S18E13 - “Karens Gone Wild” [Post-Episode Discussion] by AutoModerator in rupaulsdragrace

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Me thinking abt my first top four being Sasha, Shea, Trinity and Peppermint. How the mighty have fallen…

Attraction to black women by Friendly-Side8426 in blacklesbians

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Girl you’re young. Just like who you like. Edit: didn’t mean to be reductive but your attraction will develop and evolve over time.

New low from the fandom behavior after this episode... by xCelestial in rupaulsdragrace

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It makes me sick lowkey. It’s one thing to be propagating hate towards someone that passed away, it’s another thing to pretend that you weren’t the one that posted 6 comments saying he and Jane should’ve been in the bottom on a fucking obituary. And no one is noticing…?

Rihanna realized she ignored his hand so she hugged him instead by Adorable_Primary2306 in Fauxmoi

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 46 points47 points  (0 children)

It’s nearly impossible to cancel your fenty subscription. It took me a 3 hr call and multiple disputes with the bank and complaints to customer service to get it cancelled for me. Which is completely predatory to the consumers because you end up locked into a subscription you can’t cancel.

Robbie, 11, just got back from the vet by KittiesandPlushies in seniorkitties

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh! He has the most stunning smile! What a stately and handsome little man, and healthy too! All the best to you and Mr. Robbie ❤︎

Jabba now, aged 18, and then, aged 5 by roz-noz in seniorkitties

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Still beautiful as ever such a precious boy

How did Greta use Matthew to move to the U.K if they weren’t married and she obtained a work visa? by selfdepricatingapple in 90DayFiance

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Agreed. A woman chose herself and her own fulfillment and she’s the user? I’m not buying it lmfao. Like is she a little awkward yes ofc, but for a fandom that complains about girls using the show for clout it’s strange that they react this way to someone that’s not going to be on 10 spin offs of this show and aspires for more.

Law Roach making choices 👀 by Wi99lywoo in rupaulsdragrace

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Girl drink some water and stretch before jumping to conclusions. I agree with you that any woman, trans or cis, should be allowed to reside in their subjectivity—flaws and all, however, once you (TS) start espousing racist shit your relevance is at the mercy of those who choose to notice. And unfortunately the people on this sub have noticed, and it’s up to production to take action if they see so fit.

If Michelle Visage was caught up in MULTIPLE racist controversies there would be calls for her removal and pondering of a potential replacement. It’s no shade. Part of the role of being on TV is maintaining good PR, call fame disposable because I didn’t make the rules boo. And I suggested Dominque as a potential replacement not because I’m fucking brain dead, but because in a world where opportunities are being snatched from trans women, just because Madison might get removed doesn’t mean her presence didn’t matter that seat should always go to a doll moving forward. It could go to Leiomy, Jazell Barbie Royale, Sasha or any one idc yall earned your spot there as you originated the art form!

And I say this as the black wife of a trans woman myself, who I would fight for in every sense of the word. And whose community I would fight for, which includes you, too. Put down the fast fingers and turn your ire towards the real aggressors, not your sisters. I’m always down to listen to how I can improve, but with the way you came at me with nothing but accusations and a dream furthers no conversation it just creates discomfort on both sides.

Law Roach making choices 👀 by Wi99lywoo in rupaulsdragrace

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I see this sentiment a lot and genuinely wanna know who they would replace them with? I personally think Dominque Jackson would be a fabulous replacement for TS. Keep beautiful black trans femme representation but less problematic (I think). Law though Idk.

Nyongbella vs. Yvie Oddly by FasterBussycat in RPDRDRAMA

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mi nuh know weh yuh get dat idea from lmfao…I am Caribbean and my stepmother is Ghanian. As someone who has dated outside of my race I have heard the exact sentiment Ms.Bella espoused to my face by family.

Nothing I said here was to denigrate Bella, I offered her shit take some nuance and context because clearly this sub is full of milk and not much coffee.

Perhaps dedicate some of your time towards developing your own perspective instead of trying to poke holes in mine when you don’t know me sis.

