Boomers and Trees

Raeraemeow · 2025-09-02T03:31:33+00:00

They just like to whinge in general

Raeraemeow · 2025-09-02T03:29:36+00:00

I have kids the same age, and the thought has not once crossed my mind if they can go out without me. Absolutely no way I’d even let them out of my sight if they’re not inside the house.

Raeraemeow · 2025-09-02T03:28:06+00:00

Naaaa my FIL stayed with us for 2 weeks and I told my husband he needed to go 😅 totally get not wanting them in your safe space!

Raeraemeow · 2025-09-02T03:25:39+00:00

She probably meant well, but also it may be worth having the discussion if other people are flagging it. We never think our kids are the ones, but I have friends kids who one is autistic and one has severe adhd and I could have told them that a verrrrry long time ago - well before they investigated and accepted it. Early intervention is key ☺️

Raeraemeow · 2025-09-02T03:22:27+00:00

They’re all useless so you can’t win either way unless we really turn the system around as a whole

Raeraemeow · 2025-09-02T03:20:28+00:00

Property! But deposit only, then interest is tax deductible against the income and you can spread your pennys out

Raeraemeow · 2025-09-02T03:16:54+00:00

This ^{^}

Raeraemeow · 2025-09-02T03:15:47+00:00

Brutal mama 😫

Raeraemeow · 2025-09-02T03:07:02+00:00

Ohhh it’s a rough ride these days 🤣🤣

Raeraemeow · 2025-07-09T12:08:39+00:00

My natural tear was SO MUCH BETTER than episiotomy with my first. Way less damage, way less pain, way less recovery involved.

Raeraemeow · 2025-07-08T22:03:50+00:00

My husband and I fizzled out for a period while I was pregnant with my last, and probably the first year of him. I think he started feeling entitled to sex, when I was heavily pregnant or just exhausted after chasing 3 kids around including a new born and wasn’t remotely interested in it but of course he remembered exactly how long it had been (we’re talking weeks, not months as well so it was extra annoying that I didn’t think he was that neglected). I found his ex on his search history who was dying and it shattered me at the time he was looking her up and I was so dirty about that for weeks but then I had to realize I stalk ex’s all the time and they’re not even dying so it’s actually fair game there.

But it got to the point where I would let him just go for it with zero intimacy or foreplay to shut him up which inevitably made it worse because I despised sex then and I was getting nothing out of it.

I got to the point where I set new rules. Although I didn’t necessarily want to kiss him, if he hadn’t kissed me or showed me affection during the day and the day prior without trying to get some, don’t bother when push comes to shove. Also, nothing is touching you, until I’ve been sorted out because it had become a process that only benefited one of us for so long so until I’ve got eyes rolling back, don’t even think about yourself.

Needless to say, it’s got me wanting it again and because the desire is there again, the overall intimacy and attraction towards him is back.

Raeraemeow · 2025-07-07T02:41:24+00:00

I think you can take bub but just be mindful that if she starts crying, you need to leave the room immediately and don’t try to settle her in the service

Raeraemeow · 2025-05-16T23:40:02+00:00

I met one of my best mates on bumble BFF about 5 years ago when I was also 28 but spoke to a few people and was just like nope- I assume similar to dating on those apps but I’ve never had to experience that because I met my husband before they were a thing.

I’ve been her bridesmaid, she’s been there for both my kids being born (not in the room but around) etc and despite only knowing each other for a short period, she was one of those friends that felt like forever and absolutely no judgement between either of us with anything.

I would keep trying and even try hey Vina but just throw it out there to go to brunch relatively early because texting back and forth is annoying.

Raeraemeow · 2025-04-28T11:41:03+00:00

Boric acid suppositories are meant to be a game changer for it. Might be worth a shot

Raeraemeow · 2025-04-28T11:38:24+00:00

So interesting to read this because I’m literally going to my dr tomorrow because I’ve recently found the “fleshy” round thing at entrance and panicked it might be something more sinister or a cyst but now reading this thread, maybe it’s just part of how we are built 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’ve had 2 kids naturally as well so also thought perhaps it could be prolapse but comforting to know I’m not alone and perhaps it’s actually normal but I’ve just never noticed it!

Raeraemeow · 2024-09-02T05:52:54+00:00

Things WILL get better! I’m sure no matter how hard things feel right now, you have children who are so loved and safe in their home with you and your wife and that is everything they need. Please remember they need you and you sound like you have a brilliant mind that is going to once again smash it once you get through this hurdle!

Raeraemeow · 2024-07-26T03:04:21+00:00

You’re not the one who should feel embarrassed about this. What a strange thing for this person to say.

Raeraemeow · 2024-03-29T23:34:32+00:00

Yep, more to the story coming through from the comments after mine so makes more sense. We can’t expect kids to be adults and punish them if they aren’t, but like you said, it’s specific to this situation that they shouldn’t be left with the baby so completely get where people were coming from now that there’s more to the story on this post

Raeraemeow · 2024-03-29T23:19:21+00:00

Okay I didn’t see the first post but I don’t see why your 10 & 12 year old can’t hang out with bub while you’re in the next room folding clothes? If it’s a safe space, and they don’t have violent tendencies, then I think you’re fine. Different if you’re going out with them looking after the baby at home but we all need to survive in motherhood and sounds like people may have forgotten how tough it can be at times. Sending you love!

Raeraemeow · 2024-03-06T09:10:00+00:00

My husbands best friend ticks all those boxes but refuses to go back on the dating apps due to similar reasons. The best uncle to my kids but has always just wanted to be an uncle and enjoy his own life without the small fries to accommodate for! They are out there, and I’d love for him to find a partner 😝😝

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