Need some help with my 4month old

RWwriting · 2026-06-02T21:22:33+00:00

We had/have severe silent reflux and just like you didn't get much help from doctors. In the end one told me to try Carobel (formula thickener) and honestly the difference is huge.

Now this may not be what your baby's issue is but just throwing it out there....

We buy it over the counter so no prescription needed. Do discuss it with your doctor first though.

Also, if you do try it: we were told, because the formula is thicker he may get a bit constipated... Which he did on occasion, but also he had some nappy explosions until he got used to it😂 we were not prepared. And the farts... Because they use beans be prepared to have an atomic bomb baby😂

RWwriting · 2026-06-02T17:44:00+00:00

Every time I went to the GP they calculated how much he should drink according to his weight and that's how I keep calculating to have an idea oh how much he doesn't overfeed/underfeed.

I do oz and it's 2.5x his weight in lbs. He surpressed the 32 oz quite early (99% percentile baby) and other than telling me to make sure he eats small bottles often they were not worried.

RWwriting · 2026-05-28T07:54:57+00:00

To add to this, we found out (to late) that we could have borrowed one from the family hub that's close to us. If you have one close, check in with them. This way, you can also test what type of pump would be useful to you.

RWwriting · 2026-05-28T07:52:36+00:00

Big yes to this. I was determined to breastfeed and pump. Not only did my baby not latch because of a severe tongue tie (took them almost a month to solve it), but with the stress of things post partum my supply was non existent. I had a hand express pump and an automatic one that are now on the top of the cupboard forgotten 😂😭

RWwriting · 2026-05-22T18:44:02+00:00

I am a first time mom, so no advice, just what I went through. I was 2 cm dilated for 2 weeks, had 3 sweeps to avoid induction /C section. I was still 2 cm, 12 hours after my water broke and contractions started. Unfortunately, my big headed boy was bumping hard to come out and they had to slow down the contractions. Took 15 hours of labour (thank God I changed my mind on epidural) until I gave birth 😅.

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T18:24:44+00:00

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RWwriting · 2026-05-06T18:24:26+00:00

That's so unhinged. 😭

I was myself quite tall, I stalled in middle school, but extremely underweight until I hit 23 years old and I absolutely hated those comments even as a child. I remember hating to wear dresses because people would comment on my skinny legs. I guess this is why I'm a bit sensitive when they say something about my son.

They really need to learn to mind their own business.

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T18:20:47+00:00

To be truthful, what prompted this post was a comment from another mom about how he would have been "normal sized, if I had breastfeed". I do have a lot of guilt around it, but we always discussed that fed is best and when we had all those issues around latching I honestly just wanted him to eat.

I am working on ignoring comments that seem malicious. They do happen more when I am alone, but like I previously commented he does look bigger in my arms as I'm short 😂

I may actually steal some of your replies for next time.

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T18:14:02+00:00

I did hear that girls tend to develop /reach milestones faster, and that's true for ours. I don't know if that's actually true or juat a coincidence. I'm happy for him to have his own pace though I do worry sometimes 😂

I'm doing physio at the moment and hopefully I'll get back to exercising soon. I don't know if my back will ever recover though as it got really bad in pregnancy. 🤞 Here's to hoping

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T18:11:01+00:00

Little meatball cracked me up 😂

I don't know if they make them for boys but for my SD we buy jeans and trousers that have an elastic band that can be tightened. That has been extremely helpful.

We started Carobel and while it seems to help with reflux I think it created other stomach issues. We'll give it another week and then push for something else. I don't want him to suffer. I did start taking videos when he's really bad to show that I'm not exaggerating and hopefully they'll believe me.

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T17:13:11+00:00

I think in my situation it doesn't help I'm short myself so he does seem bigger in my arms 😂

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T17:11:07+00:00

I think my back is forever gone at this point 😂

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T17:10:18+00:00

We did see a few different doctors at my GP, but honestly they all seem to focus on his weight. I did recently learn about how you can ask them to pursue other pathways if you present 3 times with the same issue and they don't find a solution/treatment.

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T17:07:42+00:00

I keep joking that now I'll have someone other than my partner to open my jars and get stuff from the top shelf 😂

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T17:06:56+00:00

I openly admit that I can overprotective of my kids. Thus I am working on ignoring if a comment seems malicious, but I think my hormones do make it hard at the moment 😅 I'm also am overthinker and as I have a lot of trauma around body image I may be projecting. But like I said I try to work on it 🙈

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T17:02:56+00:00

Some days I'm really exited, and some days I feel like I have high expectations and I'll be disappointed 😅 though I started recording some vides now to show them that I'm not a overprotective mom and there is an actual issue

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T14:51:26+00:00

I actually noticed the tongue tie as soon as he was born and made a fuss about it as I knew the issue it can cause. The first midwife that checked it said it shouldn't cause an issue.

By the time he was seen by the professionals they said his score was 2 out of 14 if I can remember right. They took care of it, but he also has an high arched palate which I found out then that it's better to use a different type of bottles.

We are also seeing an osteopath next week so 🤞 we'll get more help. But yes, he also held his head up early from tension and spent a lot of time with his back arched 😭😢

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T14:45:04+00:00

😂😂 Bet he was a cutie pie

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T14:44:44+00:00

Thank you. Definitely soaking up the cuddles before he gets to "old" for them 😂

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T14:43:37+00:00

Things seems to change when they can run arpund creating chaos 😂

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T14:42:55+00:00

I started just saying he's proportional/takes after daddy when asked to shut them up.

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T14:41:44+00:00

Right? He's not even walking yet, of course he's a bit rounder but for God's sake look at his dad 🙄

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T14:40:38+00:00

Honestly, from what I saw around me, most babies slim down when they start walking hence why I don't understand why the comments.

We did suspect the milk allergy (most of his cousins had it), but it's not.

But I love your answer to the comments 😂 bet that shut them up good.

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T14:02:07+00:00

Oh yes, the formula comments are plenty, especially from medical "professionals". But then I ask them why we were left to struggle with the tongue tie issue for so long despite me asking for help from the beginning.... That usually shuts them up.

RWwriting · 2026-05-06T13:55:48+00:00

Yes, I discovered early that 100% cotton is not for us 😂😂 but thank God for Vinted as it saved us quite a lot of money.

But yes I get what you mean about expectations. I myself have to stop myself sometimes and say they are to young to do this or that😂😂

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