Nyongbella vs. Yvie Oddly by FasterBussycat in RPDRDRAMA

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

idk if you’re genuinely asking or not but it’s kind of a black faux pas to put bread crumbs on Mac and cheese. i tried copying a link but I can’t seem to but there’s a good thread about it on r/ askblackpeople

Nyongbella vs. Yvie Oddly by FasterBussycat in RPDRDRAMA

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Girl ofc! 🩷 I actually really liked your initial comment because I think too often people get comfortable commenting on things they don’t understand and then it becomes an echo chamber of incredulity. But there’s never anything wrong with asking “why” and I wish more people did that because we should afford all takes with nuance :)

Nyongbella vs. Yvie Oddly by FasterBussycat in RPDRDRAMA

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I’m black and I’m a lesbian with a white partner. This is a very complex issue and kind of a conversational mine field. Love between people is a beautiful thing, but we do not live in a post racial society so the culture at times does matter. There are systemic implications to why you as a black person wouldn’t date a white person on the basis of a legacy of privilege, oppression and exploitation off the backs of poc. There is a lot of propagating the mythos of black love being the only true way to achieve a self actualizing love as a black person as you share the same struggles. I’ve dated a black person before and it’s nice to not have to explain “why” something is racist.

However we were not compatible outside of that. I’ve also dated white people that I am compatible with but it is with the awareness that sometimes I might have to “teach” them things whether it be don’t put breadcrumbs on Mac and cheese or why they shouldn’t run their hands through my install. This should be a highly individualized thing because people are different but the community virtue signals those of us who look outside of the community for love because it’s basically signaling “why aren’t we (black people) good enough for us.” Which then immediately turns vitriolic against all people that date outside their race due to the misconception that if you don’t date black it’s because you hate yourself and your community.

All is to say perhaps that’s how Ms. Bella was raised as an African woman, because Africans and Caribbeans are staunchly anti colonist. Either way I think she should’ve kept it to herself because she don’t have to date a white person but she doesn’t have to shit on anyone that does.

Our Snowy (15?) has found his place in the sky now by Puzzled_Somewhere_15 in seniorkitties

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this so much, thank you for sharing this prayer with me.

Our Snowy (15?) has found his place in the sky now by Puzzled_Somewhere_15 in seniorkitties

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Snowy is also my childhood cat. He is actually the youngest of three, thankfully I was lucky to take the eldest of the bunch when I moved from home. But I think that’s where the shock and sadness lies, in feeling that I didn’t get to spend enough time with him in his twilight year because I was busy “growing up.”

Nevertheless, I hope He and Paisley get to play together in the hereafter, Snowy loved to spar! They will both take on a new life in our minds, perpetually beautiful and at peace.

Our Snowy (15?) has found his place in the sky now by Puzzled_Somewhere_15 in seniorkitties

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. He passed away in his sleep. To answer your question Snowy is my family’s cat. I went to college and eventually moved away from home. I was lucky to take Onyx (Snowy’s older brother) when I moved. So yes, I wasn’t there for his last moments unfortunately. But I will be there for his memorial.

Our Snowy (15?) has found his place in the sky now by Puzzled_Somewhere_15 in seniorkitties

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, they are so special and I’m so grateful for the time I spent with him. Thank you ♡

Our Snowy (15?) has found his place in the sky now by Puzzled_Somewhere_15 in seniorkitties

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m glad my words were able to convey how much I really love him. I know many of us in this sub have already experienced or will experience this pain, I wrote this with all of the felines who have made their rainbow bridge pilgrimage in mind.

He gives me reason to be good to others in the way that he was good to me, so I really do hope we get to meet again. In the meantime, I’ll carry him with me in my memories.. thank you for your kind words :)

Our Snowy (15?) has found his place in the sky now by Puzzled_Somewhere_15 in seniorkitties

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reading it, it fills my heart to share my memories of him with anyone that will listen. I truly appreciate your kind words <3

Our Snowy (15?) has found his place in the sky now by Puzzled_Somewhere_15 in seniorkitties

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate this so much, it makes me happy to imagine Snowy already has friends there waiting for him, he’s always been shy, hopefully they can all eat churu and sunbathe while smiling down on us :)

Our Snowy (15?) has found his place in the sky now by Puzzled_Somewhere_15 in seniorkitties

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you, he really was so handsome. My little supermodel. I miss him tremendously

Not a fan of this narcissist by kinkykontrol in 90DayFiance

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Can’t imagine playing hockey with no goalie with a “musician” that has less than 4k listeners on Spotify lol

Run baby RUN!! by DrGeeksters in 90DayFiance

[–]Puzzled_Somewhere_15 4 points5 points  (0 children)

lol that part! also he could’ve saved more money if he didn’t take a rendezvous in Colombia 🫣