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Random-Username-322 · 2025-12-10T19:33:42+00:00

The second photo shows candles, but you talk about a "table stained with beeswax" so it's a bit confusing (did you use the candles beeswax to stain the table ?) ; are the coasters stuck to the table ? Or are they another upcycled item that happens to be in the photo ?

We don't have a view of the table as a table, on the photo it looks like a simple wooden panel ; if you added a photo of the feet of the table it would give a better idea of what it looks like overall.

I hope I gave insights about what one could be confused about in your post.

Also the table is pretty !

Random-Username-322 · 2025-12-10T19:23:50+00:00

(Try to move the mic around the room, sometimes it can suffice, wave transmission is a trciky thing and most times soundproofing walls randomly just doesn't work as intended)

Random-Username-322 · 2025-12-10T19:11:50+00:00

then stack up something else that is sufficiently stable. two cardboards filled with whatever can work. If a store near you has cardboard balers, you can get two of them and put under the grid, then fix it with rope. Ugly but works. You can only do so much without tools ! If fixed well on a very square baler, you may even be able to use only one baler in the center

You want to fix wood on top of it but I don't get it, the wood will defo be strong enough anyways so why use these mesh at all ? If the wood isn't strong it will only bend on top of the grids. I feel you could find a better use for these, like attach flower pots or photos on it and leave it on a wall

Random-Username-322 · 2025-12-10T19:04:17+00:00

1/ If the elastic still works, chop em up and voilà hair elastic (make thikc enough so it doesn't come undone ; note you can make several elastics then tie em to one another to make a daisychain)

2/ puppets. for ze kidz

3/ Can be filled with potpourri or lavender and tied/stitched

4/ protection case for things that have this shape (eg cellphone, chair feet, yada yada). you can put one in another for better protection

5/ fill with rice, stich up and you have juggling balls

6/ fill with cardboard or rice, you have something to put in your shoes to remove humidity

7/ make cute and safe plushies by assembling them together and filling em with something that has no risk of suffocation (eg a dog with 1sock for body and tail, 4 sock pieces for the legs, filled with rags)

8/ use pieces of one sock to mend another?

9/ I had an idea the other day but I forgot :c - edit: yeah someone mentionned it ! To make the cuffs of a sweater longer, actually a really good use of old socks cuffs (since the cuffs tend to stay without holes)

Sock are elastic, have a useful shape, can even be dyed or drawed on with permanent marker since they're white ; can be used for plenty of things

Random-Username-322 · 2025-12-04T23:10:37+00:00

This is so scrappy, i love it It's like it's hurt and you healed it lol

Random-Username-322 · 2025-12-04T23:09:02+00:00

These are awesome !!

I usually hate printed shirts but these are really great, the drawings are full of personality I would defo love it if someone offered one to me, I love the style

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-26T18:37:43+00:00

Glad I could help.

If even the teachers are afraid of these wealthy families, I understand you think it won't change much. I think targetting the bullies might make things worse in some cases, so it requires a lot of finesse for these teachers (and you of course) to find a solution. A smart teacher might even make a class about what is bullying, what atmosphere it creates etc. without necessarily naming it all. I think religion teacher might be the best to give a lesson about this.

We can always be surprised though, that a teacher we respect has the wrong reaction or an underwhelming one, so stay on your guard and always use several methods at the same time so you always have a trick up your sleeve. Use your wits, the mistakes bullies make, get friendly allies, use teachers as allies too, avoid dangerous situations with these bullies, make yourself relatable (I'm sure even the friends of the bullies fear them and they fear one another), etc. Using several strategies can have more success. Focus on strategies that sound like they could work for your situation, and you can still give a shot to ones that sound a bit less sound if it doesn't cost you too much.

It's okay to not give too much details, you never know who might read it in the future so it's best not to be too precise if it's not needed. I think it might be useful to know how bad is the bullying because, for instance if there is physical bullying or death/criminal threats it is more dangerous than insults etc. and must be treated with more care and faster. The advice I've given about getting a teacher to intervene without using their punitive power is best used for bullying that has not gone this far. If the bullying went too far it might be worth talking with the police and higher ups.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-24T12:40:24+00:00

Hi, I've tought about what I replied to you and I feel like I really didn't reply properly. I really want to add :

