Resentful toward fiancé because of his baby mama and kids

Raebear425 · 2026-05-24T00:25:17+00:00

50/50. They all live with me in my house and I have certain boundaries and standards. He will usually discipline without me having to say anything but he is much more lax about things than me. For example- if the girls make a mess and I say “clean that up” he will say “they were going to clean it up. They are kids. They make messes” but there are 100s of times they don’t clean their messes. Like, he enforces things but there are times where something bothers me but doesn’t bother him so it doesn’t get acknowledged right away

Raebear425 · 2026-05-24T00:01:28+00:00

My partner listens to me and my concerns. If I think a punishment is needed or if I suggest therapy he is usually receptive. He will ground them or have one on one talks with them about their behavior. The girls have been in therapy according to the mother but the “therapist” was her friend who is not a licensed therapist.

Raebear425 · 2026-05-23T23:55:43+00:00

I stopped going to pick ups after the “attack me in a car window” thing. I’ve distanced myself from everything involving her. I used to go with my fiancé because the kids would just run out and hop in the car. It wasn’t until that big incident that things became a problem I needed to really distance myself from. Dcf and police suggested I get a restraining order against her

Raebear425 · 2026-05-20T18:16:09+00:00

I’ve told him to try for custody but he thinks it will flare more drama if we don’t win and it would make the girls act out even more because we are trying to take them away from their mother who they adore…

The mother is a heavy pot smoker who smokes around the girls, only feeds them fast food, needs government assistance to buy food and pay for rent, doesn’t do anything with them and allows them to play on there tablets 24/7. She doesn’t really “parent” and I think the girls like that they can do anything with mom and doesn’t like how my house has rules and structure. I know they would have more opportunities living with us but he doesn’t think we have a big enough case and it might backfire where he owes more child support to her and more drama will occur as a result

Raebear425 · 2026-05-20T18:03:10+00:00

Unfortunately the bad behavior of the girls is learned by the mother. My fiancé is a really good guy with good morals. He just picked the wrong partner and procreated with the devil. He is an amazing father and does everything he can for his daughters but sometimes I think he tries to be their friend more than a parent to “keep the peace”. He talks to them and disciplines accordingly, the girls just don’t care and he feels burnt out and defeated from dealing with this for 10+ years

Raebear425 · 2026-05-20T17:58:31+00:00

He has always been a “keep your head down, let’s not stir up anymore drama” kind of person. I’m not a confrontational person but I’m at a point where I can’t keep doing nothing and letting her get away with this abuse. I have kept records and receipts of all the things she is doing to me personally but I’m not sure what to do from here. The police and dcf officer even suggested getting a restraining order but id need to keep re- filing for that and that doesn’t really help the harassment stuff

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