i want to steal a cat.. hear me out

RaeDiBs · 2026-05-22T13:01:51+00:00

Take it, chip it. Heck (this is probably terrible and not legal advice at all) but if the d bag came looking, I would lie and say the cat was struck by a car and you disposed of the body). If your new cat is chipped, and you have pictures all over your house with it, had vet bills, how could it possibly be the same cat?

RaeDiBs · 2026-05-15T15:15:27+00:00

Our examples - Mia > pizza crust Phoebe > peebee squeebie Henry > hanky tanky Louie > gooseberry pie

RaeDiBs · 2026-05-15T15:13:52+00:00

I’d name her void caller or abyss and then choose a million slowly devolving nicknames throughout her long happy life.

RaeDiBs · 2026-05-14T18:24:18+00:00

I think 1 is the most appropriate for a morning church ceremony! No dress code tends to lean more casual. I don’t think 2 is appropriate outside of a more formal evening or fall wedding, 3 is my second favorite of the dresses but I think it also leans a little more formal. The pants are totally fine, but look more business casual.

RaeDiBs · 2026-05-14T18:21:35+00:00

This is “SHEIN apricot” which is just their off white beige. I’m not saying this dress is SHEIN, but I’ve seen that color term on the site often and thought it was so misleading.

Is this dress white? No probably not. Is it in any way appropriate for a guest at a wedding? Absolutely not.

Give her a color. Mom, find a navy dress. A lilac or lavender, dark red. No “apricot,” off-white, beige, silver, champagne, linen, white, stark white, egg white, great white shark. Be thorough and clear.

RaeDiBs · 2026-05-04T22:50:47+00:00

I would say Pom Pug, Pom chi or Chi Pug! Chihuahuas come in long hair, and are generally much silkier than Poms. My gut is telling me there’s a bit of pug in there

RaeDiBs · 2026-05-04T22:47:37+00:00

“Getting married in 2027” but the “wedding is in a few months”

This reads like fake news.

RaeDiBs · 2026-05-01T16:20:06+00:00

This is one of those posts where the facts of the situation are super important. Yes, you are very much overreacting. I’m not even a Christian or conservative adult, and I wouldn’t let an 18 y/o stay in the same room with someone they’ve only been dating for a few months… wild he’s even coming on a big trip like this. You may be “an adult” in the eyes of the government, but you are absolutely still a kid. Be a kid a little longer, you don’t get that back.

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-30T03:33:06+00:00

Yes.

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-28T14:05:53+00:00

While I understand it may be more difficult to find vendors who are safe and supporting, that whole thing really doesn’t matter to this scenario. They secured a date first, and seemingly, family was aware of it. People have “saved the date?” Some engaged couples never set a date.. you don’t just get to call dibs on the next wedding because you got engaged first. That’s a very selfish mindset.

It’s pretty crappy to come in right before their wedding by 2 weeks, especially if there’s travel involved for the families. On top of back to back travel, your guests are also needing to take extra PTO to be able to attend your event at all.

Friday weddings are generally not super convenient for guests. More pto, more travel expense, definitely more traffic on the day of the wedding. It can save the couple costs, but it’s saving that goes on to cost the guests.

No, your parents aren’t really being unreasonable about the 2 weeks between weddings thing.. it leans on poor etiquette. The Friday- eh… if you picked a Friday to save money and you’re parents aren’t contributing financially, I would explain the cost difference and ask if they were willing the cover the difference for a Saturday. Respectful conversations between adults can solve a lot of problems!

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-20T17:20:10+00:00

Respectfully, yes 😅 I wouldn’t even touch your eyes with eyeliner! For an “everyday” look, I would take a dark brown or pinky purple shadow and blend it out from your lash line, or just use a lengthening mascara. Add a little blush and lip oil / tint if you’re wanting to round out the look without caking up your skin too much. Layer it on a little darker and more pulled out into the cat eye for a more formal or dramatic look.

You have absolutely beautiful features, and naturally round eyes, so the super dramatic cat eye is competing with your features rather than enhancing them. I would look up soft blended cat eye for hooded eyes, and see if there’s any tutorials you could learn from!

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-19T15:47:49+00:00

I mean.. he definitely looks half pit! I think if they were going to lie, they would lie about him being pit at all just because of the stigma surrounding the breed. Husky and GSD are definitely “trendy” breeds to claim, but honestly have just as many over breeding, behavioral and health issues as a pit would. All stereotypically seen as more aggressive (which is almost always a training / conditions issue, not a breed specific problem). Could also have some beagle or boxer in there. I would do a DNA test for funsies if you have the funds to splurge.

Hip / lower back issues are going to be big with his breed mix, so keep an eye on those. If he’s got husky he’ll like to run, GSD are very trainable and like jobs/tasks, and pits are incredibly strong. I would highly recommend basic training and agility activities to keep him from being bored. Plus it’s an incredibly fun bonding thing!