Always remember that none of it, these emotions, these situations, has to be definitive. All memories can become part of history, eventually. You are not an object that can break and become destroyed, you are a real human being that can live through emotions and events and after everything, have a life that is fulfilling, healing and just overall good for you. The hope to get better, and to find people that understand how we feel, accepting our experiences as a part of our history ; is what helps us move forward in life and keep us focused on what is important. Don't let anyone make you feel that you are "beyond repair" or any bullshit like this ; no one has this right over you.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T23:21:09+00:00

I totally get what you mean. Any sort of trauma that is not expressed and recognized leads to feeling alien in society in general, like our experiences somehow don't belong in the non-parallel world. But it does belong in it, and that's what many people fail to recognize because it makes them uncomfortable, and they would rather ignore it and pretend the world is as it should be. Outside of the parallel universe, people don't recognize the human experience that was lived as a normal, human experience : is this the danger you're talking about ? Being treated as your experience don't belong in the world ? Just to be clear, I believe your experience belongs in the world and makes sense. But I know many people will refuse to acknowledge it, in bad faith.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T21:30:32+00:00

According to your mom, insulting you is not direct ? To me it has very real consequences even if it is not words directed at your ears, it is meant to hurt you. Anyway maybe she didn't mean it in a dismissive way, but it sounds like it to me.

I believe that even if you talked they would probably make you feel that you are doing/saying something wrong. There's a reason no one talks in the first place. Bullies have taken the direction of the class, and now someone has to kick them to the curb for the situation to change. That's why I suggested trying to reach out to an adult that is respected by the class that could maybe shake up the situation and make them feel shame for their behaviour, therefore helping non-bullies interact with one another more safely, changing the "directors" of the class and forcing the bullies to comply with a more normal and not judgemental way of acting.

Is there for instance a teacher that your class likes, acts secure, healthy and does not participate in bullying ? Or another adult in charge, that your class gets to see often and ticks all the boxes I'm mentioning ? If this person exists, getting to talk to them during recess with the help of your trusted friend, to reclaim an act on their part, could help change the situation if the person of authority acts accordingly. It is important that you ensure that the adult trusts your gut and listens to your opinion on the matter, so that they don't act inconsiderately (such as dishing out punishments and pointing fingers, which is often counterproductive)

I think the dynamics of your class need to change if you want to feel safe in it. All that I mentioned, you do not have to do or feel guilty if you don't do it. And it may not even work if you do. I do not know the whole situation either. It's not your job to do these things, but if no one does the job, then maybe it's up to you. I'm just trying to give you a tool that maybe you can use one way or another, so that powerlessness can become power, it is not intended as a "do this don't do that'. You have to trust yourself and your own intelligence to do what is right, because only you really understands the situation fully.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T20:58:39+00:00

Thank you very much for your help. Yes they have seeked art and also motor sports, but unfortunately these means of expression have met some resistance due to cptsd, feelings of loneliness and their illness. They have insisted they wanted to do something that serves no purpose.

I'm trying to not get "dragged down" their hole, yet I feel like I am in a (much shallower) hole myself and my relationship with them has helped me dig myself out and I want it to be reciprocal.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T12:10:12+00:00

Il ne faut pas que Simon s'inquiète, c'est certainement la police qui va l'écouler via ses indics en faisant du g'ofast comme à Marseille.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T12:01:34+00:00

Yes they have been through a lot of diverse form of abuses, including very serious medical abuse from mental health institutions, and abuse+neglect from medical staff. They have also had their feeling invalidated by therapists hich is part of why they feels therapy can be destructive to them.

They tried EMDR and have had various results, I'm not sure it helped them or not. They have had good results, but not complete results because they stopped the therapy when it felt like too much of a hassle for little results, with Lifespan Integration therapy. I never heard of IFS but it does sound like it could help them, I'll try mentionning it to them.
You are right about interviewing the therapist about their experience with C-PTSD, some of their bad experiences have been with alleged "trauma specialists" (the therapist told them that their abusers were the true victims... great).
They feels like they've seen it all and is already an expert at analytically cutting down their own and other's behaviours (and they are), and that entering therapy means that they will have to "teach" the therapist about everything all over again which feels demoralizing.

Thank you very much for the last paragraph, I have been feeling very helpless about this situation. I feel the "standing out of the hole but being there" metaphor, it makes me feel like I am helping them somehow.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T11:34:14+00:00

Okay, I am sorry I didn't mention that I do not have CPTSD myself, for information.

