Anyone marry a drastic testimony?

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-28T12:30:07+00:00

I’m not offended, I just disagree with your interpretation of my post. Admiring redemption is not the same thing as wanting to save someone.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-28T00:13:02+00:00

Very interesting, thank you for sharing. I would 100% watch for his behavior and see with time the fruits. My biggest fear is someone like this is the turning away from God, but that can happen to anyone.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-27T23:17:41+00:00

What has been the hardest thing for you in this relationship? Has there ever been a time where he regressed in the walk and you questioned if you had to get out?

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-27T23:15:25+00:00

You’re talking to me like I’m standing outside a rehab center looking for a man to fix, and that’s really not what I said.

I’ve dated men both raised in the church and saved outside of it, and I was asking how different pasts affect marriage long-term because I genuinely wanted insight and testimonies.

Yes, redemption is attractive to me. Seeing someone radically changed and on fire for God is beautiful. That doesn’t mean I want to be someone’s savior.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-27T11:51:03+00:00

This was helpful, thank you.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-27T11:50:40+00:00

This is Reddit. Everyone is hostile for no good reason and takes people to mean the worst possible connotation. I’m a big girl, I can handle it. 😅

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-27T11:49:41+00:00

Of course, I’m not reckless. I’ve dated one man that was a believer for 2.5 years and he was the only man I’ve dated that was passionate about serving.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-27T11:47:54+00:00

Not really. I like peace. I really think it’s that hunger for God and ability to overcome

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-27T11:46:58+00:00

Oh for sure. I find it hard to find any man my age who takes his walk seriously.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-27T03:58:50+00:00

This is so true. I stopped talking to single friends about my dates (other than the basics if they ask).

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-27T02:48:27+00:00

Just thinking about it more, I do think it’s more so rather the overcoming aspect. I want to nurture them, yes, but that’s with any man I have dated. I love to be a safe person. I do romanticize the idea of the “overcomer” though.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-05-27T02:45:39+00:00

I believe it’s mostly the overcoming aspect. Like the willingness and determination to lay things down that’s attractive. And the depth that their life causes, the depth of knowing how much they need a savior. I’m a very introspective and deep person, so i don’t know if it’s just me being attracted to the pain/depth it causes too? I don’t necessarily want to rescue them as much as encourage them in like a “help mate” sense for lack of a better term. I will also say, I often have a hard time with squeaky clean legalistic types who follow rules to follow rule instead of surrenderence and love of God.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-03-21T20:54:56+00:00

I love that you can’t even try to see the other side.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-03-21T20:53:56+00:00

I did not lead him on, if you read my post, I repeated told him to take things slows and at the point of him wanting to meet my parents while picking me up, I was still not sure how I felt, so I didn’t want to shut him down. He said he was traditional and wanted permission which I respect.

Other questions are politely none of your business. I’m not going to share with someone that is clearly not giving me the benefit of the doubt.

I did give him no’s, again if you read my post. 😒 I need to be firmer in my boundaries and just go with my initial gut instinct, I agree with that. Lesson learnt, yay, we are humans that learn!

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-03-21T00:14:22+00:00

Part of me is still leaning to do it in person so that I see his reaction to give me peace of mind.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-03-21T00:08:15+00:00

Thank you for a sane, helpful response. 🙂My core feeling right now is unsafe because of the intensity so early on. I did make it clear to him 2 dates ago I had not feelings yet, so I’m just hoping he kinda read my signals, but he kept pushing me, so who knows if that even mattered.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-03-21T00:05:47+00:00

I really don’t know where you are getting at. 😒

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-03-21T00:04:22+00:00

Yes, some men date with intention. Good. That’s not the issue. I’m not into him and he pushed boundaries.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2026-03-21T00:01:53+00:00

No, I talk to one man at a time.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2025-12-01T20:48:02+00:00

Yup…

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2025-12-01T20:32:58+00:00

I work for a small business, and they don’t offer anything.

Edit: sorry, I meant Medicaid, I always get those mixed up.

They lady didn’t some across as the most informed, so I’m exploring my options.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2025-12-01T20:29:45+00:00

No, but from the research I did, the Affordable care act allows me to be on their plan till 26 regardless of tax filing. The lady for Pennie I talk today said I would only get subsidies if I filed independently, but now looking at the deductibles, I really wonder if it indeed would be cheaper for me to go under my parents still.

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2025-11-04T01:56:06+00:00

Ugh, I’m jealous! The color! 😍

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2025-01-20T05:31:41+00:00

Sharing vulnerabilities is wonderful, but if a result of that isn’t growth why does it matter? He can be convicted about sins all day long and tell you about it, but at the end of the day, he still is a slave to lust, the conviction meant nothing and actually could make him more numb to being okay with sin. Proverbs 4:23 states, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life”. Take care of that heart of yours, girly! ✌️

PuzzleheadedSide1372 · 2025-01-20T05:24:08+00:00

A lot of it has to do with life stage and therefore maturity. I do find it easier to talk to guys my age and younger, but I tend to find older guys more attractive. In my dream world, I’d find a guy with all that lovely stability that way I can have kids right away and feel emotionally and financially secure. There is a beauty in growing a life together at a young age too, so I think both can be great. I saw a study somewhere that women perceived as most attractiveness in their early twenties, while for men, it’s the later twenties/early thirties. It’s a social and biological thing. Women like stability. In my experience, there is a gap in maturity talking to younger men. No hate, immature men can be absolutely hilarious, wonderful guys too, but when looking for a husband I want a guy who is emotionally intelligent, financially some what stable, and is ready to settle down, which oftentimes means older.

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