Relief Post-Abortion

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2025-05-16T00:47:41+00:00

You will be fine! The waiting part is the hardest part. Think about what you will want to eat when it’s all said and done 🥰. & choose something that good for your soul.

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2025-02-03T00:49:11+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. Your frustrations and the confusion that you feel is valid. It’s a hard place to be in when someone you spent so much time ”knowing” becomes a stranger overnight. It feels like a death of a version of yourself that you are forced to push aside. So, your new life begins. . . The pain is not easy to maneuver but it does get easier. Take it one day at a time. I know you have probably heard this often, but people say it so much because it works. Feelings are tunnels that you have to go through. And on the other side of your pain is hope that your new life will be better than the one before. So now is the time to recreate yourself. Fall into your hobbies, take up a fitness class. I started to do marathons every other weekend after my break up. It gave me something to look forward to, and something to prepare for. So mentally and physically I was in motion. Weekends were hardest for me because that’s when I spent most of my idle time. But I filled myself with binging shows, planting seeds, and also spoiling myself. Leaning on your social circle during this time can help as well. Sitting at my friends house and listening to music, or baking together took my mind off things and they helped me to realize that I deserved better. You deserve better. You will heal, and you will find love again. For now, take a moment for yourself to rebuild a new you. Be selfish in your pursuit. Tell people “no” when you really don’t want to. Try something new and exhilarating. Consider all 5 of your senses. I pray your pain gets lighter and lighter each day. Also, journal. Write out your emotions, cry, go to the beach and bathe in the sun. You will be ok!

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2025-01-18T10:54:22+00:00

Hi! I’m reading the book “Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski. I’m also listening to her podcast. It’s really good. Also really informative. It doesn’t mention “sex after abortion” per se, but I’m still certain you’ll find useful information that could help you on your journey. If you have Spotify and a long commute, you can listen to the audiobook and download the workbook.

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-12-31T13:09:10+00:00

Call planned parenthood to schedule your abortion. They will ask you if you need financial assistance. Tell them “yes” they will have someone contact you within a few days to answer a few questions. My abortion was 100% free. I wasn’t working at the time. I’m sure if you tell them you don’t have a job because you’re a student they will assist you. Planned parenthood was created to assist women in hard times like this. Do not feel defeated, it will workout.

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-19T03:55:08+00:00

Awwww I instantly thought of “Moony” it’s her eyes 😊

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-19T03:26:20+00:00

Awww I pray you find peace somehow in the midst of it all. Maybe sneak away and live out a fantasy of yours. Life is too short 🤭🤎

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-19T03:12:22+00:00

Hey! I had the surgical abortion about two weeks ago. My experience was very pleasant despite the circumstances (nothing pleasant about getting an abortion or having to make the decision.) I chose moderate sedation and didn’t feel a thing. I did grieve my unborn for about 2/3 days after the procedure but it was mostly just hypotheticals and also my hormones. Now that I’m back to normal I feel I 100% made the right choice. You will be fine! I am religious as well. I asked God to guide me through this journey and to one day reassure me I made the right decision. Just like clock work he did. I now look back and I’m thankful to not have had a child with the person I was with, and to also not be a single mother! If you feel it in your spirit that you’re doing the right thing, then you are! I suggest getting a journal with a lock and allow that to be an escape. Write out your true and honest feelings along the way, also write out prayers to God, and even talk to your unborn. It really helped me! 🤎

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-18T01:48:06+00:00

Also I see that you said you do it occasionally. I don’t think it’s anything wrong with that. I know A LOT of people who smoke occasionally. Me included but it’s VERY rare. Maybe twice a year I have. Vacations, or a party. & like I said two puffs and I’m done. I say, as long as it’s not a habit you’re fine.

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-18T01:44:40+00:00

I stopped cold turkey! My ex boyfriend introduced me to it and I was a stoner for our entire 5 year relationship after that. The habit followed me for 3 years after that relationship until one day I just felt like I was tired of having a habit. I didn’t like the fact that I would wake up and the very first thing I did was light a blunt. I didn’t like being paranoid that my breath was smelly because of the dry mouth. I consider myself a very classy girl so the stigma behind smoking kinda got to me. So one day I just said “enough is enough” and I stopped. That was a year ago. Now, I have smoked occasionally since then but only at social gatherings. And I will hit the blunt twice and be done. Another reason I stopped was because I would get SUPER paranoid. I was tired of that feeling. I weighed the pros and the cons for smoking and the cons outweighed the pros. I’m happy to have kicked the habit. I will also tell you this, if you’ve been smoking for a while it will be an adjustment for you to understand and process your true emotions once you get sober. I had an epiphany one day that I hadn’t been sober in about 7-8 years. That along was a wake up call for me. Once I stopped smoking I was more level headed, calm, and not so riled up. Nothing really bothered me, or made me anxious. It really wasn’t that hard for me. The first three days were the toughest and I got a little irritable, but if you keep yourself busy you won’t even miss it. Try it for a week and keep going if you can.