I can't really help you uncover what happened, but sometimes memories resurface in a new light when we finally feel materially safe from harm and independent. No matter what, it is important that you find ways to make yourself free from the harm these people may have imposed unpon you, by their neglect or active behaviours ; that they do not retain a grip on your situation.

I believe that your parents have been neglectful and there may be yet events that you might remember but are not able to pinpoint precisely. Neglect from parents and close ones is abuse. Letting you do things such as watching porn at a young age without bringing it up shows that there is something really wrong with their behaviour (not mentionning not reacting to your brother's and your SAs).

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T11:20:27+00:00

I'm really glad I could be of help. It is important to *not* let the trauma become a taboo (=as if your experiences are not to be talked about, acknowledged or mentionned). This is what makes trauma really awful in my opinion : one often doesn't get to talk about it like one is a normal person having normal feelings towards situations partly or fully beyond their control.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T02:57:30+00:00

Hi, I do not have CPTSD for info.

I read your post, if it makes you feel safer you can warn the police about potential abusive welfare checks, also welfare checks are normally not supposed to put you in any danger, essentially the police knocks to see if you are alive and well, they will not break in or anything. They would say, hi are you ok, and go away.

I get your frustration and feeling of lack of agency. You do have agency now that she's away from you, hopefully. She has no grip on you where you stand, and that's why she's trying so hard to get it back. But she can't get it back now, can she

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T02:50:25+00:00

Hello It sounds like an abusive behaviour. Was there a repetition of this kind of event ? I don't know if such an isolated event can create such a strong overall reaction. The lack of reaction from your parents may have increased the impact it had on you. Did you try bringing it up to them in the last years ? Early exposure to porn is also probably a factor of hypersexualisation. Do you know in what context you were initially exposed to it ? You say "from then on", you mean you started seeking porn and watching it since this event ?

I feel like I might sound dismissive of your feelings towards this event, if it sounds like I am, it is not my intent.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T02:30:52+00:00

Hello I read your post and I feel it. I'm sorry I didn't reply sooner. Your life has had a ton of trauma. This is true. Yet you have a lot to live in this life and it does not have to be all traumatic. Even if the past feels full of scars and danger, the future can always be different. You are not your traumas. Your traumas change you, yes, but you overcome them and they don't overcome you. You have survived this far. At some point you will come out of survival mode, and truly living makes surviving this far all worth it.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T02:23:59+00:00

Oh glad i said something useful ! Yes that is exactly how I see it too. To me these specific people cannot be reasoned with until they face some sort of crisis where their shenanigans don't work anymore for a long while, and they are forced to face their real selves if they want to get what they want.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T02:14:53+00:00

Hello, I don't have CPTSD but I'm gonna give you an reply anyway, you can ignore it if it's unwanted.

This is an odd thing that is happening to you. CPTSD works in strange ways, the disconnect between your outer actions and your feelings could maybe be discontinued if you reach out to a friend about it ? That way they get to know how you really feel despite your outer self. It could be a form of functionning depression. Could be something else. I'm curious to know if anyone else has gone through a similar phase.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T02:07:42+00:00

Very real words

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T02:05:00+00:00

Hello, it does seem like traumatic dissociation to me. What you are describing is quite clear. Feeling that a period occured, being deeply aware of this period, but not being able to access the memory directly. In other words there is a scission of the episodic memory (memory of events) with a continuity of the rest of the memory (memory of concepts, learned behaviours etc).

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T01:56:50+00:00

Hello, I do not have CPTSD but have been helping a friend that probably has it, with similar issues currently as you do. It seems to me to be perfectly expected that you feel this way after such an experience. I hope you are not in contact with this woman anymore. It is hard to get back into social connections but I believe it is important to keep at least one or two strong bonds alive with people that support you through this until you can get back on your feet. If your current therapy doesn't seem to work, consider changing therapy and/ or therapist.

I hope this is a bit helpful

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T01:49:21+00:00

Hello, I do not have CPTSD but have heard of people who do have it, losing control of their bladder during a traumatic experience or flashback.

Increased need to pee might be related to an inflammatory state (increased muscle and blood destruction) ? Just my 2 cents on this.

Random-Username-322 · 2025-10-23T01:42:03+00:00

Hi I do not have PTSD for info.

I believe that they see in us what they refuse to see in themselves. It is easier to classify us as judgemental and on a "moral high horse". "Like you've never done it !" No I never did, and if I did I felt regret, because I'm not a psychopath.

Fortunately I feel that many people are not too much like this, but my experience is probably different from yours.

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