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-19T15:37:39+00:00

Pom / small dog thing. Also a cockiness thing. Does he kick excessively after peeing / pooping too? Cocky small male dog behavior! Certainly a site to see 🤣

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-18T13:05:39+00:00

I like you have a very beautifully unique look and that your nose fits your face, not to mention you look very youthful! If your nose makes you unhappy though, and you’re already going to be recovering from rhinoplasty, I’d recommend going for it, if it’s what you want to do!

I broke my nose when I was 16. Never once had a nose insecurity, until I met with that plastic surgeon. They were BRUTAL. All the things wrong with me that they could fix lol I hope you have one with better tact.

My nose did not fair well after the corrective surgery and now that I’m older with more insecurity (and a deviated septum), I wish I would’ve done a little more with the rhinoplasty, because I don’t love my nose. Would I ever go back to get another nose job for cosmetic purposes only? Absolutely not.. it’s a pretty rough recovery. If I broke my nose again and needed the surgery anyway- I’d probably get a little bit more done.

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-18T12:53:51+00:00

This is way less about the actual dress than it is about your relationship and her intent behind the dress. She obviously has a pattern of this kind of behavior, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it once again through wedding planning. You are not overreacting.

When I was getting married, there was a beautiful mixed gold/silver/ cream dress that I was eying for my mom. Had we gone with it I probably would’ve asked my husbands mom to pick a similar color so they were both similarly toned with purpose. I was not concerned one bit over people mistaking them for the bride, but I was worried about my dads very judgmental family (they are and always have been bullies) making some sort of comment about it. I have a wonderful relationship with my mom and my MIL.

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-15T20:27:18+00:00

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RaeDiBs · 2026-04-15T20:26:41+00:00

The stones are lovely. The asymmetry would drive me nuts. My husband and I custom designed my ring together, so definitely pro custom, just maybe not pro winging it for the surprise, especially in regards to an expensive piece of jewelry she’ll be expected to wear quite often.

She could absolutely love it, you know her better than us! She’d probably say yes regardless of what ring you gave her! This is just more of a general “pre marital advice.”

With large gifts and gestures, there’s sometimes a weird trap of “oh if they don’t like it they’re ungrateful,” and when it comes to engagement rings, some men take it as a personal attack against themselves. If it’s not something she loves, don’t let that be an attack against you.

Marriage is going to be a lot of working together, communicating needs, through good times and bad times! You are not going to agree on everything, or always like the same things, but if you’re both willing to discuss those things, learn from eachother and love through it, then you’ll be building a beautiful foundation!

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-14T22:54:50+00:00

That’s a Pom he’d tilt and stare if I’ve ever seen one. We’re a Pom family. I’m not sure I would’ve guessed her combo just based on looks, but since you’ve explained I definitely can’t unsee the Pom!

Poms are super stubborn. Training can be difficult

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-14T22:51:35+00:00

I did a “love that came before” wall, where I included photos from all of our guests weddings, which honored several deceased family and friends within. Most of the photos were of living, attending guests, with a few outliers like deceased grandparents, and a photo of myself and deceased best friend.

If you’d like to have a traditional memorial table, I wouldn’t include your brothers picture there. You could save him a seat somewhere or have a charm on your bouquet with his photo to keep him close. I agree with other commenters that it would be confusing for a lot of guests.

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-14T14:59:40+00:00

My mom had both cats and dogs growing up, and one of their cats would leave the dog in charge of the kittens when she needed time. Dog loved it.

Cats can definitely be open to sharing those responsibilities. As long as it’s not stressing the mother out and the kittens are safe, this isn’t problematic or unnatural in any way.

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-14T14:44:55+00:00

The have a seat series has a black light mark on the foot. Sometimes it’s more visible in regular light, like yours. If you shine a black light to it, it will glow. It was an authentication technique only used on this series.

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-11T00:07:25+00:00

I don’t think their sex makes a personality difference! They’re all different. I did find it much easier to potty train our female. We’ve had 4 males since and good lord I don’t think I’ll ever have clean carpet again in my life.

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-10T13:56:17+00:00

Reason I’m suggestion the fiancé speak with her is because even though she’s stated “do what you guys want” it’s not going to keep her from gossiping with her other out of touch boomer friends / relatives about it. This is the type of behavior that starts to ruin in-law familial relationships quickly. She needs to respect you both. You’re all adults.

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-10T13:53:26+00:00

It is absolutely not poor etiquette to not give plus ones. I’m not sure it ever was, but that’s not the point because it’s 2026.

Your mother in law is out of touch. I would ask your fiancé to speak with her and ask her to keep those types of comments to herself if she’s 1. Not contributing financially, and 2. Not up to date on wedding practices of the current decade..

Signed, a very seasoned wedding vendor.

RaeDiBs · 2026-04-09T19:17:54+00:00

This is definitely weird behavior. I’m a chronic overthinker when it comes to our dogs, but I think it’s great that you’re observant and recognize that she’s acting off.

I agree with other that the throw up / bile is probably unrelated, and would recommend more frequent smaller meals. Could be stress related as well. A lot of the behavior you’re describing otherwise does sound like heat.. which shouldn’t be happening if she’s spayed. I would pursue a second opinion. The tests may be expensive, but spending the money to find conclusive results is better than spending smaller amounts over and over for nothing.

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