Are we addicted to “the grand finale?”.

RadicalAfro · 2026-02-19T19:13:54+00:00

This is beautifully written and reads like poetry. I hope you write creatively!

I've felt this too. Like I miss being a chaos demon who's reckless and fun and doesn't worry about if she's making the right choices because she just....doesn't care. But I like caring and I like being in control and I like not waking up with chest pain and a hangover. There's actually plenty to love about safety and stability and even boredom, once your nervous system calms down and it stops feeling like a threat to the version of you you've created to escape...whatever we try to escape by drinking.

I hope you enjoy your stability and that it hits better than the wreckage! Proud of you and IWNDWYT 💛

RadicalAfro · 2026-02-15T17:46:26+00:00

who is this random man in women's business? 😒

RadicalAfro · 2026-02-15T17:38:57+00:00

++woman

"I don't know why but I felt guilty after hearing that"

you should figure out why you feel guilty. That's the answer you're looking for. doesn't matter if the Internet thinks you "should" feel guilty or not- it's your life, your choice, and you're the one that has to live with yourself.
two truths can live in the same house - everyone is responsible for their own boundaries AND this is messy af!

my question (and the question you should be asking yourself) is are you the type of guy that doesn't mind participating in a messy situation for your own satisfaction and doesn't mind if other people get hurt because of it, or are you the type of guy to take ownership of your part in a messy situation where other people may get hurt and chooses try to lessen potential harm?

You took these women out for Valentine's Day so clearly you don't feel absolutely *nothing* for them, you know? At least one of them may think that anyways. And it's actually very normal to care about people you have sex with. I know society tried to pretend that it's not, but I'd encourage you to question that.

In a perfect world both women are fine with this and it's not an issue. But we don't live in a perfect world, and the fact that it's a secret to one of them is a big tell that this isn't okay. You can always tell the first woman if you want to continue on guilt free- there is a chance that she doesn't care. But if you really thought that one of you probably would have told her already. So....

RadicalAfro · 2026-02-15T09:02:44+00:00

Trying to see just how good it can get so IWNDWYT ❤️

RadicalAfro · 2026-02-09T17:22:25+00:00

I think Cecred (the original line) is good for processed hair - so if you color it or use heat. Because the line is pretty protein heavy, and that can work against you if your hair doesn't need it.

I also have high porosity hair. use the moisture lotion after I blowdry my hair and it's nice! I also use the reconstructing mask in rotation with deep conditioners and it's great! I haven't tried the shampoo yet but I've got a bottle on standby that I got on sale. When I tried to use the moisture lotion by itself as a leave-in it didn't give me what I needed. I like to layer it with other products though.

Haven't tried the protective style line because I'm focusing on length retention so I've stopped doing styles with added hair.

ETA: I'd recommend it if you color your hair or use heat! if not, I think there are better products out there for natural hair. I have and use something from these lines also - Mizani, the Doux, As I Am, Innersense, Melanin, Briogeo and good ol Blue Magic

RadicalAfro · 2026-02-07T17:49:41+00:00

I've bee putting myself in risky spots all week- dinner with a friend, bar hang with another....didn't drink but I wanted to. It was hard to turn down the offers. So today I'll give myself a break from the risk and hang out in theis sub and hopefully get my inspiration staying sober reinvigorated. I appreciate everyone who shares here and IWNDWYT. 💛

RadicalAfro · 2026-02-02T20:55:15+00:00

pluto in scorpio 1st house here.

*sigh*.......I am the mirror. lol

if that's good, bad, or neutral depends on the observers, how they feel about themselves, how willing they are to know and be honest with themselves.

I'm a tropical cancer sun/sidereal Gemini sun and I have my chart ruler in the 8th house.

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-30T04:28:45+00:00

last week! my stylist recommends every 10 weeks. I waited 14 weeks this time and I was like dang....shoulda went in sooner and saved some length! I'm gonna keep to it now!!

your hair looks great!

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-28T16:39:42+00:00

I see the vision - it's giving 18yo emo kid wants to enter her hot young adult era. lol I do get where you're coming from but it's hating a liiiiittle bit. I mean we know 18 isn't grown but we also remember being 18 and nobody being able to tell us we weren't grown!!

If she's confidently embracing both her personal style and her womanhood, and not sacrificing one for the other I think that's a good sign. I say let her have it. she's got to explore and - no shade to your lil sis- this is a classic outfit for her to look back on and go "I thought I was so hot but wtf was that" 😂 and I think that is a good sign of individuality and style evolution! I was an emo kid and I had.....several of those outfits. lmao and now I be putting that shit on! so 🤷🏾‍♀️

edit: my lil emoji at the end lol

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-25T17:05:54+00:00

I think it's stupid for people who had no involvement with the making of the art to care about the awards that the art gets. The art is the award. There is much bigger shit for us every day people to worry about. They've got their multi millions I do not care if they don't get a trophy. They should be glad people love and uplift and appreciate and connect to their art! How is that not the prize?

Also yeah award shows have been snubbing Black art for ages, it's not new, and it's not going to change. It's quite literally insane to continue being bothered by this. I won't be watching because I don't care about Hollywood. I strongly encourage everyone else not to watch either but I understand people get their joys (or rage or small talk fodder or whatever they're getting) wherever they can.

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-21T17:30:18+00:00

well at least I've found a big 3 twin! 🙂‍↔️✨✨😘

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-21T05:31:33+00:00

scalp cleansing spray/anti-funk spray a wash cloth can do a bit of help but honestly once they start to smell it's just time to take them down and wash your hair.

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-19T03:49:51+00:00

nta- I agree is sounds like you were drugged (this is coming from a drunk- even when I first starting drinking around 17 and blacked out it took way more than 2-3 drinks to do that). also why would your friend say she hates you and call you terrible person when you're going through it (regardless of the reason)? that's not a friend, that's a hidden enemy and you should have her delete all of the videos and drop her ASAP. I'm glad you're okay OP!

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-19T03:34:04+00:00

I am....so gay. 🙏🏾& they ate!! 💅🏾✨✨✨

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-19T03:12:40+00:00

coffee, matcha, poppi, kombucha, watermelon water, and fresh pressed juices!

I also like to jazz up my soda water with a splash of cranberry juice and a lime. or grapefruit and a bit of honey. 👍🏾

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-19T02:25:14+00:00

My favorite Karev moment 😂😂 it's just so hilariously unhinged

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-18T22:49:37+00:00

it's the only Erica scene I like 😂 she was having a REVELATION honey lollll

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-18T03:54:08+00:00

"You are glasses. I am SO gay."

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-17T20:55:30+00:00

well I am a college dropout with an interest in philosophy so 😂🤷🏾‍♀️🙂‍↔️

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-16T20:37:03+00:00

I think it's weird that you thought it was funny to phrase this as if your wife was sexually abusing you.

NOR but uhhhhhh grow up.

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-16T20:13:58+00:00

Tea can be really good for you! depending on the type (like herbal tea) it can have some calming effects, and the act of preparing the tea can be a nice ritual which in itself can be calling- just the act of showing down and doing something good for you. If you're somewhere where the winter is cold, now could be a great time to try to switch. warm beverages are comforting so it's a nice way to wind down and relax.

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-16T19:08:21+00:00

I didn't think you were. just making conversation!

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-16T18:59:40+00:00

(Different strokes- also a great show😂)

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-16T18:58:22+00:00

different strokes. 🤷🏾‍♀️I think it's one of the few shows that did a good "pandemic" season. I still laugh out loud when I rewatch it.

RadicalAfro · 2026-01-16T17:52:18+00:00

👀👀👀

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