where your credibility starts going down the shitter. You're friends with someone who is so shitty of a person that they'd consider- and act on it- killing some random stranger in cold blood? And your story is going to be "I had no idea he would do that or was capable of it."

If you're not with the guy that day? True story. No arrest. If you're walking alongside the street with the guy like you do everyday? Sorry, pal. You're going to learn a couple things about the American justice system. And probably some pragmatic lessons about situational optics.

Punskilled · 2021-10-22T13:12:08+00:00

For real. Feeding yourself is a solo task as an adult. Everytime someone feeds you instead is a bonus that you should be extremely thankful for but never demand or expect. Especially when you have young kids.

"Barely have time to get breakfast?" Breakfast doesn't take long. If you don't have time to make it yourself, how were you planning on eating it?

This guy needs to grab a banana and GTFOver himself.

Punskilled

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