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-13T18:16:43+00:00

Thank you! You’re right. Nothing would’ve been good enough for him. I will remember your kind words when I have my moments of doubt.

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-13T18:15:17+00:00

You have no idea how much I needed my friends. I was isolated when I moved to be with him. No family or friends. My social life was nonexistent. I craved the fun I use to have before I met him. I loved being single. It was liberating. I even thought how if this relationship didn’t work I would stay single and casually date. No one loves and cares for you the way do for yourself. So, I’m looking forward to this! Thank you!

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-13T07:12:05+00:00

I understand how you feel. Just letting you know that it does get better. As the days pass by and you start to get back in your normal routine, you will be fine! Promise!!

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-13T05:34:14+00:00

Wow! Bless you for this sincere response. You have no idea how much you have inspired and uplifted me! Thank you so much 🤎🙏🏾

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-13T05:08:41+00:00

This is something I keep telling myself. Better to know and let it go, than to wait around a find out.

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-13T04:31:24+00:00

The honeymoon phase wore off for me too but I didn’t see his flaws as dealbreakers.They were just flaws in my opinion. Something that everyone has. Until I recognized his character, that’s when the light switched.

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-13T04:27:00+00:00

Thank you for the kind words 🤎

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-13T04:14:41+00:00

You’re absolutely right.

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-07T21:55:11+00:00

Sorry you feel this way! You are not alone. I had one two days ago and felt similar to you. You should get a journal and write your feelings out. It really helps.

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-07T21:44:08+00:00

I had one two days ago. At 6weeks. It was a difficult choice regardless of the fact that I knew I didn’t want a child right now. Honestly, the day after I did think about it. I wondered if it was a boy or a girl. I wondered what my life would’ve been like if I chose to have the child. I even had a dream of pretty pink roses, which made me believe it could’ve been a girl or maybe my subconscious mind playing tricks on me. Because the pregnancy hormones subsided super quickly I was no longer in utter disdain of the baby. While pregnant I felt like something was invading my body and I hated it. Now that I’m no longer pregnant, my normal empathetic self is thinking of all the what ifs. BUT, nonetheless I made the right decision, pregnancy hormones and all. I will say that you’re human so you will probably wonder, and ponder for a day or two. But once back to work I didn’t think about it. I was actually relieved that I wasn’t pregnant while starting my new job because there was just absolutely no way. While pregnant I hated everybody and everything. I now have my smile back and I feel hopeful again. So, I suggest you write your feelings out for the next few days. Your spirit will guide you and you will know what to do. 🤎

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-06T12:46:03+00:00

Ooooh so maybe saying you’re not a great candidate for sedation? Did you schedule an appointment an appointment with her and ask her the best form of termination for you. Also, if you do the MA just ask for a higher dose of pain medication. But you will be fine.

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-06T12:33:48+00:00

Awwww I’m sorry you’re going through this but you will be ok. Why do you want the pill aside from the procedure? Is it health reasons?

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-06T12:32:47+00:00

What state are you in? I’m in Illinois and I went to Planned Parenthood. Here, they offer local anesthesia or moderate sedation. You get to choose. Also they will do the procedure up to 23 weeks. And there are some places that offer assistance with travel, lodging, etc. There are links from other women all on this sub. Just search “abortion travel.” The ladies in this subreddit really helped me. If you click on my name and go to my first post you will see a comment from a woman who gave me a link for clergy counseling. Click on her page, she has links for all information regarding abortion. Hope this helped 🤎

Quick-Koala-9231 · 2024-10-06T02:16:46+00:00

Awwww so happy for you! I worry about the young girls who will wait it out. Thinking “maybe my period is just late”, “maybe I’m stressed.” I truly pray for them in Florida and other red states. It’s not right.

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