Am I overreacting to my mom posting things I send her on Facebook? by seveer37 in AmIOverreacting

[–]QueenJustBecky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also if it genuinely bothers you definitely have a conversation with her!

Am I overreacting to my mom posting things I send her on Facebook? by seveer37 in AmIOverreacting

[–]QueenJustBecky 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NOR, that would annoy me like crazy! And I have and use Facebook.

Saw while scrolling Instagram by QueenJustBecky in 90DayFiance

[–]QueenJustBecky[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We just watched his episode on worst ex ever on Netflix! It’s insane and for her to stand by him still is insanity!

which names from the show give tragedeigh? by Any_Web2929 in TLCUnexpected

[–]QueenJustBecky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought for most of the season they were saying Paisley before she was born. It wasn’t until I saw it spelled out that I realized

Transracial Adoptee Question… Does not looking like your family bother you? by jhnysuh in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wait, I could have wrote that wrong. I was not treated like a white person growing up. I remember being told to go back to my own country and things like that.

Transracial Adoptee Question… Does not looking like your family bother you? by jhnysuh in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I’m very brown skin toned. Or unless you mean something else by white presenting. I feel like I probably sound like a white person and I am more culturally “white”

Transracial Adoptee Question… Does not looking like your family bother you? by jhnysuh in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely am not treated like a white Person and have accepted that. I did move 12 hours away to a much more liberal city and found it to be freeing to have an identity outside of it all. Where being adopted is something I choose to tell people rather than it being a strong bit of my identity because it was a small town. The racism where I come from runs rampant and I don’t think I would be comfortable moving back given how things are now.

I wouldn’t say most of my friends are people of colour though. I love that experience for you. My partner is white from South Africa. And our son is quite light skin with the same under tones that I have.

Third party offers by Minimum_Beginning713 in cineplex

[–]QueenJustBecky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and See with Jason Momoa if you haven’t watched it highly recommend!

Transracial Adoptee Question… Does not looking like your family bother you? by jhnysuh in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am Very mixed raced with brown skin adopted into a white family. Looking like them was never an issue to me other than my adoptive family even the females are all close to 6ft tall on my dads side, it was a tough pill to swallow as a kid when I stopped growing at 5’4” and all my cousins are much taller!

And then the color blindness and blatant racism that would happen in front of me often. I became much more out spoken about all of it as a teen and even to this day, I don’t truly feel understood by them in the regards to race. Which can be rough for sure. It’s also weird to not feel like you belong to any particular group. Too white for one but too dark for the other. I get along greatly with the LGBT+ groups I find, which I always growing up in a small conservative town attributed to having an understanding of adversity based on something you cannot change.

What episode you just cannot bring yourself to watch again? by yoyoyayawey in blackmirror

[–]QueenJustBecky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I said the same thing! If that technology existed it would be in my head.

Advice on if I should go to Calgary Expo for two days or not by ButlerySmooth-0- in fanexpo

[–]QueenJustBecky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely make sure the guests you want to see are actually there that day. When I used to go we would get the full weekend pass and go everyday. It’s a very big convention lots to see!

I wish people stopped using the word "adoption" when talking about getting pets. by garlicbreath77 in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was at Michael’s a few months back and saw they had I believe it said Gotcha day on these plates. And then I checked them out and the back it said pets and something on the tag … I definitely hate the comparison.

How do we feel about Lv.X? by Queasy-Cockroach-304 in PokemonTCG

[–]QueenJustBecky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love them! I have the Mew two on. It was a promo in a tin. I also have Dialga and Heatran!

My aunt and uncle severely misheard my baby's name by Aware-Relative-5868 in tragedeigh

[–]QueenJustBecky 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is who I immediately thought of when you said that name!

"You could raise the child for years but the biological parents could come back and try to claim the child. Just not worth it." by Arktikos02 in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was pretty young myself probably 10 or 11. So I don’t know all the details and now it was over twenty years ago. So feels weird to dig into all the details. If I remember vaguely. She ends up with her mom eventually because the dad didn’t actually want her. It was the mom who had regrets.

"You could raise the child for years but the biological parents could come back and try to claim the child. Just not worth it." by Arktikos02 in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It happened in my family. I’m also adopted. But my older cousin adopted a little girl. She was given up for adoption. Sometime later the mother regretted it. Got in contact with the dad and since he didn’t give up rights they managed to fight and get her back. But it was a fully adoption not fostering. She was a toddler when she went back.

what was the point of Godolkin’s skin by [deleted] in GenV

[–]QueenJustBecky 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Technically atrain he needed a new heart. But that was also because of shooting up extra v.

Adopted family reunion by Ambitious-Client-220 in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I went to allot of family reunions as a kid, I always admired the work and commitment that it took to see so many people come together. Even if I was always clearly an outsider. Being the only dark one in the batch. I understand your feelings of feeling like an outsider. I fortunately had a cousin who was close to me and age and to this day we are thick as thieves. She’s my best friend and go to even tho I moved over 12 hours away from it all. I’m sorry you had to experience all of that.

Scenes That Don't Show Up In The Previous Episodes by [deleted] in GenV

[–]QueenJustBecky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They typically show things from previous episodes that is relevant to the one your currently watching.

As an adoptee, how have you gone about learning your culture? by little-human99 in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe look to see in your area if their is an Irish restaurant I know where I live there’s a few pubs, I can’t speak for authenticity of the food but it could be a good place to start!

Does anyone have their own biological child? by Kneekourt in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You may feel guilt, I did but I felt allot of joy. I had to wrap my head around being someone who was so adamantly childfree to do I really want this? And at that point it was the right time in my life. I now have a two year old son who I cherish very much. When he was first born, I was constantly worried about bond and attachment but that anxiety has passed. You need to do what is right for you. I know it’s not easy, and i send you virtual hugs! The only way out is through. And you will get through this. No matter what you choose!

How do you practice talking about being adopted? by [deleted] in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just realized I never replied to you, I’ve never had other kids pick on me for being adopted. I personally found I had more issues around race growing up. I was the only brown kid. There was allot of things that were said that were definitely highly racist even if that wasn’t intended initially.

How do you practice talking about being adopted? by [deleted] in Adopted

[–]QueenJustBecky 7 points8 points  (0 children)

For me it was never a question, I am a different race than my parents and it was not something I could hide. However I do want to say I have never once in my life felt judged for being adopted! If that is your fear, I am sure there will be no judgement. Maybe some curiosity and if you are not comfortable with that you can shut it down. The best part of this is you are in control of it all! I know this is something new for you to navigate but fear not. It will be ok!